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A fresh and funny--yet utterly serious--book about men and midlife, from the bestselling author of the Every Man's Battle series, Stephen Arterburn. Written for every man who is in or near midlife, it examines the roles men inhabit throughout their lives and shows how God uses those roles to build the qualities that make a truly good man. This practical and encouraging book gives men the tools to make the rest of their lives matter. Stephen Arterburn and coauthor John Shore, both men in midlife, speak men's language. They're straightforward, not sugarcoating the issues of aging, fear of death, and feelings of loss or failure. They offer hope and show readers how they can live God-honoring significant lives. This is a book that pastors will want their men's ministries to read, accountability groups will discuss, and wives will buy for their husbands.

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Publié par	Baker Publishing Group
Date de parution	01 juillet 2009
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781441204998
Langue	English

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Vulnerable, hugely personal, unconventional, funny, engaging, provocative, unvarnished, sometimes raw, Steve Arterburn gets behind the eyelids and under the skin of men in midlife. Trust me, you won t lose interest.
- Bob Buford , Author of Halftime and Finishing Well
Every page of this book spoke directly to me. I laughed out loud, while at other times got really, really quiet and reflective. Since reading this book I can t stop thinking about it. It s helpful, practical, challenging, and worth your time.
-Jim Burns, PhD , President of HomeWord and Author of Creating an Intimate Marriage and Confident Parenting
What a timely book! Every man in midlife needs to read this manual. It s vulnerable, practical, and biblical. Best of all, it will show you how the best is yet to come!
- Les Parrott, PhD , Founder of RealRelationships.com and Author of Your Time-Starved Marriage
Steve Arterburn is the most qualified man I know to speak to the life transitions of men. I have seen him live out the principles of this book with my own eyes and sought, through imitation, to navigate my journey as a man in similar ways. He has never done me wrong as a man. Join me!
- Kenny Luck , Men s Pastor of Saddleback Church and Author of Every Man, God s Man; RISK; DREAM; and FIGHT
Thanks, Steve and John, for telling us to take a minute, shut off the autopilot, and think about how to live the second half. If more men would do what this book says, the midlife crises would change to midlife corrections and the second half could be much better than the first!
- Dr. Henry Cloud , Psychologist and Author
Finally there s help for men at that dangerous midlife crossroad in life. Steve Arterburn and John Shore outline for us how a man can make a smooth transition through midlife and avoid the midlife crisis that ruins so many men.
- Dave Stoop, PhD , Psychologist and Author
Steve and I have shared many hours together laughing and sharing and reaching out to others. This midlife manual is full of great wisdom and will be a real help to men who want to soar through midlife rather than crash in a crisis.
- Josh D. McDowell , Author and Speaker
The middle years can often be a bewildering and even disappointing time for men. However, it doesn t have to be that way. With Steve Arterburn s sound and clear guidance, these can truly be our best years. Steve combines years of experience in helping others with his own personal authenticity and a solid biblical base. You will be a better person for reading this book.
- Dr. John Townsend , Psychologist, Author, and Speaker
Midlife Manual for Men
F INDING S IGNIFICANCE IN THE S ECOND H ALF
Stephen Arterburn and John Shore
MIDLIFE MANUAL FOR MEN
Midlife Manual for Men Copyright 2008 Stephen Arterburn and John Shore
Cover design by Paul Higdon and Lookout Design, Inc.
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means-electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise-without the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.
Published by Bethany House Publishers 11400 Hampshire Avenue South Bloomington, Minnesota 55438
Bethany House Publishers is a division of Baker Publishing Group, Grand Rapids, Michigan
Printed in the United States of America
ISBN 978-0-7642-0661-0
The Library of Congress has cataloged the hardcover edition as follows:
Arterburn, Stephen, date.
Midlife manual for men : finding significance in the second half. / Stephen Arterburn and John Shore.
p. cm. - (Life transitions)
Summary: Written for men in midlife, to help them first examine the roles they have in life, including husband, father, and provider, and then give them the tools to make the rest of their lives matter -Provided by publisher.
ISBN-13: 978-0-7642-0423-4 (hardcover : alk. paper) 1. Middle-aged men-United States-Psychology. I. Shore, John, date- II. Title. HQ1059.5.U5A78 2008 305.244-dc22
2007036388
To Larry Sonnenburg, the most amazing husband, father, leader, and friend. S.A. For Dad and Mom. J.S.
