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As God allows us to understand the mystery and marvel of brain science, we have the exciting opportunity to reexamine our assumptions about human behavior. Perhaps nowhere does this impact our lives more profoundly than when we think about raising children--especially teenagers. Where parents often see a sweet boy or girl who has morphed into an incomprehensible bundle of hormones and angst, what we really ought to be seeing is an amazing young adult whose brain is under heavy construction. And changing the way we see our teens will revolutionize our relationships with them.Organized by what we hear teens say--things like I'm bored, You just don't understand, Why are you freaking out?, I hate my life!, or Hold on . . . I just have to send this--this book helps parents develop compassion for their teens and discernment in parenting them as their brains are progressively remodeled. Rather than seeing the teen years as a time to simply hold on for dear life, Dr. Jeramy and Jerusha Clark show that they can be an amazing season of cultivating creativity, self-awareness, and passion for the things that really matter.

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Publié par	Baker Publishing Group
Date de parution	29 mars 2016
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781493401437
Langue	English

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© 2016 by Dr. Jeramy and Jerusha Clark
Published by Baker Books
a division of Baker Publishing Group
PO Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516–6287
www.bakerbooks.com
Ebook edition created 2016
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ISBN 978-1-4934-0143-7
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Dedication
To our precious teenage daughters,
Jocelyn Alexandra,
creator of fabulous fan fiction, gorgeous dress designs, and incredible artwork. The moment you entered the world you changed our lives forever and for better. PS: Though we would miss you like crazy, you’d be a great companion for The Doctor.
Jasmine Alyssa,
amazing gymnast, fantastic spa proprietor, and mastermind behind the “Bubble Theory.” “Teenagers are like bubbles. If you touch them too hard, they will pop. If the bubble pops, all their anger is let out on you. If you continue to guide the bubble and lead it in the right direction, out of harm’s way, it will continue to bubble and grow.”
Contents
Cover 1
Title Page 3
Copyright Page 4
Dedication 5
Foreword by Dr. Earl Henslin 9
Preface 11
Introduction 15
1. You Don’t Understand 21
2. Leave Me Alone 30
3. But Why ? 39
4. I’m So Bored 48
5. That Could Be Epic 56
6. But Nothing Happened 66
7. What Do You Want Me to Say? 77
8. Why Are You Freaking Out? 88
9. Why Are You Looking at Me Like That? 98
10. Aren’t You Sorry? 107
11. What’s Wrong with My Friends? 116
12. It’s Not Like We’re Getting Married 127
13. This Is Sooooo Awkward 137
14. But It’s Mine 147
15. Hold On, I Just Have to Send This 158
16. It’s Not That Bad 172
17. How Do I Know That’s True? 184
18. It’s Not My Fault 194
19. I Can’t Take This! 204
20. I’m So Tired 213
21. I’m Starving 223
22. What’s Wrong with Me? 231
23. It’s Not All I Think About! 242
24. I Feel So Ugly 251
25. I Hate My Life 261
26. What If . . . ? 272
Appendix A: The Truth about Substance Abuse 283
Appendix B: The Truth about Self-Injury 287
Appendix C: The Truth about Suicide 291
Acknowledgments 295
Notes 299
About the Authors 317
Back Ad 318
Back Cover 319
Foreword
Your Teenager Is Not Crazy is the first book in the Christian market to so thoughtfully integrate the latest in neuroscience with God’s timeless truth. It is a landmark book that will help parents make sense out of the changes happening in their teens as they mature. What is so wonderful about Your Teenager Is Not Crazy is that it is born out of the Clarks’ years of daily ministry and a passion to help teenagers, including their own, grow deeper in Christ while learning to live healthy lives—body, soul, and spirit. Jeramy and Jerusha help parents understand that they cannot separate adolescent brain development from soul development. If the brain of a teen is not working right, their spiritual development will be hampered. What is exciting to me is the emphasis on helping parents understand the remarkable uniqueness of their child’s brain. What works to motivate one teen will not work to motivate another teen. Yet if you understand the uniqueness of how God has wired your teen and learn to work with that child as God created them, you can help them optimize and reach the potential God has wired into them. This book will help you do just that.
