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Marriage requires not just love, but sacrificial love, says Bryan Chapell. In his newly revised and updated book, Each for the Other, he shows married couples how to emulate the unselfish, sacrificial love of Christ. While imparting invaluable instruction grounded in Scripture, Chapell not only helps husbands and wives understand the nature of God's care but also affirms the importance of building a spiritual foundation that binds them together as one. By presenting a biblical model of marriage, Chapell encourages couples to dive into the deeper dimensions of their relationship. The result, he says, is a Christ-centered marriage and a grace-filled family.Refreshing and honest, Each for the Other is a perfect guide to show spouses, engaged couples, and marriage counselors what marriage is meant to be.

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Publié par	Baker Publishing Group
Date de parution	01 août 2006
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781441200297
Langue	English

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A refreshing and definitive look at God s instructions to couples on how to live sacrificially-for each other and for their families.
Dennis Rainey, executive director, Family Life, Campus Crusade for Christ
Wielding his biblical scalpel with careful thoroughness, Bryan Chapell cuts to the heart of selfishness, irresponsibility, and abuse that mar so many supposedly Christian marriages today. More than that, he marks out the path of self-denying love in marriage with a firm hand, and provides discussion questions to ensure that couples who have read the book have grasped its message. This exposition can do nothing but good.
J. I. Packer, author, theologian
Each for the Other is one of the few indispensable books on marriage. Because of its biblical precisions and practical sensitivity, it is sweetly radical and bracing. Here is the landscape of marriage as it ought to be. This is a book to read, reread, and savor; a first-class achievement.
R. Kent Hughes, senior pastor, College Church in Wheaton
A marvelous treatment of the biblical model for and teaching on the family.
R. C. Sproul, author, theologian
The best book I ve read on the biblical view of family. It is refreshing in this day of how-to books to also learn the whys of God s concerns for the family.
Vesta Sproul, author
Devoid of tiresome clich s and performance-based stereotypes, Each for the Other is a refreshing study of what marriage can be when the gospel captures the hearts of a husband and wife, and grace fuels their intimacy. This encouraging book once again convinced me that marriage, like all of life, is to be lived out of the extravagant supply of God s love for us in Christ.
Scotty Smith, senior pastor, Christ Community Church, Franklin, Tennessee; author, Objects of His Affection
This book is the most thorough exposition of Ephesians 5:22-6:4 that I have read. It covers not only the husband and wife relationship but also that of parent and child. It is thoroughly scriptural, balanced, and fair to husband and wife, parent and child.
Jerry Bridges, author, The Discipline of Grace
There are so many books on marriage, and most of them are nonsense. They are either too lofty to help or too silly to abide. This one is profound, so if you read only one book on marriage, make this one it. Biblical, realistic, and practical. You ll thank me for recommending it to you.
Steve Brown, president, Key Life radio program; professor, Reformed Theological Seminary
The insights are profound but simple, and the distinction between submission as power and submission as grace is quite helpful.
Michael Horton, author, theologian, editor of Modern Reformation
I have used this book in premarital counseling and have seen it shape couples perspectives on the incredible intricacies of the marriage relationship. I have used it with married couples who are on the verge of trashing their whole relationship and have seen it pinpoint their selfishness and self-centeredness. . . . This is a tool that you will want to have at your disposal, that it may do a work in your life and be used in the lives of others. . . . This is a book I will want to read over and over again.
George Mitchell, chairman, Christian Education Committee, Presbyterian Church in America (PCA)
As I read Each for the Other , I had the sense of finding something for which I had long looked. The church is in desperate need of a teaching tool to help God s people build marriages that reflect the reality of his grace. I think this book is that tool. Bryan combines theological precision with tender practicality and passionately presents the need for and God s provision of grace in our marriages. This book is a must-read for every married couple and for every person considering marriage.
Susan Hunt, author; past director of Women in the Church, Presbyterian Church in America (PCA)
In a culture that often depreciates or functionalizes the marriage relationship, Bryan Chapell calls Christian couples to live beyond themselves in living out the gospel for one another. By reminding a husband, for example, that headship has strings attached, and by encouraging a wife to honor her spouse not because of the goodness he possesses, but because of the grace he needs, this book invites both partners to commit themselves to becoming conduits of God s sacrificial love for one another and for their children. Each for the Other is balanced, refreshing, practical, and thoroughly biblical.
Nancy Groom, author, Married without Masks and Heart to Heart about Men
EACH FOR THE OTHER

