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Youth culture changes rapidly, so those in the position to counsel teens often find themselves ill-informed and ill-prepared to deal with the issues that teens routinely encounter today. The Quick-Reference Guide to Counseling Teenagers provides the answers. It is an A-Z guide for assisting people-helpers--pastors, professional counselors, youth workers, and everyday believers--to easily access a full array of information to aid them in (formal and informal) counseling situations. Each of the 40 topics covered follows a helpful eight-part outline and identifies: (1) typical symptoms and patterns, (2) definitions and key thoughts, (3) questions to ask, (4) directions for the conversation, (5) action steps, (6) biblical insights, (7) prayer starters, and (8) recommended resources.

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Publié par	Baker Publishing Group
Date de parution	01 août 2010
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781441212306
Langue	English
Poids de l'ouvrage	1 Mo

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© 2010 by Tim Clinton

Published by Baker Books a division of Baker Publishing Group P.O. Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287 www.bakerbooks.com

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Contents
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Title Page
Copyright Page
Introduction

Abortion
Adoption
Alcoholic and Abusive Parents
Anger
Anxiety and Phobias
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder
Attitudes
Bullying
Career Decisions
Culture and Media Influence
Cutting
Depression
Destructive Dating Relationships
Discipline
Drugs and Alcohol
Eating Disorders
Fatherlessness
Forgiveness
Gangs and Violence
God’s Will
Grief
Guilt
Inferiority
Loneliness
Obesity
Obsessions and Compulsions
Parent-Adolescent Relationships
Parents’ Divorce
Peer Pressure
Pornography and Masturbation
Pregnancy
Promiscuity and Sexually Transmitted Diseases
Schoolwork
Sexual Abuse
Sexual Orientation
Spiritual Doubt
Stress
Suicide
Trauma
Video Game and Cyber Addiction

