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Are you feeling exasperated and helpless about your family member's addiction? Are you at your wit's end, having tried everything you can think of to make them stop?

If someone you love is engaging in addictive behaviors such as alcohol and drug misuse, eating disorders, smoking, gambling, Internet addiction, sex addiction, compulsive overspending, or relationship addiction, you are undoubtedly experiencing unpredictability in your relationship.

Some of the most common emotions you will experience include:
- Guilt and shame
- Anger and anxiety
- Confusion and powerlessness

Whether the addict in your life is your spouse, partner, parent, child, friend, or colleague, the key to changing this reality for yourself lies in shifting your focus from your loved one's addiction to you own self-care. This book presents a dramatically fresh approach to help you get off the roller-coaster chaos of addiction, maintain your own sanity and serenity, and live your best life.

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Vie de famille

Relations familiales

Mental Health

Sociologie, société et politique

Psychology

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Publié par	eBookIt.com
Date de parution	27 octobre 2016
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9780981385082
Langue	English

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Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself

The Top 10 Survival Tips
for Loving Someone with an Addiction

“Money is inextricably linked to every aspect of a person’s life. As financial planners, we have the privilege of getting to know our clients at a very personal level. It is amazing how many people encounter addiction either in their workplace or in their families. We keep Candace’s book in our front lobby and in our lending library. These copies regularly disappear. And I know why. Candace Plattor has a gift for summarizing difficult, sometimes complex truths in an easy to read, palatable format. You can tell she knows what she is talking about and has the experience to back it. If you or a family member is curious about whether addiction is an issue, I would highly recommend picking up this book. Just don’t ask us for it, because it has probably gone missing!”
TRACY THEEMES, MA, CFP, FMA, FCSI
Financial Advisor, Sophia Financial Group,
Raymond James Ltd, www.sophiafinancial.ca

“Hi Candace, I want to tell you how much I’ve enjoyed your book—I think I should buy a case of them to hand out to all of our family! I have been at two family workshops, where I have learned a lot as well, and my daughter has been to treatment for substance abuse. It has been quite a journey to come to understand what my job is now as a mother. I just felt so compelled to email you and tell you that you wrote an awesome book—and I will continue to share what I’m learning from it with others... thanks again!”
~ GM

“Candace’s ability to name the presence of addictive behaviours—regardless of who the addicts are in relationship with—was tremendously significant and freeing for me, both on a personal level and in my professional life as a therapist. She identifies clearly who is responsible for what, from the perspective of both the addict and the family member, and takes away the crippling effects of blame. Her book has helped me tremendously and I recommend it highly to my clients.”
~ HEATHER DICKSON, MA
Therapist in Private Practice

“ Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself is such a straightforward approach to dealing with an addiction situation with a loved one or ourselves. One of Candace’s favorite sayings in the book is that “If nothing changes, nothing changes”. The book is about our desire to change our lives from where we have drifted into the paralysis of addictive and/or codependent behaviors, to be able to take active steps of self-realization and self-care. Candace gives us the 10 most important survival tips on ‘how to’ get from here to there in this easy to read guide. Reading it was an epiphany for me—I understand now that one can choose to change from ‘drift’ to ‘direction’ and survive as a stronger and more loving person. I give away new copies to friends and family because my book stays by my bedside to be read and reread.”
~ KATHRYN FRIESEN, MSc

“Candace Plattor’s work has effected a powerful positive change in my life. Loving An Addict, Loving Yourself was my crucial first step in breaking free from the pain of an addictive relationship. This little blue book is so wise and wonderful. It was instrumental in creating the joyful life I’m now living. Thank you Candace!”
~ ALEXANDRA

“I just finished reading the two forewords and your acknowledgement in your book and I was deeply moved by all that I read. In fact it even brought tears to my eyes. Inspirational tears...

I’m so grateful to have you as my therapist at this stage in my life. For without you, I can’t even begin to imagine what my life would be like because you have taught me so much about myself and helped me to start growing up. And I have grown in ways I’ve yearned to grow, and I couldn’t have done it without you. Thank you for your book, what a treasure it is!”
~ KT

“I want you to know that I have read your book and find it really well-organized, practical and easy to understand for the lay person… from what I have read so far, you have made an outstanding contribution to the world of helping with addictions.”
~ DC

“I wanted to let you know how much I have enjoyed your book. I will definitely buy another copy to lend to others (or better still, to show them and then have them make a note to buy their own). My signed copy will be staying on my shelf.

