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Practical advice for attracting fabulous men! Welcome to Pulling Power! In an ocean of self-help romance guides and as many dating rulebooks as there are singletons, Pulling Power is about 'tools' not 'rules.' Forget the 'rules' of dating -these flirting 'tools' will move you in the right direction and knock down what's blocking your path to finding that great guy. Fun, quirky hints, thought-provoking exercises and flirting tips show you not only how to get that guy - but how to do it with style! It's no secret that men approach dating and relationships completely differently from women and while 'Pulling Power: Pick Up Tips for Girls' may not help you to understand men completely, it can give you tips and insights to help you harness your pulling power to attract the kind of men you'd love to be with! 'Pulling Power' offers a practical, down to earth approach: it's not about rules - it's about TOOLS! Topics covered include: How to have more Pulling Power than an Olympic rowing teamWho you are and what you want'Mr. Right' - or Mr. 'Alright-For-Now'Getting your sexy on - what guys likeWhere to find the best menBody Talk - make sure your body's saying what you want it toCyber Flirts - online pulling

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Publié par	Creative Content
Date de parution	12 avril 2009
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781906790332
Langue	English

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The Lifestyle Lowdown: Pulling Power – Pick Up Tips for Girls
By Sophie Regan

THE LIFESTYLE LOWDOWN: PULLING POWER – PICK UP TIPS FOR GIRLS
First published in 2009
By Creative Content Ltd, Roxburghe House, Roxburghe House, 273-287 Regent Street, London, W1B 2HA.
Copyright � 2009 Creative Content Ltd
The moral right of Alison Norrington (writing as Sophie Regan) to be identified as the author of this work has been asserted by them in accordance with the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act, 1988.
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In view of the possibility of human error by the authors, editors or publishers of the material contained herein, neither Creative Content Ltd. nor any other party involved in the preparation of this material warrants that the information contained herein is in every respect accurate or complete and they are not responsible for any errors or omissions, or for the results obtained from the use of such material.
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Cover Design by Daniel at HCT Design
ISBN 978-1-906790-33-2

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TABLE OF CONTENTS
INTRODUCTION
PART 1
Who You Are and What You Want
It’s Not You, It’s Me. Strings or No Strings. Mr. Right or Mr. Alright-For-Now.
PART 2
Game On
All Dressed Up and Nowhere To Go. Where’s Good For Me? Getting Your Sexy On. Body Talk. What’s A Nice Guy Like You...? What’s A Nice Girl Like Me Going to Say to Keep Your Attention for Five Minutes? In For the Kill. Call Me. Getting Textual.
PART 3
Cyber Pulling
Cyber Flirts. You Have a Beautiful Profile. Keep It Moving.
PART 4
Ready for Lift Off
Dos and Don’ts. Over to You.
APPENDIX: Some Useful Websites

INTRODUCTION
Welcome to Pulling Power! In an ocean of self-help ‘romance’ guides and as many dating rulebooks as there are singletons, Pulling Power is about ‘tools’ not ‘rules.’ Forget the ‘rules’ of dating –these flirting ‘tools’ will move you in the right direction and knock down what’s blocking your path to finding that great guy. We’ll cut-to-the-chase with fun, quirky hints, thought-provoking exercises and flirting tips to show you, not only how to get that guy, but how to do it with style !
So roll up your sleeves and get that twinkle in your eye. Knowing how to flirt is knowing how to communicate with everybody – from your friends, to your boss, to the cute guys you’ve set in your sights. Flirting is great fun - but you need a game plan.
It’s no secret that men approach dating and relationships completely differently from women. Most men want space and freedom - and by being fun, irresistible and vibrant when you’re with them, you help them to see that they can have that and you! I can’t help you to totally understand men, but I can show you a bit of what guys find attractive.
I’ll start by helping you to determine who you are and what you really want. You’ll be ahead of the game if you know what you’re looking for! Once you’ve established what you want – both in a man and a relationship – I’ll give you some top tips on where to find it.
I’ll be taking you right through the pulling scenario - whether you’re in a nightclub on a Saturday night, or in line for coffee on a Thursday morning. Flirting is about connecting and giving a guy positive attention. You’ll soon be able to click into ‘Game On’ mode at the flutter of an eyelash, whether you’re on the bus, at the park, at work or at the gym.
We’ll talk about developing your verbal and nonverbal skills: learning how to reel him in with conversation and when – and how - to let your body do the talking.
Then we’ll move onto cyber-pulling! I’ll give you some great suggestions for finding the perfect guy online, and how to move it ‘real world’ once you’ve found someone who takes your fancy.
Finally, we’ll round up with a list of ‘dos and don’ts.’
Pulling Power focuses on the positive - because being attractive comes from positivity.
So if the only time a guy has fallen to his knees in front of you was when he dropped his keys, get ready - because by the time we’re finished, you’re going to have more Pulling Power than an Olympic rowing team!

