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As a husband, you are uniquely able to honor your wife in ways no one else can.To show honor was God's original design for the husband-wife relationship. Sadly, this is a missing ingredient in many marriages today.When you honor your wife, you'll find her responsive and appreciative. It will bring a new level of fulfillment in your relationship. Join author David Chadwick as he shares eight great ways to show this special kind of love:trust her instinctsshare your heartbe strong and humbleread her wellhelp launch her giftsbe a guardian and gardenerask a certain questionuse words wiselyMake honoring your wife an everyday part of your marriage...and enjoy the forever blessings that result!

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Publié par	Harvest House Publishers
Date de parution	01 mars 2016
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9780736967266
Langue	English

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HARVEST HOUSE PUBLISHERS
EUGENE, OREGON
All Scripture quotations are taken from The ESV Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version ), copyright 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
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EIGHT GREAT WAYS TO HONOR YOUR WIFE
Copyright 2016 David Chadwick
Published by Harvest House Publishers
Eugene, Oregon 97402
www.harvesthousepublishers.com
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Chadwick, David, 1949-
Eight great ways to honor your wife / David Chadwick.
pages cm.-(Eight great ways)
ISBN 978-0-7369-6725-9 (pbk.)
ISBN 978-0-7369-6726-6 (eBook)
1. Husbands-Religious life. 2. Marriage-Religious aspects-Christianity I. Title.
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Dedication
To my mom and dad, Helen and Howard Chadwick, who honored each other and the Lord they loved and served until their last breath. I m glad you re together in heaven. I look forward to seeing you again!
To my beloved wife Marilynn, who has honored me with her life, faith, and love. I hope my life has honored you as well. I honor, value, treasure, and esteem you beyond mere words.
To my three children, Bethany, David, and Michael, who have honored me mostly by choosing to love and serve my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Your lives and choices have honored me well. May your children honor you too.
C ONTENTS
Dedication
What Does It Mean to Honor Your Wife?
1. Trust Her Gut
2. Be a Man of God
3. Encourage Her Gifts
4. Respect Her Opinion
5. Ask This Question Often
6. Share Your Heart
7. Be a Guardian and Gardener
8. Use Words Wisely
Epilogue: Honor in Action
A Husband s Honor Code
Study Questions
Notes
Be Sure to Get the Companion Volume
W HAT D OES I T M EAN TO H ONOR Y OUR W IFE ?