I found it very easy to read and a sensible approach for so many of us stuck in our “trying to fix or support” role. I believe when someone is caught in the enabling role of a loved one, they can be helped by a sensible, clear approach. I like yours.

I also like your quotes. And personal stories....”
~ KARLEEN NEVERY, RPC CGA,
Therapist in Private Practice

“I read your book Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself: The Top 10 Survival Tips for Loving Someone with an Addiction from start to finish the very first night I got it. I couldn’t put it down because I kept wanting to know about the next survival tip! It was a very positive read and it left me feeling relieved. I still read part of your book each night to keep my spirit uplifted. I especially like the case studies because they give me a sense of how to go about working on my relationship in a healthy way, rather than continuing the patterns I got used to. I especially like how each case study ends off with a positive outcome for the loved one of the addicted person. Thank you for your help.”
~ MC

“As I read this book, I gradually became convinced that the key to my wellbeing was Self-Care. I am happy to say that as I started to recognize and take care of my own needs, life with the addict I love improved. But even if it hadn’t, I would have been happier, healthier, and more at peace. Candace is a champion for this process, and she is living proof that it works.
~ SK

I love this book; it’s smart, it’s current and relevant, and it’s chock-full of practical information. Candace’s wisdom and experience shine through. I often read passages out to my groups and I recommend it to loved ones of those struggling with addiction. It definitely filled a gap in reference material in this field.”
~ FIONA JEYACHANDRAN, ALCOHOL & DRUG COUNSELLOR

Loving an Addict,

Loving Yourself

The Top 10 Survival Tips
for Loving Someone with an Addiction
Candace Plattor, M.A.

Revised Edition

Copyright © 2015 by Candace Plattor

All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted, in any form or by any means, without the prior written consent of the publisher.

Plattor, Candace, 1950-
Loving an addict, loving yourself : the top 10 survival tips for loving someone with an addiction / Candace Plattor.

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ISBN-13: 978-0-9813850-8-2

1. Addicts--Family relationships. 2. Substance abuse--Patients--Family relationships. 3. Self-help techniques. 4. Self-care, Health. 5. Interpersonal confrontation. I. Title.
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Editing by Arlene Prunkl; Cover and content design by Bobbie Cann
Dedication
I dedicate this book to my dear sisters Jose and Melanie. You tirelessly read and re-read my manuscript as I wrote it, line by line, chapter by chapter, giving me incredibly useful feedback, suggestions, and loving encouragement. I could not have done this without your help, and I certainly would not have had as much fun without you.

Foreword
FOREWORD BY CAROLINE SUTHERLAND
Addiction is something with which I have had no personal experience in my adult life. I have not been an alcoholic, a drug addict, or an over-spender, but in my youth I was an over-eater. I would go on stringent diets to lose a few pounds, but at the end of the week because I had starved myself for days, I would eat a whole pie!

My heart goes out to anyone who has a major addiction.And to those who have had the courage to set an addiction aside I say, “Bravo!”

An addiction is something that has a hold over us, something that is difficult to set aside, and something that we are powerless to stop— unless we are given some tools and encouragement. As a nutritional counselor and health educator, I see plenty of people with food addictions—mainly to sugar as their drug of choice.

The addiction to sugar on a higher level really represents sweetness in life. If we can find the truly wonderful things that life has to offer and immerse ourselves in these pursuits, we will be brimming with
happiness and there will be no need for the excessive sugar in desserts, candy, alcohol, and other sweets.

Life is all “done with mirrors.” What we crave on the inside we fill ourselves with on the outside.

Addictions are very powerful, and they take us off the track we really belong on. But having the courage to face an addiction, to stare it down, and to overcome it, can lead us to liberation and bring us to our higher purpose.

Candace Plattor, author of Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself:The Top 10 Survival Tips for Loving Someone with an Addiction, has done just that.

I first met Candace through one of my clients over a year ago. We arranged a meeting to discuss ways to improve Candace’s health and her energy. Even though for years she had been a great advocate for health and nutrition, I was instantly captivated by Candace’s enthusiasm and her dedication to following my suggestions. As a result, her health has improved immensely and she has learned a completely new way of understanding her body and its needs.

In order to overcome an addiction and have the clarity we need to make positive life choices and evaluate situations that could be potentially harmful for us, we need a strong, healthy body and a clear mind. C