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Most workplace problems are caused by over-exposure to real/imagined threat. This activates the 'threat brain'. When combined with our 'drive brain', we fall into destructive loops of compulsive behaviour. This book explains the Trimotive Brain and shows how to identify these emotions and regulate them by being more aware of unconscious motivation.

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Sociologie, société et politique

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Publié par	Distributed By PublishDrive
Date de parution	02 janvier 2018
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781911193326
Langue	English
Poids de l'ouvrage	1 Mo

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Published in this First Edition in 2018 by:
Triarchy Press
Axminster, England
info@triarchypress.net
www.triarchypress.net
Copyright © Nelisha Wickremasinghe, 2018
The right of Nelisha Wickremasinghe to be identified as the author of this work has been asserted by her in accordance with the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act, 1988.
No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means including photocopying, electronic, mechanical, recording or otherwise, without the publisher’s prior written permission.
All rights reserved
Permission to reproduce the image on page 45 is gratefully acknowledged.
A catalogue record is available from the British Library.
ISBNs:
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978-1-911193-34-0

ePub:
978-1-911193-32-6

pdf:
978-1-911193-33-3

Printed by TJ International, Padstow, Cornwall.
For Saul and Jude
Early reviews of the book
There is increasing recognition that how we perceive and deal with threat has a big impact on many of our relationships including work and organisational ones. This well written and fascinating book brings together many different ideas from neuroscience through to psychotherapy to explore ways we can deal with threat, learn to generate compassion for self and others and be more effective and supportive in our work and everyday social relationships. A benefit to all.
Prof Paul Gilbert OBE, author of Compassionate Mind and Mindful Compassion
At work and home, we believe we are reasonable, 21 st -century adults. But this highly readable and relevant book has opened my eyes and deepened my understanding of a parallel reality. Our nervous system and vital parts of our brain tell us it’s a jungle out there and we are under threat. If we can recognize, understand and manage these embodied ‘messages’, the implications for ourselves, our families and friends as well as the organizations we work in - are simply enormous.
Jim Cookson, Director Client Solutions Ashridge/Hult International Business School
Regulating our motivational system by paying more attention to and nurturing our safe brain is, I believe, at the cutting edge of leadership learning and practice. I have run leadership development programmes based on Dr Wickremasinghe’s work for over four years, deeply immersing our leaders and managers in these practices. Participants have been inspired and energised to lead more courageously and act as catalysts for change within organisations. It is very timely to see this work appearing in print.
Tom Jones, VP, Rolls-Royce
Take your time while reading this book. It brings discoveries about human nature that need to sink in. More importantly, it gives you hope, courage and curiosity to embark on a journey of compassionate selfdiscovery. The Trimotive Brain is like a three-headed fantastic beast whose heads need to agree on the direction and then the beast can fly!”
Mike Houghton, Programme Director, Amec Foster Wheeler
In these complex times so-called ‘wicked’ problems are the norm. In order to come up with creative and innovative solutions leaders must ensure their people speak openly, challenge each other, take risks and experiment. This requires them to be free of fear. This timely and insightful book offers a compelling case for promoting psychological safety in organisations so people can do good work and flourish.
Mike Brent, author of The Leader’s Guide to Influence
I believe trust is at the heart of great leadership and that understanding what is really driving our behaviour is fundamental to creating the environment where excellent teamwork and transformation can take place. Over the last five years I have worked with Dr Wickremasinghe, developing our high potential future leaders to embrace the challenge of leading global teams within a complex business. I am delighted that her insights will now reach a wider audience through this book.
Christoph Debus, Chief Airlines Officer, Thomas Cook Group
Dr Wickremasinghe’s translation of the neuroscience of motivation through the Trimotive Brain concept has resonated with Fujitsu’s global leaders and helped develop a deeper understanding of our behaviours and relationships at work. In the leadership development programmes we run, high-achieving participants quickly recognise their own threat-drive brain loops and appreciate the importance of managing their inner critic and developing self-compassion. I am convinced this kind of learning and understanding is fundamental in helping organisations to unlock the potential of their people.
