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Jim Burns, president of HomeWord, lays a positive foundation for parenting with practical strategies and illustrations, teaching how to create a warm, grace-filled home.

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Philosophie et théologie

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Publié par	Baker Publishing Group
Date de parution	01 juillet 2008
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781585588299
Langue	English

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‘‘This is a terrific book. It affirmed some of my parenting, and yet I didn’t feel condemned for the ways in which I failed. . . . Even now, I can apply the transferable concepts to my grandmothering, and I will buy each of my children a copy of this book. I highly recommend it to you.’’
Ruth Graham , author of In Every Pew Sits a Broken Heart
‘‘Parents, we need this special book. In the face of a busy life and active kids, so many of us are just trying to survive! We essentially practice just-try-to-keep-up parenting or even default-to-old-habits parenting, and never really get out in front of the process. But in these pages, Jim Burns gives us exactly the encouragement and tools we need to put the words confident and parenting together.’’
Shaunti Feldhahn , bestselling author of the For Women Only series
‘‘Parents have read the statistics related to drugs, depression, and violence among children and they are afraid. For the concerned parent, here is a book that focuses on answers. . . . Confident Parenting is practical, biblical, and genuinely helpful. I highly recommend it.’’
Gary D. Chapman , author of The Five Love Languages and The Five Languages of Apology
‘‘Molding and shaping our children into image-bearers of God is a parent’s greatest challenge, but Jim’s sage advice in Confident Parenting will help you accomplish this lofty goal with grace.’’
Shannon Ethridge , MA, bestselling author of the Every Woman’s Battle series
‘‘Jim Burns has done it again. This book is both realistic and practical. Jim asks whether the phrase confident parenting is an oxymoron. It will be less so when you’ve read the book.’’
John Ortberg , pastor and author, Menlo Park Presbyterian Church
‘‘What a refreshing and encouraging book this is. . . . Many couples today see raising kids as a daunting task. And it is! But I can assure them that the principles outlined in Confident Parenting are as solid as they come and can go a long way to helping them build a healthy and happy family life.’’
Dr. Archibald D. Hart , Senior Professor of Psychology and Dean Emeritus, Graduate School of Psychology, Fuller Theological Seminary
‘‘If you’re like us, with little ones at home, you’re looking for a boost of confidence in the parenting department. Jim Burns is just the guy to supply it in this terrific book. We can’t imagine a parent on the planet who wouldn’t be encouraged by his practical message. It’s no-nonsense, grace-based, and thoroughly grounded.’’
Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott , authors of The Parent You Want to Be and founders of RealRelationships.com
‘‘Jim Burns teaches us that we can either recover from our family’s past or repeat it. His message is filled with hope and healing. I highly recommend Confident Parenting if you want to be a healthy and happy family.’’
Dr. Kevin Leman , parenting and marriage expert & author of Making Children Mind without Losing Yours
‘‘Now you can benefit from Jim Burns’s years of experience in helping families succeed! We wholeheartedly believe the principles in this book will be a great help to you and your family. This just may be his most significant work yet.’’
David and Claudia Arp , authors of 10 Great Dates and Suddenly They’re 13!
‘‘It’s not easy raising kids in today’s ever-changing culture. Jim Burns has written a compelling book to help parents know how to develop a positive, practical foundation to help their kids stay on the right path. I believe in Jim and this message.’’
Josh D. McDowell , author and speaker
‘‘Parenting a God-honoring family is the hardest and most challenging adventure of our lives. In Confident Parenting Jim walks alongside us in that challenge, counseling us with the warmth of someone in the midst of the same adventure.’’
Doug Fields , youth pastor, Saddleback Church, and author of Purpose Driven Youth Ministry
‘‘This book is refreshing and incredibly practical. Jim Burns gives you the tools not only to improve your own life but change your family from generation to generation.’’
Ginger Kolbaba , editor of Marriage Partnership Magazine and author of Surprised by Remarriage

