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Parents need to look within to see how they can be model parents and provide a healthy environment for proper mental, emotional and physical growth of their children. Focussing on this basic issue, this book holds a mirror to parents, and shows how they can excel in the art of parenting. However over protection or restrictiveness can spoil a child; permissiveness or indulgence can make him anti-social, rejection can work on his personality as to why he takes to lying, stealing or mud-eating. The book is a total guide on the subject covering topics from effects of disturbed parenthood, role of right communication, common childhood behaviourial disorders like stuttering, bed-wetting, nail biting to behaviour improvement techniques, skills development, fostering creativity and helping in setting and achieving of goal - and finally a complete section on looking after handicapped children.

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Publié par	V & S Publishers
Date de parution	09 janvier 2017
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9789350578490
Langue	English

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Helping A Child
Hari Datt Sharma
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Preface
R aising well-balanced children is an art. The sincerity of parents in discharging their responsibility towards their children will reflect in the development of the latter. Proper upbringing demands active effort, concern, sensitivity, skills, understanding and empathy on the part of parents. Children are always dependent on their caretakers to look after their physical, mental and emotional needs. Which is why, a child is a reflection of the parents’ behaviour.
It is impossible to write a perfect prescription to mould ourselves into caring and successful parents. However, there are some guidelines that parents may find quite useful. One must note that there are many variations in parents, as there are in children. Furthermore, when we talk of parents and couples, we are not dealing only with two people but also with the net result of their interaction with each other. Also, remember that there are some prerequisites for effective parenting, just as there are for most tasks.
Through discipline, guidance and encouragement, parents provide opportunities for the healthy exploration of natural surroundings by the child. They foster curiosity in their children to help them realise their full potential. Children who are deprived of such opportunities tend to fear the unknown and the future.
Parents must encourage children to express their true feelings. Successful parents imbue their family with a sense of belonging and provide opportunities for democratic planning and social action.
Consideration of and help for individual and family problems must be provided readily. The test of the genuineness of a problem lies more with the intensity of feeling about it, than with the nature of the problem itself. There are times when the father’s needs must be, at least temporarily, relegated to second place because of the needs of his child. Successful parents constantly seek better ways to do what they have to do without affecting their attention towards their children.
A child’s maladjustment with society often results from a poor parent-child relationship, which in turn often stems from lack of correct understanding by parents about their children. An adverse upbringing and the contemporary family situation are two powerful factors of maladjustment. Symptoms of emotional upheaval in a child point towards a disturbed parent-child relationship. When the child realises that being naughty is the only way to attract attention, he indulges in naughtiness.
Emotional problems in children do reflect through their misbehaviour like fighting, lying, stealing, destroying property or breaking rules.
These traits constitute the acting out behaviour . This is the misbehaviour that a child indulges in to express his emotional turmoil. In other words, this misbehaviour is an outward expression of a child’s emotional disturbance. Through it, he signals his emotional insecurity, hostility towards parents and feelings of inferiority. For example, lying results from the child’s attempt to secure attention and gain esteem. Children who lie also consistently try to overcome insecurity through chronic stealing. Their attempts at stealing openly and getting caught in the process show their hostility towards parents. In some cases, the stolen items symbolise parental love, power or authority, which the child feels deprived of.
Depressive reactions and other emotional problems in childhood are often masked. Among young children, irritability, temper tantrums, low tolerance, hyperactivity and sleep disturbances are common reflections of depression. Among older children, disobedience, running away from home and delinquent behaviour may mask an underlying depression.
Masking of emotional problems is not restricted to children only. In adolescents too, depression may commonly be masked by their inability to sleep, gastrointestinal upsets and chronic fatigue.
This book provides useful tips to parents to help their children develop normally – physically, mentally, emotionally and academically. Ignorance by parents about their child’s special emotional and other needs can spoil the whole life of a child.
The main purpose of this book is to provide you with the necessary information to make you successful parents. Morals are imbibed and not taught. As the parents sow, so shall their children reap.
—Hari Datt Sharma
Founder
Peace of Mind Mission
New Delhi
Ten Commandments for a Child’s Behaviour Development
1. When children live with encouragement, they develop CONFIDENCE.
2. When children live with tolerance, they learn to be PATIENT.
3. When children live with criticism, they learn to CONDEMN.
4. When children live with ridicule, they learn to be SHY.
5. When children live with hostility, they learn to FIGHT.
6. When children live with praise, they learn to APPRECIATE.
7. When children live with shame, they learn to feel GUILTY.
8. When children live with security, they learn to have FAITH.
9. When children live with approval, they learn to LIKE themselves.
10. When children live with acceptance, they learn to find LOVE.
Contents Preface 1. Ways to Improve Children • Behaviour Modification Techniques • Play and Family Therapy • The Importance of Token Economies • The Child’s Emotional Growth • The Importance of Motor Development • Teaching Social and Personal Skills • Role of Punishment • Fostering Creativity 2. Helping Children Develop Basic Skills • Methods of Learning • A Developmental Schedule • Main Development Norms • Common Words in Children’s Books • Developing Skills in Written Communication • Handwriting • Spelling • Written Expression • Main Reading Skills • Readiness for Arithmetic • Auditory (Phonic) Readiness • Auditory Sequential Memory • Readiness for Learning • Reading Readiness • Basic Skills Required • Checklist For Parents • Assessing the Child’s Reading Readiness • A. Mental Maturity • B. Background of Experience • C. Social Readiness • D. Emotional Readiness • E. Specific Abilities • Visual Readiness • Visual Retention • Visual Discrimination • Auditory Readiness • Motor Readiness • General Notes • Vineland Social Maturity Scale 3 Childhood Behaviour Disorders • Stuttering (Stammering) • Bed-Wetting (Enuresis) • Sleep-Walking (Somnambulism) • Research Findings • Problem Sleep • Excessive Sleep • Unrealistic Fears • Phobic Neurosis • Temper Tantrums • Hyperactivity • Anger Spasm and Breath-Holding • Tics (Habit Spasm) • Shyness & Withdrawal • Stealing • Lying • Thumb Sucking • Rocking and Head Banging • Hair Plucking • Mud Eating • Nail-Biting • Runaway Reaction • Voluntary Silence • Faecal Soiling (Encopresis) • Attention-SeekingDevices • School Phobia • Gifted Children • What Makes SomeChildren Aggressive? • Typical Case Histories 7. How to Treat Common Learning Difficulties • Common Learning Difficulties and Methods of Treatment 8. Caring for Handicapped Children • Crippling and Health Disabilities • Hearing Disabilities • Visual Disabilities • Mental Retardation • Handicapped Children Need Special Education • Typical Adaptive Behaviour Expectancies
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Ways to Improve Children
BEHAVIOUR MODIFICATION TECHNIQUES
These techniques deal primarily with how to change overt student behaviour. This involves application of operant learning principles to bring about a specific change in behaviour.
The operant conditioning aims at getting a desired response from the person on whom it is being applied. Once the desired response occurs, it is reinforced to increase the frequency of its occurrence. This conditioning is also called instrumental conditioning.
Although behaviour modification origina