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From her survey of more than a hundred eligible men, noted relationship author Michelle McKinney Hammond paints a realistic picture of what really attracts men to women and what to do with his attention once you've got it....Men appreciate women who are open and honest (and smell nice!)Women who love the Lord radiate an inner beauty that is unequalled to any face cream sold on the Home Shopping NetworkMen really do notice the small details so take notice of how you present yourself in public.A clean, well-organized home tells a man that you have your life in order and are ready for commitment.Making your man feel like a priority in your life once you've captured his attention is crucial.

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Publié par	Harvest House Publishers
Date de parution	01 juin 2003
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9780736933490
Langue	English

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Published in association with the literary agency of Alive Communications, Inc., 7680 Goddard Street, Suite 200, Colorado Springs, CO 80920
101 WAYS TO GET AND KEEP HIS ATTENTION Copyright 2003 by Michelle McKinney Hammond Published by Harvest House Publishers Eugene, Oregon 97402
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data McKinney Hammond, Michelle, 1957- 101 ways to get and keep his attention / Michelle McKinney Hammond. p. cm. ISBN 0-7369-1136-7 1. Single women-Religious life. 2. Single women-Conduct of life. 3. Man-woman relationships-Biblical teaching. 4. Man-woman relationships-Religious aspects- Christianity. I. Title: One hundred and one ways to get and keep his attention. II. Title: One hundred one ways to get and keep his attention. III. Title. BV4596.S5M34 2003 248.8 43--dc21
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This book is dedicated to all the women who long for love- to give as well as receive. Remember, perfect love casts out all fear and opens the door for endless possibilities
Acknowledgments
To my Harvest House family-thank you for not only nurturing my creativity, but challenging me to grow.
Shana-thanks for reining me in, cause you know I like to keep it real, girl!
Betty, Barb, LaRae, Carolyn, Julie, Teresa, Brynn, Jill, Annie- you all are the best. I truly appreciate and love you.
Bob Jr.-the body reflects the head. God bless you for your leadership, caring, attention, and integrity.
Chip-thanks for always being there.
All my loved ones-you know who you are. Thank you for sacrificing time with me so that I can share with others. Your presence and support keep me going.
To all the men who dared to be honest so that I could write this book-I thank you. Words cannot express how valuable and life-changing your input was to me.
Contents
Acknowledgments
The Thing About Men
Sight
The Eye of the Beholder
Sound
The Wonder of Words
Smell
The Scent of a Woman
Taste
The Spice of Life
Touch
A Woman s Touch
Other Books by Michelle McKinney Hammond
The Thing About Men
M en! What is it about them? What do they want anyway? Whether single or married, can anyone figure them out? What are they looking for in a woman? Do they even know? Of course they do! Do we take the time to ask them becomes the bigger question.
Well, I decided to ask men of all sizes, shapes, colors, ages, and walks of life what gets their attention. But more importantly, what keeps their attention. The results were rather surprising. Their answers didn t vary that much. The greatest discovery from my survey is: We women overthink this thing called attraction. We magnify the miniscule and overlook things that are major deal makers or breakers in their minds.
I polled men from college age to late seventies. Believers and nonbelievers. Professionals, blue collar, entrepreneurs, and unemployed. Men of different races and backgrounds. Their needs and wants, though greatly detailed, were pretty basic. The biggest shocker came from Christian men-the characteristics they look for in a woman were not that different from those who did not claim to be religious. This led me to a great revelation. While women who know Christ are striving to live a life that is pleasing to God, they cannot ignore the fact that they are dealing with a man who is first human, then spiritual.
The big dilemma for the average Christian male is that he knows what he should desire in a woman as a new creature in Christ. But there are also the things he really desires-natural desires that do not go away when he becomes a Christian. Because no one discusses these issues or gives men permission to feel what they feel, many experience anxiety-locked in a secret battle with themselves. To admit they want a beautiful woman seems carnal. However, the Bible never plays down the beauty of women or men. In fact, it is celebrated and sung about in Scripture. How do we find a balance for these God-given desires that have been perverted by the ways of the world?
Men are not the only ones facing a dilemma. Most women who come to know Christ are anxious to cast off their worldly ways, but they find themselves at a loss as to how to balance their spiritual walk with the art of natural attraction. Fear causes them to go to the other extreme- forsaking natural God-given gifts that were meant to nurture fruitful relationships. In the end, after many disappointments, they wonder why true love, commitment, and romance seem so elusive.
Well, you can count on me to give you the inside scoop. Rather than give away names and internal secrets, I will simply deal with the information that was so freely shared with me. Then, of course, it s always a good idea to ask the One who created men. And, might I add, created them to reflect His own heart. Who could comprehend their hearts better than the One who shaped them and intimately knows them? It is always wise to examine the natural as well as the spiritual when dealing with something as powerful as love.
This has become more apparent to me as I travel the country talking with men and women who are struggling with their relationships. Women wonder why men in the church are venturing beyond church walls to find mates. Don t they want a godly mate? The answer is yes, but they don t want a boring one. They want a woman who is sold out to the Lord but still in possession of all the attributes they expect to find in a woman. Godly does not mean uptight and puritanical. We simply must learn how to love and be loved in the right context.
You might ask why am I writing this book. The answer is simple. Relationships in the church are in trouble. Satan, who hates marriage, is busy keeping good, single men and women apart or attacking marriage by keeping husbands and wives at odds with one another. Recently, I spoke at a church. Afterward, one husband came to my book table asking for everything I had to give to his wife. I complimented his wife on the outfit she was wearing and got an earful from this man. He informed me he had bought her the suit and she had never even thanked him for it. It didn t stop there. He went on to tell me that he did the cooking, cleaning, and laundry at his house and his wife did nothing. He felt unloved and could I please talk to his wife! I was taken aback. Here was a woman who knew how to praise the Lord but not how to please her husband! In her mind, she felt she was a godly woman.
We must all be careful of being so heavenly minded we are no earthly good. The Bible clearly states that if we say we love the Lord but don t love our brother, we are a liar! Love is only evidenced by our actions. Of course, I did not have all the facts about their relationship and, therefore, would not judge this lovely woman or speak against her. Perhaps he had wounded her, and she was bound in unforgiveness. As women of God, we must be able to bring our wounds to Christ, and speak the truth in love to those we are in a relationship with.
Later, I received a letter from yet another sister in the Lord who admitted to not paying attention to her husband after having a baby. Now he was seeking attention from someone else. How could she get his attention back, she asked. She was at a loss as to what to do. This man was also a believer in the church! It is alarming to read statistics that report marriages in the church are failing at the same rate as marriages in the secular arena. Time is not being taken to counsel women and men on how to find and maintain fulfilling and joyous relationships. This area, so overlooked, is important because victorious singles and happy marriages are a great witness to the world. They translate the love and power of God into a practical application that can be grasped and imitated.
A happier story is one of a wife who, after hearing me speak, went home and put my suggestions into action. The next day, a glowing husband and wife stood before me. The husband thanked me for my influence in his wife s life. This wife emailed me months later to tell me of the profound effect her changed behavior had on their marriage. She was still on cloud nine!
There are countless examples I could give on the difference that attention to a few details can make in your interaction with men, whether single or married. I will be sharing about both types of relationships in this book. At times, I will clarify what is appropriate for singles versus married women.
A word of caution here: Some of you might find yourself being challenged on different personal habits and attitudes. I must admit that I, too, was confronted about some areas where I could tighten up