Notes
Introduction
Developmental psychologist Erik Erikson observed that the “identity crisis” of adolescence is the most significant conflict a person faces throughout life. During these crucial years, young people have to answer the question, Who am I? For many, the question seems overwhelming. The pressures of peers, the new drives of emerging hormones, and the expanding opportunities to experiment with behaviors can combine to create a perfect storm of temptation and self-doubt. Some seek help from mature adults, and many find forgiveness and direction in life through Christ, but some teens try to cope by resorting to self-destructive behaviors.
In today’s world of adolescence, cutting , dusting , choking , and salvia don’t refer to cutting vegetables, cleaning your house, or choking on a burger. These terms refer to practices that are more serious—much more serious. Five years ago you wouldn’t have heard these words used with the meanings that are now common in youth culture vernacular. They reveal how desperate for healing many of our youth are. Cutting refers to cutting oneself in a desperate attempt to relieve internal pain and depression. Dust Off is an aerosol computer keyboard cleaner that contains compressed gas and can be used to get high. Choking oneself can cause a euphoric state. And salvia is a hallucinogenic herb that is banned in eight states and is more powerful than and considered to be the next marijuana. These new fads among teens are leading to many deaths.
Teens are crying out for connection and looking anywhere to find it. “Rave” parties—large-scale gatherings with fast, electronic music and free-form crowd dancing, often coupled with the use of illegal drugs—have taken the place of family night at home. Sexual morality is as broad and relative a term as ever, reckless relationships abound, and parents have never before been so uninvolved or unsure about what to do. Ministering to teens has never been more difficult.
THE TEARS OF A GENERATION
With technological advances and community networks like Twitter and Facebook and immediate communication through text and instant messaging, you’d think we’d be more connected than ever before, have healthier relationships, and be less concerned with issues of self-esteem, drug abuse, alcoholism, and loneliness. But the reality is quite the contrary. The relational pain and social isolation cuts deeper today than in the past twenty-five years. [1]
Take self-esteem. Today 75 percent of girls have wished they could surgically change something about their body. [2] Twenty years ago models weighed 8 percent less than the average woman; today they weigh 23 percent less. [3] The overwhelming messages from television, billboard marketing, the internet, and mainstream magazines have taken a toll. Eighty-one percent of ten-year-olds now worry they’re too fat. [4]
And relational gluttony flourishes. Chat rooms, web pages, and “EMO”—the latest music fad with confessional lyrics that invite young people to “be real” and express themselves—have teenagers giving more than they should emotionally and physically to others, even strangers. Gone are the days of courting and dating. Today, teenagers live in a culture of “hooking up,” which could include anything from innocent kissing to oral sex or intercourse, depending on whom you ask. Thirty percent have admitted to hooking up with someone they just met that day. Sixty-four percent have hooked up with someone they considered a friend. [5] When a generation is taught to do what feels good , it seems preposterous to them to think of guarding the heart, as we’re taught in Proverbs 4:23.
With meaningless, superficial relationships come increased loneliness, hurt, hopelessness, and tears. Teens are left relationally empty over and over again, and the adults who watch don’t know what to do. Teen suicide has become the third-leading cause of death among the age group. [6] And eight thousand teens a day will contract a sexually transmitted disease. [7] Relational gluttony is not the answer to emotional emptiness. It only perpetuates it.
The cries of this generation are real. The genesis of the problem, we believe, is found in the breakdown of healthy, meaningful relationships that promise stability and wisdom. Consider that three thousand kids a day will see their parents divorce. [8] Worse yet, by age eighteen, 33 percent of girls and 17 percent of boys have been sexually abused by someone they loved or trusted. [9]
That’s not all. Nearly 40 percent of America’s kids do not live with their biological father—and more than half of them haven’t seen their dad in the past year. [10] Sixty-three percent of youth suicides occur in homes where there is no father. The same is true of the homes of 90 percent of homeless/runaway children, 85 percent of children with behavior problems, 71 percent of high school dropouts, 85 percent of youths in prison, and well over 50 percent of teen mothers. [11] Nearly 73 percent of the U.S. population believes homes without fathers is the most significant family or social problem facing America. [12]
The hole in the hearts of our teens is deep. And it has left them searching for and accepting nearly anything to fill it.
A SEARCHING GENERATION
When you look at what modern kids believe, the confusion is startling.
More than any other generation, the present-day culture reflects a postmodern belief in which, generally speaking, a relativistic mindset takes precedence over any absolutes. In fact, Ron Luce, president and founder of Teen Mania, reported that 91 percent of teens today do not believe in absolute truth. [13] In another survey, George Barna found that only 6 percent of teens believe in absolute truth. And by the way, these are teens who define themselves as “born-again Christians.” [14]
Barna also found that only 22 percent of born-again adults believe in moral absolutes and 64 percent believe truth is relative to a particular situation. Their beliefs will, of course, influence their children, so it’s not surprising that an alarming 83 percent of teens believe moral truth is dependent on a given situation.
Josh McDowell, who has worked extensively with teens, asserts:
Seventy-five percent of all kids coming to Christ today are not coming to Jesus because He’s the way, the truth, and the life. They are coming to Christ because He is the best thing that’s come along so far, that they’ve filtered through their experience. And as soon as something better to them comes along, they’re gone. [15]
It’s interesting that in separate surveys both Barna and McDowell found that Christian teenagers are most likely to make moral decisions based on what feels right in the moment. Teenagers today are making decisions out of feeling, not because of an objective truth outside of themselves.
Contrary to what many adults believe about them, teens are usually not “bad kids”; they’re young people searching fervently for something real, something authentic, something divine. All they need is somebody to lead them, someone they can trust.
SEEING THE NEED
Christians are called “to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind” (Luke 4:18), and this includes breaking the relational and spiritual bondage our youth are often enslaved to and helping them see through the cultural lies to the truth of the Word. This Quick-Reference Guide is designed to assist professional counselors, pastors, and lay counselors in doing just that!
If you are a professional counselor , you are already very familiar with the topics in this guide. This book will help you: accurately determine the client’s problems by using the assessment questions in each section see a client’s problem and solutions from a biblical perspective