CONTENTS
Introduction
Chapter One: Man in the Middle
Chapter Two: He-Man of the Universe
Chapter Three: Son
Chapter Four: Husband
Chapter Five: Provider
Chapter Six: Father
Chapter Seven: Face Forward
Appendix: A Recap
About the Authors
Midlife Manual for Men
INTRODUCTION
IT HAPENS TO everyone fortunate enough to live long enough. Sooner or later, we all experience that wake-up call that explodes like a bomb in the gut. Boom! -- and then you know it: You really are middle-aged. People having that moment tend to do a nanosecond evaluation of their life. And that s usually all it takes for them to realize that they wish they had done more, lived more, been more. If you have experienced that moment yourself-or think it might be a good idea to prepare for when you do-then this is the right book for you.
As you surely know, if you were born anywhere from around 1946 to 1964, you re officially a baby boomer. In America today there are about thirty-nine million guy boomers. ( Man , but that s a lot of testosterone let loose upon the world at one time. In one disgusting way or another, it probably helps explain global warming.) We, your authors Steve and John, are both in our early fifties. That puts us solidly in the middle of the Boomer Horde.
Go boomers!
Whoo-hoo!
It s good to belong, isn t it?
Of course, people of our generation are, by nature, Rebellious Types. We know from rebellion, man. Rebellion is what our generation did .
Wait. Didn t we? We did, right? Mostly? Some?
Hmmm. We seem to recall something about the Beatles, the first man on the moon, yo-yos, and polyester jumpsuits.
Was the first man on the moon Paul McCartney? Was he wearing a polyester jumpsuit and playing with a yo-yo?
It s all so hard to remember, isn t it?
Tell you what, though. The two of us sure know what s going on with ourselves these days.
These days, we re middle-aged.
Us!
You!
All thirty-nine million of us!
Middle-aged!
It s just too weird to think about.
And it s certainly too weird not to.
Midlife is such a glorious, scary time of life, isn t it?
And that s what we want to talk to you about-about every way in which midlife is both glorious and scary, and how it s so much more than either. We wrote this book because we want to share with you the comprehensive, God-inspired understanding that we ve come to about men in midlife. We wanted to provide you with an owner s manual, if you will, for the rest of your life.
Midlife raises a lot of questions. Though we know it sounds presumptuous to say so, we believe this book contains the answers to those questions.
So let s get started!
We re men!
We re not big on waiting!
With appreciation for letting us share in your midlife adventure,
Steve and John
1
MAN IN THE MIDDLE
FROM STEVE:
I miss a lot. I have a true case of attention deficit disorder, and I don t just use it as a lame excuse for doing some really dumb things. It is, for me, the real deal, and it is quite painful at times having to deal with the consequences of things like crashing cars because I m so easily distracted, or talking to someone and having no idea what they ve been saying for the past five minutes, or speaking to an audience in one city while thinking that I m speaking to a different audience in an altogether different city.
Can you imagine standing before a group of building contractors in Las Vegas, giving the talk you had intended to present the following week to residents of the Los Angeles Mission? That happened to me once, and believe me, you learn to think fast in a situation like that; I had to instantly turn a speech meant for homeless people into a speech delivered to contractors about the true value of a home. (It worked: My audience was in tears!) Such is my life of missing things. (I can t leave this tangent without mentioning that I once spent a week, in the dead of winter, at St. Thomas University, just outside Albany, New York. Too bad I wasn t at the St. Thomas University of the Virgin Islands-where I thought I had agreed to speak. I had packed my sandals, shorts, and shades and was ready for white sands and ocean waves. Instead, I got white snow and waves of depression.)
My attention problem has become so bad that I pay extra for a GPS device (Hertz calls them NeverLost) whenever I rent a car, because I simply cannot drive, read a map, and get anywhere on time. The GPS system was to be my salvation; and it has helped, but I can still sometimes have a tough time knowing what to do. Just this morning, for instance, in Bozeman, Montana (I write on planes), I approached an intersection as the GPS lady said, Turn in point three miles -and I did not know whether to turn at the intersection I was just nearing, believe that there would be another intersection farther ahead, or what. As a result of this type of navigational crisis, one of the most common phrases running through my head these days is recalculating route. Recalculating route is repeated so much by the lady in the GPS box that I expect to go to my car one morning and hear a male voice telling me the lady quit because she got tired of my not following directions.
Such fears can make for a difficult way of life.
One night, while lying in bed counting penguins jumping off an iceberg into the water (I m old; sheep don t work for me anymore), this recalculating route phrase kept interrupting my Penguin Parade. And then it hit me just how much a GPS device is like God: He never abandons us or gives up on us; he is always there-no matter how far off course we are-waiting to recalculate the route . I love that about God. Never too late, never too early to get us back on track. In a nutshell, that is what this book is about: letting God recalculate your route to get you from where you are to the best days of your life.