Confident Parenting Copyright © 2007 by Jim Burns
Published by Bethany House Publishers 11400 Hampshire Avenue South Bloomington, Minnesota 55438 www.bethanyhouse.com
Bethany House Publishers is a division of Baker Publishing Group, Grand Rapids, Michigan. www.bakerpublishinggroup.com
Ebook edition created 2011
Ebook corrections 3.21.2012
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To Rod and Pam Emery
Friends, Leaders, Mentors filled with wisdom, generous with support
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
Thank you . . .
Cathy Burns . . . How could I be so fortunate to find you to be my life partner, parent extraordinaire, best friend, and hero. I love you.
Christy Burns . . . for your wonderful additions to this book. I am so proud of who you are and who you are becoming. You rock!
Rebecca and Heidi Burns . . . Sometimes I learn more from you than you have probably learned from me. I count it the privilege of a lifetime to be the dad of my three girls. I look forward to every call, every conversation, and every moment together.
Cindy Ward . . . You are a remarkable person. I stand in awe at your unfailing love for your family, your friends, and God. You are one of my greatest blessings on this planet. Thank you for your partnership in ministry.
Dean Bruns . . . If I haven’t told you how grateful I am for the privilege of working together for all these years, may it be in print in this book forever. Thank you for your dedication and passion. Thank you for your friendship and the laughter.
There are so many wonderful HomeWord staff, board members, and donors who daily fill my life with joy. I am amazed at the talent and generosity of the people who are changing the world through HomeWord. Thank you to Jeff Armour, Steve Arterburn, Randy Bramel, Susan Bramel, Rod Emery, Pam Emery, Rick Haugen, Bob Howard, Kelly Mitchell, Geoff Moore, Lucie Moore, Gordon Schaller, Jon Wallace, Aubrey Ashford, Bill Bauer, Dean Bruns, Todd Dean, Emily De La Torre, Lindsey DeVito, Brent Ferguson, Jeff Haddad, Betty Harper, Chris Jansen, Jim Liebelt, Roger Marsh, Linda McKinley, Julia Mestas, Megan Michaelson, Mary Perdue, Dionne Petitpas, Wayne Rice, Natalie Richardson, Scott Singletary, Kendall Steffensen, Ann Trotter, and Derek Yankoff.
My special thanks to Kyle Duncan, Greg Johnson, Tim Peterson, Julie Smith, Jeff Braun, and all the rest who made this book a reality. What a team!
CONTENTS
Cover Page
Endorsements
Title Page
Copyright Page
Dedication
Acknowledgments
Introduction
One: Confident Parenting: Is It Possible?
Two: You Can Be a Transitional Generation Parent: Overcoming Negative Family Patterns
Three: The Lesson of the Shema: A Road Map to Confident Parenting
Four: The Lesson of the Sabbath: Finding Replenishment for Overcrowded Lives
Five: The Lesson of A.W.E.: Communicating With Affection, Warmth, and Encouragement
Six: The Lesson of Discipline and Grace: Creating a Grace-Filled Home
Seven: The Lesson of the Blessing: Bringing Security and Honor to Your Home
Eight: Generation to Generation: Leaving a Lasting Legacy
Your Family Plan
Our Family Plan
Notes
About the Author
Books by Author
INTRODUCTION
‘‘I HATE YOU AND I HATE DAD! You are the worst parents who ever lived. All you do is yell at us kids and then argue with each other. It’s always so tense around here. Then you go to church and act all nice. I’m sick of it. I hate church. I hate this family. I hate my life.’’
Mark and Becky’s son, Jason, was having another one of his meltdowns. They knew in their hearts that he didn’t hate them or himself, and when he got upset he used words like always and never . His comments were out of line, but they still stung.
Mark and Becky ended up talking that night for a couple of hours about their family, their marriage, and their faith. They had to admit life was difficult and messy, and Jason was more right than wrong about the state of their family. The more they talked, the more frustrations surfaced. At last Mark blurted out, ‘‘Nothing’s working. Life isn’t turning out like I thought it would when we first got married.’’
From the start they both had such high hopes that their marriage and family life would be better than what they experienced growing up. Neither came from a horrible situation, but each family could easily be classified as somewhat dysfunctional. Mark grew up in a very strict home with