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Psychology

Sociologie, société et politique

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Publié par	New Harbinger Publications
Date de parution	01 janvier 0001
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781608825400
Langue	English

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This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.
Distributed in Canada by Raincoast Books
Copyright © 2007 by David Skibbins
New Harbinger Publications, Inc.
5674 Shattuck Avenue
Oakland, CA 94609
www.newharbinger.com
Cover design by Amy Shoup
Cover image by Spots Illustration/Jupiter Images
Text design by Michele Waters-Kermes
Acquired by Tesilya Hanauer
Edited by Amy Johnson
All Rights Reserved
epub ISBN: 9781608825400
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Skibbins, David, 1947-
Becoming a life coach : a complete workbook for therapists / David Skibbins.
p. cm.
ISBN-13: 978-1-57224-500-6
ISBN-10: 1-57224-500-X (Paperback)
1. Personal coaching. 2. Psychotherapists. I. Title.
BF637.P36S55 2007
158’.3--dc22
2007018500
This book is dedicated to Plato. Despite his aristocratic bias, he was the first to demonstrate the power of coactive coaching. In his dialogue Meno , he showed his students how a completely uneducated slave boy could be brought to understand the Pythagorean theorem—that era’s equivalent to the modern theory of relativity. His questions accessed the natural intelligence and creativity inherent in all humans. For this, he is the great-great-grandfather of coaches everywhere.
Contents
Foreword
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Chapter One
Embarking on the Journey
Chapter Two
The Basic Skills of Coaching
Chapter Three
Adapting the Tools You Already Have
Chapter Four
Differences Between Therapy & Coaching
Chapter Five
Unlearning What We Know
Chapter Six
What a Coaching Session Sounds Like
Chapter Seven
What an Intake Session Sounds Like
Chapter Eight
Sample Sessions That Sparkle
Chapter Nine
Coaching Yourself
Chapter Ten
Legal, Administrative, & Ethical Issues
Chapter Eleven
Establishing a Marketing Plan
Chapter Twelve
Ongoing Marketing & Promotion
Chapter Thirteen
Keep Your Eyes on the Prize!
References
Foreword
When I was introduced to life coaching ten years ago, I had a thriving practice as a psychologist and business consultant. Coaching was a natural addition to my array of services, but at the time there was no manual available for therapists who wanted to become coaches. I had to figure it out as I went along. Now, thanks to David Skibbins, there is this delightfully informative manual to help therapists explore the possibilities. If you are considering adding life coaching to your professional services, Becoming a Life Coach is a worthwhile investment. Even if, as a therapist, you are simply curious about the profession of life coaching, you’ll find this book useful.
For starters, David has succeeded in writing a book that clearly and thoroughly makes distinctions between coaching and therapy. He outlines the differences in assumptions, goals, and skills in very practical and straightforward language—and with a sense of humor, too! It’s a breath of fresh air to have this clarity in writing. The matter-of-fact framework David provides forms the intellectual foundation every therapist needs to understand in order to succeed at life coaching.
In addition to teaching you about the profession of life coaching in general, this book will give you a good feel for the coaching process. David’s concrete examples, case studies, and exercises illustrate what skills are necessary to be a successful coach and what skills you’ll easily be able to transfer to coaching from therapy, as well as the obstacles therapists typically face when they become coaches. The most valuable information, though, comes from completing the exercises in each chapter, which will help you explore your skills, values, and strengths; set goals; and lay out action plans. You’ll also be able to pinpoint areas that need work for you to become successful as a coach. In essence, the exercises let you try on coaching like you would a new outfit—without having to buy a whole new wardrobe. As an added bonus, you’ll be able to use many of these same exercises with your coaching clients.
Finally, Becoming a Life Coach explains the ins and outs of developing and running a successful coaching business. David provides practical tools and sensible business advice that will help you discern whether or not life coaching is for you. He also includes a thoughtful, informative discussion of ethical guidelines for life coaching.
So get ready to find out if coaching is a good match for you personally and professionally. Roll up your sleeves, sharpen your pencils, get to work, and have fun! Expect to be delighted and frustrated, pleased and confused, eager and resistant, challenged and empowered—it’s all part of the process of becoming a life coach.
