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While adults prompt young ones to practice their manners, many grown-ups are ready for a refresher course. Their manner expert is here! Emilie Barnes, bestselling author of A Little Book of Manners and life-management expert, is excited to share how manners strengthen adult relationships, professional interactions, social gatherings, and family ties. Not a day goes by that won't be enhanced by Emilie's advice on the art of introductions practicing corporate manners handling social taboos dining graciously as a host or a guest sharing values with children Includes wedding etiquette, dating manners, and that increasingly vital one--proper cell phone use! This entertaining, easy-to-read manual of manners reveals how acts of kindness transform a life at any age.

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Publié par	Harvest House Publishers, Inc.
Date de parution	15 mars 2008
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9780736932936
Langue	English
Poids de l'ouvrage	8 Mo

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Unless otherwise indicated, all Scripture quotations are taken from the HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTER-NATIONAL VERSION®. NIV®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by the International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved.

Scripture verses marked Ś are from the New Revised Standard Version of the Bible, copyright © 1989 by the Division of Christian Education of the National Council of the Churches of Christ in the USA. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

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Dedication 

is book is dedicated to one of my very favorite aunts, Auntie Evelyn. When I was eight years old, my mother, Irene, was ill and was not able to take care of me as she would have liked. She sent me to stay with my aunt for a while. Auntie Evelyn was a stickler about etiquette and manners. I’m thankful for that year I was in her home. It was like a ﬁnishing school for me. At that time in my young life, I was so shy and hated to be reprimanded. I wanted to do everything right the ﬁrst time.

I am so grateful for the patience that Auntie Evelyn had with me. e skills I learned while in her home have been so valuable in my adult life. I owe it all to her. ank you, Auntie Evelyn.

Emilie

Contents

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e Joy of Manners. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7 1. e Beginning of Manners . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9 2. What DoesMannerlyMean?. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15 3. Entertaining at Home . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19 4. e Art of Invitations. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 25 5. Company Manners . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 29 6. Tips on Tipping. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 35 7. Passing On Your Values. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 39 8. Table Manners. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43 9. Manners with the Pen. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 53 10. Restaurant Manners as the Host. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 57 11. Restaurant Manners as the Guest . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61 12. Watch Your Words. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 65 13. e Art of Introductions. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 71 14. Handling Social Taboos. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 75 15. Handling ose Telephones and Cell Phones. . . . 79 16. How to Support Family Members. . . . . . . . . . . . . 83 17. Communication from Afar. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 87 18. Parents with Children. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 93 19. Five Manners Most Parents Forget to Teach. . . . . 97 20. How to Eat Various Foods Properly. . . . . . . . . . . .101 21. e Art of Meeting People. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .107 22. Minor Social Annoyances . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .113

23. Business Has Its Etiquette Too. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .117 24. e Art of Helping. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .123 25. e Etiquette of Caring. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .127 26. e Art of a ank-You Note. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .139 27. e Art of Conversation. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .143 28. Dating Manners. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .149 29. A Tea Party Has Its Own Etiquette. . . . . . . . . . . .153 30. Wediquette Etiquette: Part One. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .157 31. Wediquette Etiquette: Part Two. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .163 32. Being a Gracious Adult . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .173 33. Out-and-About Manners. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .177 34. Good Manners Even in Death. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .185

Notes. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .191

The฀Joy฀of฀Manners

ou’d think that by the time people reach adulthood, they would Y have cultivated good manners. Simple observations would show otherwise. Somewhere along the line Mom and Dad passed over the importance of manners. Today’s culture is not geared toward the development of manners. Compared to earlier decades, the current climate in the home and work place is far more casual. Kids growing up these days are a generation of “ﬁnger eaters” who are more famil-iar with (and inclined to want) drive-through windows than dining tables. ey eat quickly and in the backseat of the car as a parent drives them to another activity. None of this is very conducive to teaching proper etiquette! Our society hasn’t placed a high priority on developing social graces. erefore, many adults didn’t grow up being taught how to be polite and gracious in various settings and circumstances. But these manners are invaluable, and the good news is that we can learn the importance of practicing social graces whether we grew up with such training or not. e Golden Rule is really the foundation of proper etiquette and manners. It is also important for knowing how to get along at home, in business, and in social circles. Some people don’t like rules growing up, but adult life is diﬀerent. Even in our home life, proper behavior creates an atmosphere of peace and harmony. Etiquette guidelines set the tone of how one treats

8฀ ฀ ฀Good฀Manners฀฀for Every Occasion  another person with proper respect and honor. Scripture is laced with instructions regarding how a person is to properly treat others. In earlier decades, people generally treated each other with kind-ness and respect. In today’s culture, we don’t tend to be concerned about others in our lives. We have become a “me” generation. We ask, “What’s in it for me?” To have proper graces, we need to set our minds to serve the other person with kindness and respect. Social graces are positive rules, guidelines, and cues that make it easier to interact with people and to live a day-by-day, pleasant life. If you know how to dine with others and how to introduce and meet others, you’ll be more at ease and comfortable in business, social events, and your interactions with your family members. Being kind, thoughtful, and considerate will never go out of style. Manners smooth out our rough edges of life. ey civilize us. Treating people of all ages and walks of life properly is the right thing to do. Corporations sometimes send their executives to ﬁnishing schools to learn what they didn’t learn as children. It’s quite normal for these companies to interview their candidates along with their wives or husbands at a ﬁne restaurant to observe how they’ll behave in various social settings. Evaluating the people skills of their potential team member is vital. Such methods are not just good manners but are excellent business practices. is book will cover as many details of good manners as possible, including how to apply them. As you read, if your understanding of good manners improves in any way, my eﬀort in writing will have been worthwhile. Good manners start with following basic rules and priorities, and bad manners start with disregarding the basic rules and priorities. What could be simpler? So why does the twenty-ﬁrst century seem overpopu-lated with young people and adults who lack basic social skills? May this book be your source of encouragement and guidance as you enjoy the rich, generous, and abundant life that comes from embracing the best behavior for everyday living.