PART ONE - Who You Are and What You Want
It’s Not You, It’s Me !

If we’re going to do this properly, we need to go back to basics. To maximise your Pulling Power, you need to determine what you have to offer – and to do this, you must first be clear about who you are. By being comfortable with yourself , you’re inviting somebody to get to know (and possibly love) you for you, not some fake persona that will be impossible to maintain. Don’t be what you think other people want. Be brave enough to put the real you out there and be you!
Firstly, let’s work on the question: " If ‘ it’s not you, it’s me’ - then WHO AM I ?"
Sounds simple enough, doesn’t it? The key here is self-awareness – which is completely different from self- consciousness ! We may think we know who we are – but just for fun, let’s trying putting it into words.
I’d like you to start by writing a great profile for yourself. Be honest Get creative. Think of some adjectives that describe you - a little like a job resume, but without the career history! Some words that might immediately spring to mind are practical, careful, impulsive, athletic, expressive, down-to-earth, curious, stable, original, frank, independent, creative. Are you helpful, understanding, energetic, adventurous, conscientious, kind, cooperative, ambitious, persuasive, organized, efficient, friendly, responsible? This profile is going to present your most important and attractive qualities right now - but you also want to point toward your future and the person that you’re becoming.
This is a good point to break for a quick exercise, so let’s do this. Now!
Take a pen and draw a line right down the centre of a page to make 2 columns – on the left you’re going to list the ‘ positive’ adjectives that reflect who you are, and on the right the ‘ negative’ ones. This is the start of your profile and it’s your ‘ This Is Me’ list.
If you can’t get into the zone, then try considering all the roles you play in your multi-tasking life. Are you a sister, a mother, friend, lover, worker, daughter, sports-woman, teacher, manager? As women, we’re often many of these things in our daily lives.
Once you’ve determined your many roles, spend some time thinking through what you’re good at and why! If you’re still stuck for descriptive words, then go for the most obvious basic word such as ‘quiet’ - and check in a thesaurus for a more exciting alternative such as ‘contented’ or ‘peaceful’.
Go mad on this and brainstorm to write as many as you can think of. It doesn’t matter if you’re not sure about some of them – write them anyway.
Once you have a list of about ten on each side - STOP.
Now it’s time to exploit a great natural resource – your friends.
Ring three of your closest friends and ask each of them to give you two words to add to your list. You can do this right now, or you can continue reading and do it later.
Ask them to be brutally honest. Pulling Power is about positivity and you’re going to flip any negative words into positive ones later on anyway, so tell them to feel free to shoot from the hip and tell it like it is.
Alternatively, you could turn it into a fun Girls Night In. Once you’ve enjoyed some nibbles and a few giggles, you can casually say, ‘Hey, I’m trying to come up with a list of my best qualities – how about each of you writing down two and putting them into this hat? We can pull them out afterwards and see what we think!’ You might find that you get more honest responses if they can volunteer their suggestions anonymously - and they might ask you to return the favor too!
Add their adjectives to your list.
It might be nice to get some male input, so ask your dad, brother, or a close male friend to provide a couple of adjectives.
Once you’ve compiled your list, go through it and circle your top five positive traits.
And now your worst three.
Now go back to the thesaurus and find an alternative, positive word to use in place of those negative adjectives.
Turning negatives into positives is all about points of view. One woman’s ‘shy’ is another’s ‘composed’ or ‘reserved.’ A bossy girl can also be seen as ‘assertive’ and while your ‘impulsiveness’ might be a negative trait according to your friend, that hunk who lives a few streets away might love your ‘spontaneity’!
Of course you’re not going to create a ‘warts and all’ profile for yourself. You’re simply amplifying and enhancing the best bits. This is all about self-esteem and it begins and ends with a positive perception of yourself – this is key in getting a great guy in the first place and will help prevent you from settling for someone who isn’t suitable, or who treats you badly.
Strings? Or No Strings?
Quality guys are everywhere - working in offices and on construction sites, working out in leisure centers, amping up in coffee shops, improving themselves in schools, socialising in clubs and at sporting events.
So with all this quality right on your doorstep, you now need to ask yourself the question, ‘What kind of relationship and what kind of guy am I looking for right now ?’
You’ve been holding up a mirror to your personality and seeing WHO you are, so now start thinking about what you want . Many a relationship has crashed and burned because a woman’s head and her heart aren’t looking for the same thing.