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What can you learn in an hour? How to find the most effective parenting style. How to save your marriage from 'a creeping separateness'. How to make time for your family. How to discover the magic of traditions. How to get your family through the tough times,enough to transform your relationships forever. This latest book in Rob Parsons' best-selling Sixty-Minute series offers 10 life lessons for a strong family life, drawn from Rob's own experience and from his encounters with people around the world. Combining practical wisdom and accessible advice with a wide range of case studies - and an engaging style - the book addresses 10 key areas, including making time for each other, taking time to talk, encouragement, parenting styles, handling conflict, the magic of traditions, appreciating the extended family and seizing the moment.

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Publié par	Lion Hudson
Date de parution	10 juin 2011
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9780745958040
Langue	English

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What they said about The Sixty Minute Family :

This is no ordinary self-help manual. Elegantly and compellingly written, with both sensitivity and humour, it offers an insight into the everyday challenges experienced by real-life families and of how they can be overcome.
Ned Temko, The Observer
With wit and insight Rob Parsons gets to the heart of what makes families work - time, attention and encouragement too many families are destroyed by parents simply not making their children and their partners their main priority. Parsons shows you how to do so, by listening, communicating, and having fun. Reading this may be the best 60 minutes you will ever spend.
Suzie Hayman, BBC radio agony aunt and author of Teach Yourself Parenting Your Teenager
I would recommend this book to anyone, whatever their family circumstance, as it s a book of encouragement and a challenge to look beyond our own experience to the needs of those family members who surround us.
Jeremy Todd, Chief Executive, Parentline Plus
In the twenty-first century, we re overwhelmed with knowledge and good advice but perhaps a bit short on wisdom and honesty. Rob Parsons redresses that balance in his excellent and very readable book, any page of which could revolutionize your family life and your children s futures. That must be worth at least 60 minutes of anyone s time, however busy we think we are!
Ken Shorey, Chief Executive, Positive Parenting
Follow some of the ideas in this book and you will be top of the pops with your children! The ultimate gift to our families is our time.
Duncan Fisher OBE, Kids in the Middle
This book will touch the heart of your family.
Katharine Hill, author of Rules of Engagement
I found this an inspiring, sensible and easy to follow book offering practical guidelines. It would make a great read for any family I believe this book could revitalize any family and make good ones even better.
Dave Lumsdon, Senior Educational Psychologist, Northumberland County Council & Newcastle University
With great warmth and wisdom, Rob Parsons has done an invaluable service showing modern day families how to not to suffer from the time-crunch - and how to prioritize what s really important in all our lives.
Tanith Carey, author of How to Be an Amazing Mum When You Just Don t Have the Time
This book is a must for all families. It is down-to-earth, comforting, and wonderfully real.
Rachel Waddilove, author of The Baby Book
What they said about Rob Parsons and his books:
The man who reinvented Fatherhood.
Linda Lee Potter, The Daily Mail
Rob Parsons is one of the most inspirational speakers in the country today motivating, practical and giving you the sense that somebody has just turned the light on.
Rosemary Conley, Chairman, The Rosemary Conley Group
Parsons is unlike any other business gurus he identifies an emerging social class - the new poor.
Des Dearlove, The Times
Rob Parsons has an uncanny ability for asking some of life s most challenging questions in an unobtrusive way.
Jill Garrett, former Managing Director, The Gallup Organisation UK
This is a Sixty Minute book, which means that if you are quick, you can read it in an hour. An hour? What can be said of value that can be read in less than 4,000 seconds? Well, something at least
Copyright 2010 Rob Parsons
This edition copyright 2010 Lion Hudson
The author asserts the moral right to be identified as the author of this work
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First electronic format 2011
All rights reserved
Acknowledgments
p. 93: Extract from George Bernard Shaw, Man and Superman ; The Society of Authors on behalf of the Bernard Shaw Estate.
Cover image: Yasuhito Ariga/amanaimages/Corbis
A catalogue record for this book is available from the British Library

