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The wreckage of addiction lies scattered around too many people--from the one who is or was addicted to those in relationship with that person. Age-old culprits of drugs, alcohol, and gambling are joined by newer addictions, such as food, prescription medication, shopping, pornography, and technology. Left unaddressed, addiction devastates lives now and makes it difficult to see a positive way forward.For anyone struggling with an addiction, attempting to live in recovery, or seeking to understand the mind of an addict they love, Dr. Jantz's newest book is a lifeline. In it he helps readers answer tough questions, such as - Am I an addict?- Why is the first step so hard?- How can I put my life back together?- Where do I go from here?Addiction doesn't have to have the last word. Healing the Scars of Addiction offers a holistic approach to healing so that readers can reclaim their lives and move forward in hope.

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Publié par	Baker Publishing Group
Date de parution	31 juillet 2018
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781493413973
Langue	English
Poids de l'ouvrage	1 Mo

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© 2018 by Gregory L. Jantz
Published by Revell
a division of Baker Publishing Group
PO Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
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Ebook edition created 2018
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ISBN 978-1-4934-1397-3
Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations are from the Holy Bible, New International Version®. NIV®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. www.zondervan.com
Scripture quotations labeled KJV are from the King James Version of the Bible.
This publication is intended to provide helpful and informative material on the subjects addressed. Readers should consult their personal health professionals before adopting any of the suggestions in this book or drawing inferences from it. The author and publisher expressly disclaim responsibility for any adverse effects arising from the use or application of the information contained in this book.
Endorsements
“Pain is inevitable—but misery is optional. If you are miserable because of some addiction, some repetitive pattern of behavior that only brings you suffering, then opt for freedom. In Healing the Scars of Addiction , Dr. Jantz has provided the tools you need to heal, to overcome—to be free.”
Timothy R. Jennings , MD, DFAPA, past president of the Tennessee and Southern Psychiatric Associations; author of The Aging Brain
“ Healing the Scars of Addiction provides understanding, helpful steps, and realistic hope for those who are struggling with various forms of addiction and want to reclaim their lives from addiction and move forward into a healthier life. I highly recommend it!”
Siang- Yang Tan , PhD, professor of psychology, Fuller Theological Seminary; author of Counseling and Psychotherapy: A Christian Perspective
Dedication
This book is dedicated to those struggling to overcome addiction: who try and fail, then try again; who stumble and fall and find a way to get back on their feet; who refuse to give up on their dreams of a better life; who cling to the hope they are worth that life—because they are.
Contents
Cover 1
Title Page 3
Copyright Page 4
Endorsements 5
Dedication 6
Introduction: The Questions of Addiction 11
The pathway of addiction is littered with questions. Should I stop? What will happen if I do stop? What will happen if I don’t stop? Why should I stop? Why can’t I stop? What have I done? When will this end? This book is written to give voice to these questions and provide hard-won answers gained from more than thirty years of working with courageous, addicted people. Those suffering from addiction need answers, but so do those who suffer alongside them.
1. Am I an Addict? 15
A dictionary definition of addiction is simple: “a strong compulsion to have or do something harmful.” Simple, or is it? Who defines what is harmful?
2. Why This? 25
A strong compulsion to have or do something harmful covers a vast field of possibilities, given human invention and the capacity for denial. When even “good” things become harmful, the range of harmful things can multiply like mice. Besides the age-old options, people are addicted today in ways past generations couldn’t have imagined.
3. Why Me? 53
Addiction is intensely individual, but there are some common threads. Genetics, personality traits, and family dynamics and history may help explain the roots of certain types of addiction. Where a person is can often be traced to where a person came from.
4. Why Can’t I Just Learn to Live with This? 63
The definition of harm, left to an addict, can be highly fluid. What stands out as harmful in one setting may appear less so in the next. Addiction has a way of eroding resolve, with “never again” slipping into “just once more.”
5. Who Am I without This? 71
Once you give up a future where your addiction is “manageable,” you must contemplate a future without the addiction in any form. The question then becomes, “Who am I without this?” The addiction has been such an integral part of your life that you have difficulty imagining what life could be, who you could be, without it.