marriage as it s meant to be

REVISED EDITION

BRYAN CHAPELL WITH KATHY CHAPELL
1998, 2006 by Bryan Chapell and Kathy Chapell
Published by Baker Books a division of Baker Publishing Group P.O. Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287 www.bakerbooks.com
Printed in the United States of America
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means-for example, electronic, photocopy, recording-without the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Chapell, Bryan. Each for the other : marriage as it s meant to be / Bryan Chapell with Kathy Chapell.-Rev. ed. p. cm. Includes bibliographical references. (p. ). ISBN 10: 0-8010-6601-8 (pbk.) ISBN 978-0-8010-6601-6 (pbk.) 1. Spouses-Religious life. 2. Marriage-Religious aspects-Christianity. I. Chapell, Kathy. II. Title. BV4596.M3C48 2006 248.844-dc22
2006005990
Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations are taken from the HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION . NIV . Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved.
Scripture marked KJV is taken from the King James Version of the Bible.
Names of individuals and occasional specifics are changed in some personal accounts appearing in this book to respect the concerns and wishes of those involved. My debt is great to those who have taught me the realities of Christ s love by the testimony of their lives.
To Kathy, my wife, whose love yields joy, strength, comfort, courage, and faith.
In loving her, I find more of myself, more ability to love, and more of the love of my Savior.
Through her love, our children, Colin, Jordan, Corinne, and Kaitlin, bring us joy, pride, humility, and more faith.
In my absences, Kathy has been our family s heart. In my busyness, she has been our care. In my awkwardness, she has been our tenderness. We rise up and call her God s great blessing on our home (see Prov. 31:28).
C ONTENTS
Introduction: Who s in Charge?
Part 1 The Sacrificial Husband: To Scale the Heights
1. A Man s Responsibility: Servant Leadership
2. God s Reasons for Servant Leadership
3. God s Resources for Servant Leadership
Part 2 The Sacrificial Wife: Noble Love
4. A Woman s Responsibility: The Completion of Another
5. A Woman s Dignity: The Care of Another
6. A Woman s Desire: The Honor of Another
Part 3 Sacrificial Partners: Shared Love
7. Parental Foundations
8. Parental Responsibilities
9. Each for the Other Forever
Conclusion
Discussion Questions
Notes
I NTRODUCTION Who s in Charge?
T HEY KNEW THEIR relationship was coming apart when they came to see me. Though each claimed to be trying to do what the Bible says, love had drained from their marriage. The reason was not obvious. Both had come from church families and both were well schooled in Scripture. They had even met at a Christian college. I detected nothing in their backgrounds that could account for their current tension.
I asked the young man for his own explanation of their troubles. He expressed consternation. He said that he had tried to be a good husband. Because his college had emphasized following biblical family models, he had committed himself to being a spiritual leader in his home. I asked him how he expressed his leadership. This is what he said:
In order to make sure there is no question about who is the head of our home, I make sure both my wife and I let Scripture rule our actions. For instance, when I come home from work, I want to relax. Still, I try to act as the head of my home. If my wife asks for some help in the kitchen, or with the kids [he had three preschoolers, including a set of twins], I don t immediately drop my newspaper and snap to attention. To make clear who is the head of our home, I flip a coin in my mind. If it comes up heads, I help. If it comes up tails, I don t. That way there s no question of who s in charge.
Now I thought I was beginning to get an idea of where some of the problems in this marriage might lie. But why? Though this man s attitude may seem extreme, the Bible does say that the husband is the head of the home. Scripture gives a husband a right-even a responsibility-to keep spousal roles clear. So how do we know this man s conduct was wrong?
Finding answers to this question will require us to go beyond a surface reading of Scripture. We will see that the Bible never justifies dictatorial rule by one spouse or requires the abandonment of personal dignity by another.
The Glories of Sacrifice
Access to the deeper dimensions of the Bible s instruction requires no special revelations. Hearts open to the message of Scripture will recognize that God neither commends nor commands selfishness. When the prince of heaven gave his life to rescue us from our sin, he taught us the glory of sacrifice. Jesus said, Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it (Matt. 10:39). Lives devoted to serving self cannot avoid making one s own desires the god of every action. Such gods ultimately enslave us to our own appetites and deprive us of the relationships that make our lives fulfilling.
A marriage built on the foundation of persons finding happiness by using one another ignores th