You will enjoy learning a great deal as you read through each chapter. Your Teenager Is Not Crazy will deepen your understanding of the inner world of your teen. An added benefit: it will help you make sense out of your own adolescent years! Tough issues like sexuality are addressed in an insightful manner that will help bring clarity to what can be a confusing and bewildering time for both parent and teen. As you read this book, you will become excited and passionate about the reality that God has uniquely wired your teen’s brain for a relationship with Him. You’ll also be excited and empowered by the practical strategies that Jeramy and Jerusha share.
Your Teenager Is Not Crazy is not only a book you’ll enjoy reading; you’ll actually want to buy it by the case to give to youth leaders, friends, and relatives! God will use it to help guide you through the exciting adolescent years of your teen’s developing brain—which means your teen’s developing soul. You will be grateful for the time you invest reading this groundbreaking book and the step s you take in implementing the insights and practical strategies.
Blessings!
Dr. Earl Henslin, PsyD, author of This Is Your Brain on Joy and This Is Your Brain on Love
Preface
If you ask parents to describe the teenage years, words like crazy , confusing , frustrating , scary , and out of control will likely crop up, as might—though perhaps less frequently—descriptors such as exciting , adventurous , and exhilarating . Research indicates that regardless of socioeconomic background, race, or location, parents of teens experience a relatively consistent set of emotions that leave many perplexed and exhausted.
Perform a similar exercise by inviting emerging adults to describe the years of their adolescence, and a fascinating trend emerges. The very same adjectives—describing the good, the bad, and the totally baffling—are used by those recently in the throes of their formative years to depict the tumult of their teenage lives.
A myriad of explanations has been set forth to decipher this perplexing phenomenon: adolescents seem out of their mind at some point, if not for the entirety of their teenage years. Vibrant one moment and sullenly apathetic the next, engaging in risky and impulsive behaviors one day and espousing profound reflections on life, relationships, and faith the next, teenagers confound parents, who wonder, Who is this alien in my child’s skin? Why did she stop smiling? Why is he angry all the time? What were they thinking? What in the world do I do ?
One explanation—the one most prominent when we were teenagers—goes as follows: teenagers are a raging ball of hormones, and the best parents can do is buckle up, hang on for dear life, and pray that the entire roller coaster cart of their adolescent’s life doesn’t spontaneously jump off the track, explode, or get confiscated by federal authorities.
In this paradigm, hormones explained why guys were less mature than girls, why they seemed obsessed with some things and clueless about others, and why they did things like turn fire hoses on their biology teachers (not that Jeramy ever did that). This theory told parents of adolescent girls that hormones accounted for the outbursts of violent tears, the desire of their daughters to date the most ridiculous young men imaginable, and hours spent in the bathroom attempting to wrestle hair, makeup, and acne into submission.
According to the latest neurobiological research, however, hormones are only one piece of a much larger puzzle. The good news? You don’t have to figure out how to predict your teenager’s behavior based on biochemicals. Understanding basic physiological facts is important, but this book will enable you to see your teenager as more than an out-of-control hormoniac.
Another misconception popularized by the media is that teens experience a form of “temporary insanity” while their brains develop. Because their brains are immature, their behavior will be irresponsible. There’s not much you can do but sigh deeply, try to be patient, and wait until your adolescent “grows up,” hoping that no harm will come to your child (or other people!) because your teen is half-baked.
Radical neurological changes do occur during adolescence, and understanding them is crucial, but—as you might infer from the title of this book—what we now know about the brain doesn’t support the notion that your teenager will be insane until further notice. Hear us loud and clear: your teenager is not crazy.
Furthermore, we cannot view adolescent brain development simply as a process of moving from immaturity to maturity. Indeed, because of the progressive remodeling of the brain during this period, the teen years can be an amazing season of cultivating creativity, self-awareness, and passion for