T he word honor has become missing in action in the English vocabulary. Oh yes, sadly, we sometimes hear about an honor killing. Most often, that s when a child rejects a certain faith tradition. The father feels he must kill the child for the sake of honor in his home. There is also honor among thieves. They still seem to hold the word honor in high esteem. The Boy Scouts still begin their pledge with On my honor, I will do my duty. Some schools still emphasize an honor code.
But in reality, the word honor isn t much talked about today.
The importance of the word honor has not been abated in the Bible. Children are to honor their mothers and fathers (Exodus 20:12). Rulers in the government (Romans 13:7) and the elders who preach, teach, and lead the church are to receive a double honor (1 Timothy 5:17). Widows who serve others (1 Timothy 5:3) and friends who labor for us (Philippians 2:29) should also be given honor because of their personal importance in our lives. Christians are to honor one another, even above self (Romans 12:10). When Christians behave with honor, it should draw spiritual skeptics toward faith in God (1 Peter 2:12).
And honor is supposed to be given by a husband to his wife (1 Peter 3:7). He is to honor her as one with enormous value. In this verse, Peter says that a wife is to be treated as a weaker vessel. I don t think this idea expresses inferiority at all. I believe Peter used this phrase to describe a fine, delicate piece of pottery, like porcelain. The wife is supposed to be like a priceless vase in her husband s hand. He is to treat her with great care and gentle esteem, tenderly showing to her the enormous value she holds in his life.
In the New Testament, the Greek word translated honor is timen . It can refer to a prize, esteem, value, recognition, or respect. The opposite of honor is shame. To dishonor something or someone means we are ashamed of it or the person.
To honor something or someone means it or the person is very valuable; indeed, a treasure-something or someone about which or whom you re not ashamed. When you feel shame, you feel worthless. Shame is the antonym of honor. So when we honor God, we are saying he is infinitely more valuable and prized than anything on earth and therefore worthy of our worship.
What does the Bible mean when it tells us to honor our wives? Let me put it in a way our culture can understand. She is a trophy-a person dearly prized. She is the husband s ultimate, permanent trophy bride! When you look at your wife, you can t believe she is a part of your life. You consider it a high privilege to be married to her. You want others to know the value she has in your life. You are honored she is your wife.
What would happen in our culture if we stopped looking at our wives as being someone placed on our arms to make us look good? What would happen if we truly understood what biblical honor means and desired to value our wives by recognizing them as prized, permanent trophies?
When we truly show honor as we should, we will treat our wives as a priceless treasure-a person of immense value and worth. As King Solomon wrote, A man s greatest treasure is his wife (Proverbs 18:22).
This book is about eight great ways to honor your wife. My wife, Marilynn, has written an accompanying book entitled Eight Great Ways to Honor Your Husband. We both are trying to recapture the significance and importance of this word honor -especially in the marriage relationship between a husband and a wife.
We both believe God gives his original design for marriage in the creation narrative (Genesis 1-2). In Genesis 2:20, Eve ( isha in the Hebrew) is taken from Adam s side ( ish in the Hebrew). These two were once one. When separated, the goal is for them to come back together as two equal and complementary partners. Only these two different people can cleave and weave their lives together.
In Genesis 2:24, God gave his order and goal for marriage: one man, one woman, in a committed, complementary, permanent, heterosexual, monogamous relationship. At the end of this verse, God gave his intended desire for these two complementary people coming together: oneness. He wanted the two to become one flesh.
He wants my love for Marilynn and Marilynn s love for me to swim through our veins like fish in the sea.
At the end of all marriage days, God wanted a man and a woman to be inextricably one. His design was the strange, mysterious, profound intermixture of two hearts and souls. I am to become one with Marilynn. She is to become one with me. At the end of our married days he wants our fingers tightly squeezed together, expressing the mingling of our lives together. That s God s will in marriage. That s why he created it.
You will see this theme of oneness in marriage interwoven throughout this book. Honoring one another as husband and wife is one of the major ways this goal from God happens.
Let s be very clear: Honor is not the end goal of marriage. But it is very important in marriage. Marilynn and I would not have written these two books if we didn t think so. But it s an aid. It s a means to the end. The goal is two becoming one. Learning to honor one another unequivocally helps this occur.
Isn t there something within you as a husband that resonates a desire to be permanently one with your bride? Doesn t your heart and soul long to know this reality? Don t you yearn to imagine yourself at the end of your married days with your fingers still interlocked with your beloved in marriage, joyfully sharing together a lifetime of collective memories?
Most couples do. And I believe God himself is the one who placed this longing within the hearts of those whom he has called to marry.
But it doesn t happen overnight. It s a lifetime of tiny, imperceptibly different threads sewn together through a husband and wife s different choices. But at the end, nothing should be able to separate a man and woman who have become one-especially as they choose to honor one another.
Let me give you one final thought. These eight great ways to honor your wife may paint a picture of me that s not entirely accurate. Yes, I have practiced them throughout our marriage. But some were learned by what I didn t do correctly. Moreover, like most all husbands, I ve regrettably stepped on Marilynn s toes too many times. My human hubris hasn t allowed me immediately to apologize, as I should have. I think Marilynn would say the same thing.
But we both keep trying. We both keep moving toward one another. We both are committed to practicing honor to the end, cheerfully embracing marriage as God intended it to be.
That s because we want oneness more than anything else in our marriage.
We are now almost 40 years strong. We love each other deeply. We regularly practice these eight great ways to honor each other in our marriage. We are more in love today than we were when we married. Our love grows by the day. We are permanently bound together. Our oneness is increasing by the day, month, and year.
Marilynn is indeed my lifelong, imminently treasured trophy bride!
I hope these eight great ways to honor your wife will help you feel the same way about your wife.
And mostly, help you and your wife become one.
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