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Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
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#1 The art of communication is a difficult one, and we may do our best to speak but still feel unheard. We may find that we cannot affect our husband or wife or partner, that fights go nowhere, and that conflict brings only pain rather than an opportunity for two people to learn more about each other.
#2 We can never guarantee that the other person will get our message, or respond the way we want. But we can learn to be heard and move relationships forward. We can take a conversation to the next level when the initial foray doesn’t bring the desired result.
#3 The challenge of finding an authentic voice within an intimate relationship is far larger than a word like communication can ever begin to describe. Authenticity brings to mind such elusive qualities as being fully present, centered, and in touch with our best selves in our most important conversations.
#4 The challenge in conversation is not just to be ourselves, but to choose the self we want to be. We don’t discover who we are by sitting alone on a mountaintop and meditating, or by being introspective and going deeper.

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Interpersonal Relations

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Publié par	Everest Media LLC
Date de parution	01 mai 2022
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781669398295
Langue	English
Poids de l'ouvrage	1 Mo

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Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The art of communication is a difficult one, and we may do our best to speak but still feel unheard. We may find that we cannot affect our husband or wife or partner, that fights go nowhere, and that conflict brings only pain rather than an opportunity for two people to learn more about each other.

#2

We can never guarantee that the other person will get our message, or respond the way we want. But we can learn to be heard and move relationships forward. We can take a conversation to the next level when the initial foray doesn’t bring the desired result.

#3

The challenge of finding an authentic voice within an intimate relationship is far larger than a word like communication can ever begin to describe. Authenticity brings to mind such elusive qualities as being fully present, centered, and in touch with our best selves in our most important conversations.

#4

The challenge in conversation is not just to be ourselves, but to choose the self we want to be. We don’t discover who we are by sitting alone on a mountaintop and meditating, or by being introspective and going deeper.

#5

Truth telling is one of the most important human rights. It is the ability to speak our mind and heart, and it is the core of both intimacy and self-regard. However, speaking our mind and heart is not always a virtue.

#6

The ability to have a voice is at the heart of who we are in the world and the foundation of both intimacy and self-regard. By using our voice to enhance rather than diminish our understanding of ourselves and others, we can: create a more accurate and complex picture of ourselves and another person, speak with honor and personal integrity, and strengthen our capacity for creativity, wisdom, joy, and zest.

#7

The world’s major institutions are still run by men, despite three decades of feminism. In their private lives, even those men often fall silent or speak too loudly when they feel they can’t hold their own in talking things through.

#8

The idea that women need conversation and togetherness more than men does not take into account the complexity of human experience or the reality of any particular individual on any given day.

#9

My father, who died in 1998, was a man who couldn’t speak his mind. He was a great speaker, and I admired his passion for language and words. But most of all, he influenced me by the fact that he couldn’t speak out when it mattered most.
Insights from Chapter 2

#1

The author’s father, Archie, was the accommodating partner, while his mother, Rose, made all the decisions. Archie allowed it to be her call whether he would have one egg or two, seconds on dessert, or whether he would get the burned piece of toast.

#2

My father was a great talker, but he had no idea how to communicate with my mother, who was extremely emotional. When things were calm and superficial, they enjoyed each other’s company. But when the subject at hand was emotionally loaded, my father would shut down.

#3

My father, who was extremely tidy and organized, would leave the rubber gloves he wore when he cleaned the pots out on the counter when he was done with them. My mother would complain about him to me and my sister, and he would respond with two words: I forgot.

#4

My father, who was so good with words, was also terrified of them. He never expressed his wants and beliefs or said anything that would bring the differences between him and another person into bold relief.

#5

Birth order is just one thread in the rich tapestry of family life, and it could not explain my father’s extreme accommodation. Archie and Rose were both children of Russian Jewish immigrant parents, and they fit well together. But Archie was not responsible, and his family was not close-knit.

#6

Archie, despite being his mother’s loyal son, could not recall ever disagreeing with her or voicing a dissenting opinion. He was too afraid of being abandoned to speak in his own voice.

#7

When my father married, the conflict between him and his mother-in-law increased. He had to choose between them, and he ended up doing both of their bidding. He lost his self-respect along the way.

#8

When it’s the woman who assumes the accommodating position, she may suffer deeply and end up in a therapist’s office, saying, What’s wrong with me. But she does not bring into question what it means to be a woman.

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