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It takes someone like Dr. Rajiv Parti, an anesthesiologist who specialised in treating pain, to tell the truth about it. After suffering from a series of debilitating nearly fatal illnesses that started in August 2008, Dr. Parti realised he was addicted to painkillers in March 2011. That's when he made the difficult but ethical choice to give up his practice, to conquer his addiction, and to search for a real solution. Soon he realised that his pain was not just physical but deeply emotional, psychological, and spiritual. That led him to Ayurveda, the traditional medicine of India where he was born. By becoming a student of that ancient holistic, natural practice, which he combined with meditation and yoga, Dr. Parti was able to regain control of his life with a new focus: to share his personal journey through pain to forgiveness, love, and healing.

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Publié par	Turner Publishing Company
Date de parution	15 février 2014
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781591207047
Langue	English
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PAIN:
FORGIVE, LOVE, HEAL
R AJIV P ARTI , M.D.
The information contained in this book is based upon the research and personal and professional experiences of the author. It is not intended as a substitute for consulting with your physician or other healthcare provider. Any attempt to diagnose and treat an illness should be done under the direction of a healthcare professional.
The publisher does not advocate the use of any particular healthcare protocol but believes the information in this book should be available to the public. The publisher and author are not responsible for any adverse effects or consequences resulting from the use of the suggestions, preparations, or procedures discussed in this book. Should the reader have any questions concerning the appropriateness of any procedures or preparation mentioned, the author and the publisher strongly suggest consulting a professional healthcare advisor.
Basic Health Publications, Inc.
28812 Top of the World Drive Laguna Beach, CA 92651 949-715-7327 • www.basichealthpub.com
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Parti, Rajiv.
Pain : forgive, love, heal / Rajiv Parti, M.D.
pages cm
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN 978-1-59120-704-7
1. Pain—Psychological aspects. 2. Medication abuse—Patients—Rehabilitation. 3. Medicine, Ayurvedic. 4. Mind and body. I. Title.
RB127.P3678 2014
616'.0472--dc23
2013039241
Copyright © 2014 by Rajiv Parti
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, without written permission from the author.
Editor: Susan E. Davis Typesetting/Book design: Gary A. Rosenberg * www.thebookcouple.com Cover design: Mike Stromberg
Printed in the United States of America
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C ONTENTS
Part One: Pain and Its Meanings
  1. “I Feel Your Pain”
  2. Life as Pain or Life as Love?
  3. Masking Pain
  4. Replacing Pain
Part Two: The Process of Pain
  5. Crisis
  6. Adjustment
  7. Resolution
Part Three: The Answer to Pain
  8. Forgive
  9. Love
10. Heal
Endnotes
Further Reading
Online Resources
About the Author
To my parents and to Arpana Parti, my wife.
A CKNOWLEDGMENTS
Many people have helped in the creation of this book. I am deeply grateful to my teachers, my patients, my colleagues, and the physicians and medical staff who provided me with life-saving care.
I would also like to thank Bill Gladstone, my literary agent, and editors Mitch Sisskind and Susan E. Davis who helped prepare the book for publication.
PART ONE
P AIN AND I TS M EANINGS
H uman beings are meant to be healthy. In body, mind, and spirit, we are designed for wellbeing. But this is not an end in itself. We are meant by nature to love and be loved, and good health is the environment in which this destiny can best be fulfilled.
But so many of us live in pain. Chronic or acute, physical or emotional, pain in one form or another is the cause of medical appointments involving millions of people every day. Yet in the majority of appointments involving chronic pain, no specific physical cause can be found. Why is this? How can this be? What can we do about it?
We can forgive. We can love. We can heal. But to do this with strength and understanding, we must first look closely at pain and the role it plays in our lives.
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“I F EEL Y OUR P AIN ”
P resident Bill Clinton spoke those words at a public event in 1992. He was responding to a comment from a man who felt that the government was not sufficiently responsive to the AIDS crisis in the United States. Ever since then, “I feel your pain” has been one of Bill Clinton’s signature quotes. But can one person really feel another person’s pain? Can one person know what another person is feeling, whether it’s pain, love, hunger, fear, or anything else? I’m not really sure. But the subject of this book is how to end your pain, not for me to feel it. And ending pain is an area in which I have experience as a board certified physician in anesthesiology and pain management—and also as a cancer patient who underwent surgery, chemotherapy, and eventual dependency on painkilling drugs.