To Dianne, Kate, Paul, Lloyd, Becky and Ron - thank you.
Contents

Acknowledgments

The Hospital Waiting Room

Life Lesson 1: To Make Time for My Family

Life Lesson 2: To Take Time to Talk

Life Lesson 3: To Discover the Power of Encouragement

Life Lesson 4: To Decide How I Will Parent

Life Lesson 5: To Love Enough to Let Go

Life Lesson 6: To Handle Conflict Effectively

Life Lesson 7: To Experience the Magic of Traditions

Life Lesson 8: To Learn to Love in January

Life Lesson 9: To Appreciate the Extended Family

Life Lesson 10: To Seize the Moment

References

Afterword
Acknowledgments
Sheron Rice simply made it a better book - again! Eddie Bell, my agent, of the Bell Lomax Moreton agency, is brilliant - I am so grateful to him and his colleagues Pat, Paul, and June for all their wisdom and support. My thanks also go to Kate Kirkpatrick and the team at Lion Hudson. The Care for the Family staff have done their usual wonderful job and so many others have as well, including Naomi Buckler, Paul Francis, Kate Hancock, Katharine Hill, John Gallacher, David Lumsdon, Jon and Sarah Mason, Mark Molden, and Steve Williams.
The Hospital Waiting Room

It is midnight. I am in the waiting room of my local hospital. I ve brought a neighbour in because he s had a fall, and I ve now been sitting for over four hours on plastic chairs that were designed to cause as much discomfort as possible to every part of my anatomy.
I get up, stretch my legs, and wander across to the coffee machine. A young woman of perhaps twenty-four years old is there. She is obviously distraught and drops the coins she is trying to feed into the machine. I suggest she take a seat, I pick up the money, and get her coffee for her.
We start chatting and she tells me that her father is seriously ill, and there is some doubt that he will make it through the night. As we sip our drinks, I ask her to tell me about him.
She brushes a tear from her face, smiles, and says, My mum and dad were brilliant - our family life was wonderful. I didn t know how good it was until I went to college and heard my friends talk about how life was in their homes. It wasn t that we didn t argue - we did, lots of times. We were all so very different. I was the rebellious one. I have two sisters and a brother. Sometimes we d practically come to blows. But we laughed a lot and always knew in our hearts that when it came down to it, we d be there for each other.
I say, It sounds like a great family.
She nods. Dad was from a poor home, but he did really well in his career. In fact, in the early years of my parents marriage he put in such long hours at his office they nearly broke up. After that he changed. It wasn t that he didn t continue to work hard, but unlike previously, he was always there when we needed him. I d be in a school play and suddenly I d see him slip in at the back. He was sometimes a little late, but he hated missing any of that stuff; it was the same with my brother s football matches. After he and Mum went through that hard time, it seemed his priorities changed.
I ask, Is your mum still alive?
Oh yes, she says. She s up in the ward with him now
I say, Tell me more

It was after two in the morning when we stopped talking, and it had all been about her family life. She told me of holidays and Christmases, of good times and harder ones, and of conflicts that were finally resolved with tears and forgiveness. She spoke of silly things they d done - like giving each other names from the Jungle Book film for a whole week. She said, The only problem with that was that we were all teenagers!
She said, My mother always used to say the same thing whenever we d done something silly together, or scary (like when we went abseiling once and my sister got stuck upside down), or even when we d come through a tough time. She would say, We made a memory.
She swallowed hard and I said, You have lots of them, don t you?
Yes, she said. I have hundreds. She smiled. Well, I d better go back up to the ward now. Thanks for talking to me. It helped.
I eventually left the hospital at 9 a.m. As I was approaching my car, I noticed a young couple in the parking bay next to mine. They were gingerly loading an obviously brand-new baby into their vehicle, together with various bouquets of flowers. I shouted, Congratulations! The father smiled at me.
As I got into my car, I found myself thinking of the young woman at the coffee machine and wishing that her father could have shared some of the lessons he d learned with these new parents at the start of their family life together. And as I let my mind wander, I felt I could almost hear the older man talk of things that make families strong: the need to make time for each other; the power of laughter; the creating of homes where forgiveness is always on the heels of conflict; and how to make a memory.
For over twenty years I have travelled the world and listened to people tell me the stories of their families. From Moscow to Melbourne, from Durban to Doncaster, they have shared with me what made their families strong - and sometimes what destroyed them.
My own children are now at the start of their own family life. If they let me - a big if! - what lessons would I love to share with them? Perhaps things I wish I d done differently - what seemed to work and what didn t. But these are not just my lessons - they are gleaned from talking to families across the world, sometimes listening to people who often said, I wish I d known that earlier in my family life. So, whether my children ever read them or not - and acknowledging that somebody else s list may be quite different - here, at least, are my ten lif