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C.P.R. REMOVES THE “NO CRY ZONE”
FROM CHOICE DECISIONS.
Here are some things you will learn about your voluntary pregnancy termination (“vpt”):
Why is “vpt” a grief situation?
What is disenfranchised grief?
How can I share my “deep dark secret” in safety?
How to identify emotions that relate to a choice decision.
How do I tell my story safely?
How to resolve special situations like cases of rape or adverse pregnancy diagnosis.
How to process multiple choice decisions.
“Bravo! I’ve long known about the need for grieving vpt.”
Dr. Christiane Northrup, M.D.
Author of “Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom”
http://www.missingpieces.org

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Women's Studies

Social Science

Sociologie, société et politique

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Publié par	Outskirts Press
Date de parution	18 novembre 2014
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781478749158
Langue	English

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Jesse Lynn, the missing piece to my heart

To the disenfranchised voices of “vpt”

The opinions expressed in this manuscript are solely the opinions of the author and do not represent the opinions or thoughts of the publisher. The author has represented and warranted full ownership and/or legal right to publish all the materials in this book.

C.P.R.
Choice Processing and Resolution
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Copyright © 2010 Trudy M. Johnson
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Acknowledgements
To my faithful friend and editor, Barb

To the constant inspirations of my life,
my two sons, Jobie and Jerret

To my soul mate and encourager, my husband, Lonney

THE HARDEST PART OF THE JOURNEY OF 1,000 MILES IS THE FIRST BRAVE STEP.
What Others Are Saying:
“Trudy helped me through a difficult time in my life. The compassion she has for the “vpt” woman is evident. This resource has calmed the storm in my soul. I am so grateful she had the courage to broach this subject.”
“Jill” “vpt” woman, Colorado

“Finally! I am so grateful for “CPR.” It is so nice to know that I am not crazy! It was hard to look at my “vpt” but once I did with the help of this book, I am in a whole new place with my life.”
Liz “vpt” woman, California

“This is the book I wish I would have found ten years ago. Finally! I’ve found a common sense way to process my past abortion. This resource was very helpful for me to get to the bottomline and work through to a better place with my “vpt.”
Mary “vpt” woman, Texas

“CPR” is a wonderful combination of compassion and professionalism that speaks to the “vpt” woman in no other way. I am so grateful for this resource that I will be giving out to my future clients.”
Terrie Lenzini, LPC, Colorado

“I have one girl I’m working with who stopped counting at five “vpt” decisions. She is having a hard time processing anything. Wow, I loaned her the “ CPR ” book. I believe she is starting to feel again. Thank you!
Robin P., RN, Indiana
( STARS Leader)

“Trudy, Bravo! I’ve long known about the need for grieving voluntary pregnancy termination. I’ve also written about this, but you’ve taken the subject to a whole new level. I’ll be featuring C.P.R.~ Choice Processing and Resolution as a resource in my new revised book, Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom. ”
Dr. Christiane Northrup, M.D. F.A.C.O.G.
Table of Contents
Notes to the Reader
For Women, Men, Parents and Friends
Why This Book is Different
Chapter One:
An Introduction to C.P.R.
Why Do I Call “it” “vpt”?
Understanding the Importance of Safety
Understanding “who we are”-Demographics of the “vpt” woman
Chapter Two:
“Go Home and Get Over It”~ My Story of Disenfranchised Grief
Chapter Three:
“Vpt” and Grief - It’s Disenfranchised
Before We Begin
What’s the Big Deal?
Identifying Core Grief Issues
Chapter Four:
I Second that Emotion
Special Cases: “vpt”
Identifying Emotions: Before/During/After
Chapter Five:
Beginning to Tell My Story
Chapter Six:
Your Story ~ Journaling
Journaling Exercises: Journey to Freedom
Chapter Seven:
Resolution
Summary:
Community and Belonging
Support Groups
Notes to the Reader
For Women, Men, Parents and Friends

If you’ve picked up this book, it’s either because you, your partner, your wife, your daughter, your sibling, your friend, or someone else close to you have a choice decision in their past they need to resolve because they are experiencing grief and sadness. Your motivation may be out of curiosity to learn what others may have experienced because of a past choice decision. You may be seeking information on how to help someone near and dear to you who is suffering depression because of a voluntary pregnancy termination. You may have helped someone make the decision. You may have kept quiet and not entered into the choice- making process at all. Maybe you, like so many others need your own personal resolution to this issue. Even though this writing speaks directly to the woman who made the choice, this book also provides helpful information for those standing on the sidelines as well.