6. Why Can’t I See What This Is Doing to Me? 79
To be an addict is to live in a state of altered reality. Emotional, intellectual, physical, and spiritual consequences are filtered through the lens of the addiction. Harm is reduced to a singular focus, with harm’s narrow definition being that which threatens the addiction.
7. Why Can’t I See What This Is Doing to Others? 91
In an addict’s altered reality, relationships take on different value within a corrupted hierarchy of needs. People cease to be mothers, brothers, fathers, sisters, friends, children, or loved ones and become means to an addictive end.
8. Why Is the First Step So Hard? 103
An addiction is a fixed position. Somewhere else can be a frightening unknown. I know where I am now. If I move, where will I end up?
9. Why Isn’t the First Step Enough? 119
Healing from addiction is not a single step but a process of steps, mostly forward but some back, to achieve the distance necessary to move from addiction to recovery. This process requires mental and physical healing, which takes time, patience, and perspective, gained step by step by step.
10. How Can I Put My Life Back Together? 137
Addiction twists and breaks a person’s life connections, at the same time weaving their own addictive stranglehold. Healing happens when the person reintegrates healthy connections to self and others, to actions and life itself.
11. Do I Deserve to Put My Life Back Together? 151
Those in recovery can find their resolve to heal weakened by feelings of worthlessness and regret. To move forward, they must find ways out of these personal prisons, even when thoughts of shame, blame, and guilt threaten to block their path.
12. Who Am I Now? 167
Addiction changes a person, as does any traumatic life event. An addiction, unchecked, seeks to define the scope of that change. To heal from addiction means taking back control. I cannot go back to who I was before the addiction; I am no longer who I was when I was addicted. Who am I now?
Ending Thoughts 187
Acknowledgments 189
Notes 191
About the Authors 197
Other Books by the Authors 198
Back Ads 199
Back Cover 203
Introduction
The Questions of Addiction
“This isn’t the life I planned.” The statement was made with deadpan brevity. For a moment, I let his words hang in the air between us before I asked, “How is it different?”
In my work as a therapist, I operate within the borders of “different.” People who have the life they’ve always dreamed of rarely end up in my office. Instead, I tend to work with those who come to the painful realization that all is not fine in their worlds. Some have tried to fix the different on their own but have failed. Others have no idea how to fix the different, beyond showing up for an appointment. Each knows that “here” isn’t where they want to be, but they’re not sure how to get somewhere else. I’ve found this is especially true when the here includes addiction.
I’ve worked with people who confidently thought they were immune to addiction. That will never be me , they thought—until it was. I’ve worked with some people who, as children, grew up around addiction and remember praying, Please, God, don’t let that be me —until it was. I’ve worked with others who said yes to something, with no plans for it to change into something else—until it did.
Some have loved their addiction and viewed it like an engaging but unruly child. They wanted me to help them manage their addiction so they could keep it. Some have hated their addiction and wanted to find a way to destroy it without destroying themselves in the process. Others have wanted the addiction gone but felt lost, no longer knowing who they were and afraid that once the addiction was gone, they would cease to exist as well.
He started with a single statement about the life he’d planned. That statement prompted my question about how his life was different and went on to produce a cavalcade of additional, difficult questions. In my experience, the pathway of addiction is littered with questions. Should I stop? What will happen if I do stop? What will happen if I don’t stop? Why should I stop? Why can’t I stop? What have I done? When will this end?
This book is written to give voice to these questions and provide hard-won answers gained from more than thirty years of working with courageous, addicted people. When their lives turned out to be different from what they wanted, each found a way to ask difficult questions, to persevere and find needed answers. I can only assume the reason many of you picked up this book is to do the same. You are not yet where you want to be, and you’re searching for a way to get there. My hope is, within these pages, you find markers of insight that help you along your path to healing from addiction.
If there is a consistent theme I’ve noticed among those who have healed from addiction, it is a deep desire to help others. Knowing firsthand motivates them to extend a hand up. The challenges and victories you’ll read about in this book are compiled from their stories. While I’ve changed them enough to shield their identities, the core honesty, struggle, drive, and determination remain as encouragement and motivation for you. In a way, this is not my book or theirs or even yours, but ours together, as a broader community, seeking to heal the broken parts of lives around us, including our own.
The addiction community includes not only those who are a