I am a first-generation immigrant from India who just a few years ago was living the so-called American Dream in California. I had an expensive 10,000-square-foot home on a lake and an exclusive golf course. I was chief of anesthesia at a nearby hospital. I loved my work. Caring for patients undergoing heart surgery was my passion. The more challenging the case, the more satisfied I felt after doing a good job. My biggest satisfaction used to come when I made rounds in the morning and saw surgery patients having breakfast with a loved one. Sometimes I wondered if they had any idea how deeply at risk their life was for a time—for example, when we in the operating theater were having difficulty jump-starting their hearts after a long “pump run.”
I had expensive cars, and got a new one every few years. Often I would kid with my friends, “I can’t change my wife, but at least I can change my cars!” Behind this kidding was the truth that my wife is the best thing that has ever happened in my life. I often call her my “ordered”—everything that I would want in a woman is in my wife, as if she was made to order for me. My life was as perfect as I could want it to be.
Then, a few years ago, the period that I call My Dark Night of the Soul began. One by one I started losing everything that was—or seemed to be—dear to me. First I lost my health. I sustained a painful injury to my right wrist, which meant I could not work. Then I was diagnosed with prostate cancer and had to undergo surgery. But instead of recovering normally, I developed severe post-surgical infections. One night—it was Christmas Eve—I had a 105-degree fever and felt I was going to die. I required emergency surgery to drain the infection. I survived, but I had raw surgical wounds that lasted for weeks. This left me spiritually, emotionally, and physically devastated.
My Dark Night continued. Along with chronic pelvic pain from half a dozen urological surgeries, I developed severe depression. I was on a combination of antidepressants and heavy-duty pain medications. Because I was considered physically well as long as I took the medication, I was deemed well enough to go back to work as an anesthesiologist. But I knew it was not the right thing to do. Even a slight error in my judgment could kill a patient, and with all the medications I was on that slight error seemed very possible. I therefore found myself unable to work, and went on medical disability. I had to sell my house at a substantial loss.
At one point I lost all hope and wanted only to leave this world. But my wife’s steady, true, unconditional love and support prevented me from taking any action to that effect. I can only now imagine how painful it was for her when, on my birthday, I asked for a gift: “If you really love me, please let me go. Life is just too painful.” I’m so grateful that she would not give me that “gift” I asked for.
Today I feel that I had to go through all this as a lesson. I had to find my true purpose in life. That’s why I’m writing this book. I want to invite you to explore with me what it really means to end pain in all its forms. The keys to that, as I discovered and you will learn, are to forgive, love, and heal yourself. Forgive, love, and heal—and end pain of every kind.
WHAT IS PAIN?
Most of us want our path in life to be predictable, with no rough patches or surprising twists. We are averse to abrupt changes in the path’s surface from smooth to rough, sudden hairpin turns and drop offs that mean we have to carefully negotiate ourselves down a bluff to continue our journey. Very simply put, we want to avoid pain. Yes, we want to have pleasure, too, but while pleasure is certainly important, it is also secondary. First and foremost, we human beings want to avoid pain. And when pain can’t be avoided, we want to get rid of it as quickly as possible.
If pain can be thought of as a “bump in the road,” then there are no bump-free roads in life. There are no totally smooth and predictable paths. Sure, most of us find benign sections that are relatively easy to traverse, stretches that allow us to glide along the surface as if we’re on roller skates. But sooner or later, there comes the unexpected bend that sets us on a new direction or a difficult expanse that requires us to pay close attention to how we are navigating on our journey.
Regardless of how it may seem at the time, the unforeseen circumstances that crop up as we make our way along our path can be among the most valuable events of our lives. We all know this when we look back on what happened in the past, but somehow current problems always seems much more painful. Well-known examples include the dreaded layoff that eventually leads to another job much better than the first. Or the stressful breakup that frees us to meet the love of our life. Or the unintended pregnancy that seemed devastating and then brings a child that is a priceless blessing.
Even a terrible and painful disease like cancer can be an opportunity for amazing insight and transformation—and I say that as a person who has been a cancer patient. This is not to say that cancer is a good thing. It’s just that good can come of it. A lot of good can come of it, and that might never have happened if cancer had not swept away distractions and revealed what’s really important in every day and every moment.
We can wish that life wasn’t so painfully unpredictable and predictably painful. Or we can accept and embrace those circumstances and find ways they can send us in new and possibly enlightening directions. It isn’t easy, and it’s not supposed to be easy. But here at the start of this book, I want you to know that I’m making these statements from my own se