—Mary E. Olk, Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist Certified Professional Coactive Coach Professional Credentialed Coach
Acknowledgments
My personal editor, Laura Kennedy, is a genius. Were it not for her patient guidance, my near-illiteracy would be apparent to the world. The proofreaders and editors at New Harbinger Publications have stewarded this book to the polished form it is today. A special thanks goes to Tesilya Hanauer at New Harbinger, who came up with the idea for this book and asked me to cocreate it with her.
The founders of the Coaches Training Institute also deserve special mention: Laura Whitworth, Henry Kimsey-House, and Karen Kimsey-House developed the core ideas of coactive coaching and created this preeminent worldwide coaching training facility. They are brilliant.
Finally, I acknowledge my partners at MyFullPractice.com: Meade Dickerson was instrumental in creating Success Coach 100, and my wife, Marla Skibbins, is my greatest support. Without her unconditional love and aliveness I would never have discovered this amazing profession. She is, always, my greatest inspiration.
Introduction
Why I Wrote This Book
Sooner or later the ferocious dragon named Burnout rears up in front of every therapist. It took twenty years for it to happen to me, but I finally began to get tired of listening to stories of human suffering. When I discovered the profession of life coaching I thought all my prayers were answered and my career problems were over—I could use my extensive clinical experience to help mentally healthy people achieve their goals. All that and no insurance forms to fill out. Nirvana!
I soon found it wasn’t that easy. Although there were definitely times when my psychotherapeutic experience came in handy, there were plenty of other times when it actually got in the way of masterful coaching. In addition to that, the whole process of marketing and promoting a successful career as a coach was remarkably different from building a therapy practice. I had to start from scratch.
Ten years ago, there weren’t many therapists making the switch to coaching. Heck, there weren’t many coaches, period! It was a very new field. I wish I’d had a mentor to help me through the pitfalls of my transition. Instead, I myself soon became the expert for other therapists who wanted to succeed as coaches. It was definitely a time of the blind leading the blind.
Many of us made it. But many more decided that coaching wasn’t their cup of tea—or worse, loved it but couldn’t make a financial go of it. This latter group—fans of coaching who couldn’t find coaching clients—inspired my partners and me to start MyFullPractice.com, a Web-based training and resource center for coaches needing marketing skills. This book rose directly out of that enterprise—it’s my way of mentoring you toward success as a coach. I hope this book will help you to avoid the many mistakes that I made on the journey. But more than that, I hope it will inspire you to join me in the most exciting profession on earth: life coaching.
The History of the Coaching Profession
The roots of coaching stretch all the way back to the pedagogical approach Plato took in his Meno dialogue to instruct a slave boy in geometry. Its psychological roots stem from Adler’s orientation as a personal educator and Jung’s encouragement of clients to do life reviews. Maslow’s hierarchy of needs resonates with coaching’s focus on core values while Rogers’ therapeutic alliance resonates with coaching’s designed alliance. However, despite these similarities, the profession of coaching as we know it evolved more from the business world than from the psychological one.
In the business world three separate streams converged to create the profession of coaching: changes in corporations’ focus on training, mentoring, and staff development; the application of sports coaching to non-sports life activities; and the pioneering work of Thomas Leonard and Laura Whitworth.
As Lynn Grodzki and Wendy Allen point out in their book The Business and Practice of Coaching (2005), coaching emerged out of the twenty-year corporate sea change beginning in the ’80s. By the end of the ’90s corporations no longer envisioned themselves as traditional, stable institutions with long-term employees, formal and informal mentoring networks, and extensive in-house human resource training and development programs. Corporate focus was now multinational; employees and even managers were seen as transitory and manufacturing and service industries began migrating offshore; “outsourcing” became the buzzword.
This cost-cutting strategy created a vacuum within corporations in the areas of leadership training, management skills development, and human resource support. The separate field of executive coaching evolved to address these needs. Many of these executive coaches came from the consultin