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Abnormal psychology

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Publié par	New Harbinger Publications
Date de parution	01 juin 2013
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781608827176
Langue	English

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“ Courage after Fire for Parents of Service Members empowers those of us who are the parents of a returning veteran with vital information and handson strategies to better understand and support our sons and daughters after they return home from warzone deployments. A mustread for every parent of an active duty service member or veteran.”
— Belle Landau , executive director of Returning Veterans Project and mother of an OIF Veteran
“Whether you’re a parent, other family member, or good friend of a service member or veteran who is struggling with readjustment, this muchneeded book can help you understand more about what your loved one is going through and show you how you can better assist him or her in coping with the psychological and physical injuries that can result from going to war. Strongly recommended!”
— Josef I. Ruzek, PhD , director of the National Center for PTSD Dissemination and Training Division, Veterans Affairs Palo Alto Health Care System, and associate professor, Pacific Graduate School for Psychology
“Written by a remarkable team of mental health professionals with extensive experience in serving veterans and their families, Courage After Fire for Parents of Service Members is a treasure trove of information and wisdom for parents of service members returning home from war. Similar to its predecessor, Courage After Fire, written for service members themselves, this sequel offers compassionate understanding, critical information, and insights, as well as practical advice for how to survive and even thrive following combat deployment.”
— Douglas K. Snyder, PhD , professor of clinical psychology at Texas A&M University in College Station and coeditor of CoupleBased Interventions for Military and Veteran Families: A Practitioner’s Guide
“As a parent of two Operation Enduring Freedom veterans, and as a chaplain who has both served in combat and ministered to thousands of families of combat veterans, I can attest to the need for a guide for parents on how to help their sons and daughters when they return from combat. Parents will greatly benefit from the valuable information in this book. I wish we had this book a decade ago. It fills a huge void.”
— CH (COL) John Morris , JFHQ Chaplain, Minnesota National Guard and parent of two OEF Veterans
“Domenici, Best, and Armstrong attend to the forgotten family members of our warfighters—their parents—with compassion, wisdom, and clarity. No matter how old they are or their circumstances, [service members] are someone’s children who need help, which this book provides.”
—Charles R. Figley, PhD , former USMC SGT, Vietnam Veteran, Tulane University Distinguished Professor, and Kurzweg Chair in Disaster Mental Health
“Fantastic resource! A mustread for every parent with a returning daughter or son. The authors have taken a very complex and critical topic and converted it into an easy reference guide that parents can use to tailor to their family situation. Courage After Fire for Parents of Service Members is loaded with insightful suggestions, practical tips, and useful advice that will help parents and service members more successfully navigate their journey together.”
— Alan V. Rogers, Major General, USAF (Ret)
“ Courage After Fire for Parents of Service Members gives parents the hope that troubling behaviors and changes will improve over time; it gives them the tools to address their own issues and their service members’ issues in constructive, patient ways. I wish my mother had this book when I came home from Vietnam… . She would have been less troubled, and I would have been less guilty about how my anxieties hurt her.”
— Anthony Hare, PsyD , Vietnam Veteran and Executive Director of the Center for Catastrophic Risk Management at the University of California, Berkeley
“At once poignant, enlightening, and instructive for anyone with family or friends in the military! This book is destined to become the authoritative manual for dealing with preand postdeployment issues.”
— Nancy Totman , Blue Star Mom of Navy Submariner
“This beautiful book is a mustread for all parents whose children live and work in harm’s way. The authors help parents grasp the wounds war inflicts and the challenges of adjustment after deployment.”
— Sue Johnson, EdD , professor at Alliant International University and University of Ottawa, Canada, and author of Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love .
“ Courage after Fire for Parents of Service Members is the guide every parent must have to cope with the enlistment and deployments of their children, and is something I wish my parents had when I deployed to Afghanistan in 2005. This book shows parents how to do what they have always done throughout their children’s lives—take care of them and protect them—especially now, when they need their parents the most.”
— Derek Blumke , cofounder of Student Veterans of America and Former Director of the Department of Veterans Affairs VITAL Initiative