Ian Parkes, VP, Global Talent & Leadership Development, Fujitsu
Leaders are focused on today’s results and tomorrow’s plans. Seldom do we consider the importance of reflecting on past experience and how it informs current responses. Beyond Threat is an incredible distillation of Dr Wickremasinghe’s many years’ research and practice and shows how the power of reflection and noticing allows us to understand and overcome the threat loops which inhibit our ability to lead. Her detailed use of real world examples allows leaders to draw practical insights from many disciplines so we can gain a deeper understanding of why we do what we do and how to become more conscious and effective leaders.
Chad Dreas, Managing Director, Media Analytics, Nielsen
List of Figures and Tables
Fig 1: The three motivation systems of our Trimotive Brain
Fig 2: The basic threat brain emotions
Fig 3: The basic safe brain emotions
Fig 4: The basic drive brain emotions
Fig 5: Healthy Drive and Toxic Drive
Fig 6: The impact of neglect on the human brain
Table 1: Brain science and developmental psychology
Fig 7: The emergent unconscious
Fig 8: Discovering core beliefs – Vertical descent inquiry
Fig 9: Ronnie’s family constellation
Some of these images can also be seen at www.bit.ly/Trimotive01
Contents
Foreword
Introduction
PART ONE: HOW HAS IT COME TO BE THIS WAY?
Chapter One: Our Emotional Brain
Chapter Two: The Significance of Childhood Experience
Chapter Three: Memory – The Orchestrator of Self and Identity
PART TWO: WHAT ELSE IS POSSIBLE?
Chapter Four: Bundles of Habit
Chapter Five: Warming up Awareness
Chapter Six: Waiting – doing a little, often
PART THREE: PANNING FOR GOLD
Chapter Seven: Maggie – Moving Against
Chapter Eight: Carl – Moving Away
Chapter Nine: Ronnie – Moving Towards
Epilogue: Moving On
The acceptance of oneself is the essence of the whole moral problem and the epitome of a whole outlook on life. That I feed the hungry, that I forgive an insult, that I love my enemy… these are undoubtedly great virtues. But what if I should discover that the least among them all, the poorest of all the beggars, the most impudent of all the offenders, the very enemy himself -- that these are within me, and that I myself stand in need of the alms of my own kindness -- that I myself am the enemy who must be loved -- what then?
C.G. Jung, Memories, Dreams, Reflections
Foreword
Looking for answers
In the summer of my first year at university I enrolled, for reasons mysterious to me now, in an Artificial Intelligence class where we were supposed to teach machines to solve our problems. Our first task was based on the famous ELIZA therapist program that processed a patient’s symptoms using standardised language scripts and offered, in return, a ‘diagnosis’ or intervention. This was in the years before we became glued to screens or talked to our computers and before we became used to relating to each other in the abrupt text that mediates many of our relationships now. So back then I was dismayed. I did not understand or want to be part of a profession that ‘fixed’ human problems as if they were machines with technical faults.
In my program the problems were never fixed. When my patient typed in “I feel depressed” I was not inspired to create a list of multiple choice questions to diagnose the cause or determine the remedy. So I made my Eliza end all her consultations with, “I suggest you talk to someone about that” . I didn’t do very well in the assignment, although I did meet Colin, a long-haired computer scientist, who showed me how electronic mail worked and we whiled away the summer staring at bulky monitors and pinging each other messages. We didn’t know or imagine, as we chatted through our machines, just how much our lives were about to change as a result.
My second memorable experience that year was a lunchtime viewing of One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest . In the film, Jack Nicholson plays a criminal seeking escape from a hard labour camp through transfer to a mental institution. Although he thinks life on the ward will be a soft option he is soon subject to the humiliating and, at times, inhumane social and medical regimes of the asylum. The most difficult part was watching the medical treatment of distressed patients which included the administration of electric shocks, large doses of mind-numbing drugs and, in the final scenes, a lobotomy.
These experiences did not put me off my hoped-for career; if anything, they propelled me further along the path. I wanted to be a psychologist to understand how to be understood. More than that: to find out whether it was possible to be known and accepted for who I am. That yearning was so strong in me that I imagined it must exist in other people too. The less we are understood and accepted, I observed, the more likely it is that we will have problems. My father used to say to me, “when you grow up and have lots of problems come and tell me” . He wrote this in the bottom of my birthday cards until I was six years old. It worried me that he believed problems were inevitable, and later it grieved me that he was not available to fulfil his advisory role.
These days it’s not so fashionable to talk about problems. Not since positive psychologists told us about the benefits of joy, gratitude, serenity, hope, love and awe. Yet problems keep appe