Why is this book different?

This is the only book available in the history of choice that addresses only the grief component of choice decisions. It is a non-judgmental presentation for all faiths and cultures. C.P.R. ~ Choice Processing and Resolution is literally a “first aid kit” that helps process and resolve your voluntary pregnancy termination in a compassionate, safe atmosphere. Tears are allowed. Judgment and condemnation are not .

Do You Need to Talk?

Evidence shows that only about one in ten women have ever shared their abortion secret with another person. No one talks about their deep dark secret because of fear of receiving condemnation or invalidation.

Trudy offers her time to you as a safe place to share your voluntary pregnancy termination story and receive help from a compassionate, professional source.

You may go to the Web site, www.missingpieces.org and choose eTherapi or Skype in the navigation bar to request your hippa-compliant video call appointment with Trudy.

Calls from women, men, family members, friends and professional therapists needing guidance with clients are welcomed. All credit cards accepted for appointments.
YOU NEVER HAVE TO FEEL ALONE IN THIS JOURNEY

JOIN OUR COMMUNITY

FACEBOOK:

C.P.R.~Choice Processing and Resolution has a Facebook page at this address: https://www.facebook.com/dealingwithgriefafterabortion

Receive encouragement or private message Trudy from this page.

READ TRUDY’S BLOG AND ARTICLES:
Trudy Johnson is the “expert on grief after abortion” on the Your Tango.com Web site.

Read Trudy’s blog and articles on the Your Tango.com Web site here: http://www.yourtango.com/experts/trudyjohnson

You can also send Trudy a private message from her Your Tango.com page.

EMAIL TRUDY:
You may send Trudy a confidential note or your personal story to missingpiecesorg@gmail.com
No abusive or political statements please
Every choice, every decision has its own unique set of circumstances. The life situations we were in were so varied. But our commonality is the same.

For so many women, it is hard for them to connect themselves to the “A-word” for fear of condemnation or because of shame.

Just as a voluntary pregnancy termination shouldn’t be available only from a backroom entrance, processing and resolving that choice shouldn’t have to be done in secret for fear of disclosure not being a safe place or of minimizing, condemnation or shaming confrontation.
1
An Introduction to C.P.R.

It is no accident you are reading this book. You may have taken many roads in your life. Now you’re at an intersection. This book brings you answers to help you care for a deep place in your heart that might be painful and confusing for you. Pain is a universal language that needs no interpreter. It doesn’t matter your race, your religion, or your geographic location, pain is now the common bond you hold with other women who feel a need to re-visit a time and place from their past.
There is one thing you need to know: “You are not alone.” There are many, many others who relate to your heart’s cry. My journey started where you are right now. Others’ journeys are starting this same day in the same way your journey is beginning this very moment. We are women who are “keepers of the secret” and we all need a safe place to cry. You need to know you are not alone. I myself have “been there” just as countless other women all across the world.
Voluntary pregnancy termination is not anything we set out to do as a “goal” per se . It was never any of our basic desires to have to choose . Just like we were all on different roads and now we are here at this intersection, so are the choices we’ve made. Every choice, every decision has its own unique set of circumstances. The life situations we were in were so varied. But our commonality is the same.
There were other choices we could have made. Single-parenting, “having to get married,” adoption or in the case of a tough medical outcome…none of the options available provided perfect answers. For many of us perfection was demanded from us, either by ourselves or by others. Choices, decisions are hard. There is never any easy answer.
Every single one of the roads we could have chosen involve loss and grief. The only difference in “our choice” and the other choices we could/would/should have made is that the “other choices” have external results. All of the other choices available to us had elements of connection to them. Single-parenting, marriage, adoption…there is some component of human attachment and/or bonding to them. In voluntary termination, we take the solitary road.
We take the road alone and for most of us we are unable to talk to anyone about it. The world in general, others, and even we “assume” we are fine. And well we may be. In voluntary termination, there is no evidence of a baby…there is no “missing person” in our lives and the father may already be out of the picture. We get up and go on with our lives… without relationship. We are in one sense relieved to “get on with the business of living” and we file our decision away as anything from “barely a blip on the radar