Publisher’s Note
This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.
Distributed in Canada by Raincoast Books
Copyright © 2013 by Paula Domenici, Suzanne Best, and Keith Armstrong
New Harbinger Publications, Inc.
5674 Shattuck Avenue
Oakland, CA 94609
www.newharbinger.com
Cover design by Amy Shoup; Acquired by Melissa Kirk; Edited by Will DeRooy
All Rights Reserved
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Domenici, Paula.
Courage after fire for parents of service members : strategies for coping when your son or daughter returns from deployment / Paula Domenici, PhD, Suzanne Best, PhD, and Keith Armstrong, LCSW; foreword by Senator Bob Dole.
pages cm
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 978-1-60882-715-2 (pbk. : alk. paper) -- ISBN 978-1-60882-716-9 (pdf e-book) -- ISBN 978-1-60882-717-6 (epub) 1. Veterans’ families--United States--Handbooks, manuals, etc. 2. Families of military personnel--Handbooks, manuals, etc. 3. Parent and adult child--United States. 4. Veterans--Services for--United States. 5. Veterans--United States--Psychology. 6. Veterans--Mental health--United States. 7. War neuroses--United States. 8. Veteran reintegration--United States. I. Best, Suzanne, 1962- II. Armstrong, Keith (Keith Robert) III. Title.
UB403.D65 2013
355.1’2--dc23
2013014404
To the parents of our returning veterans:
We thank you for supporting these courageous men and women.
Contents
Foreword
Acknowledgments
Introduction: To America’s Unsung Heroes
Welcome Home! Reintegration Joys and Challenges
Professional, Vocational, and Financial Concerns
Deployment’s Toll on the Mind and Spirit: Psychological Injuries and Spiritual Struggles
Deployment’s Toll on the Body: Physical Injuries
How to Get Your Veteran the Health Care He or She Deserves
Strengthening and Maintaining Relationships within Your Family
Caring Is Wearing: Taking Good Care of Yourself to Better Help Your Service Member
Resources
References
Foreword
by Senator Bob Dole
As a parent, watching a son or daughter deploy to go off to war demands courage and the overriding of a fundamental and powerful instinct: to protect your child from harm at all costs.
Like the men and women who join the Armed Forces and risk their lives in combat, parents largely regard their children’s military service with pride, admiration, and love of country. But no matter how much pride and faith we have in our military service members, I have never met a parent who did not feel uneasy or apprehensive about watching their son or daughter go headlong into harm’s way.
While military families are some of the most resilient people in America, deployment cycles can be agonizing for those who are safe at home, missing and worrying about their loved ones. Parents are challenged daily when their sons and daughters are overseas. Every lag in e-mail correspondence. Every news report about the war. Every late-night phone call or knock at the door can be stressful.
And then there’s the long-awaited reunion. It would be wonderful if all the concerns ended along with the deployment. Some of them do. But more often than not, the concerns do not end when your loved one comes home—the concerns simply change.
Readjusting to civilian life is a deeply personal process that affects the lives of everyone who cares for a returning service member. As a parent, providing care can be tough. A veteran may need support, encouragement, company, or space. Knowing when and how to provide for these needs can be difficult.
In the World War II era, when I completed my military service, the war touched the daily lives of most Americans. The brotherhood and sisterhood of having loved ones in combat was much broader, and the issues were more deeply woven into the everyday lives of all Americans.
Today less than 1 percent of the country’s population is serving. And though this generation of service members may feel a general sense of goodwill from their civilian counterparts, their experiences are only vaguely understood by the majority of the country. Most daily lives have not changed during these conflicts.
Useful answers to common questions parents of veterans have are not easily found in movies, newspapers, or television shows. How do you relate to a son or daughter who seems distant since coming home? How do you advocate for a child who is struggling socially, educationally, or vocationally? How do you assist a son or daughter who is experiencing combat stress, especially if he or she is not comfortable asking for or receiving help?
And how do you know when you are nearing your breaking point and need to get help for yourself?
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