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This ebook shares the wisdom from the most prolific sexual addiction experts in the world talking about sexual addiction, shame, trauma, trauma reenactment, partner betrayal, partner pain, love addiction, and other issues that contribute to compulsive sexual acting out.

Two of the chapters include Patrick Carnes who founded the Sexual Addiction Recovery Movement and Claudia Black who helps Partners of Sex Addicts regain their equilibrium from this traumatic disorder. This book simplifies the principles that make recovery possible for anyone who has been affected by sexual addiction.

If you believe that you have a sexual addiction or you love someone who suffers from this addiction, you will benefit from reading the recovery tasks that will take your life to the next level!

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Santé et bien-être

Santé mentale & traumatisme

Santé mentale

Pornography Addiction

Compulsive Behavior

Self-help

Sex

Sexualité

sexualité

Sexualité

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Date de parution	12 juillet 2016
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781456626907
Langue	English

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Sexual Addiction
Messages from the Masters

Compiled by
Carol Juergensen Sheets, LCSW, CSAT, PCC,
host of www.blogtalkradio.com/SexhelpwithCaroltheCoach

Copyright © 2016 by Carol Juergensen Sheets
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be used or reproduced, stored or entered into a retrieval system, transmitted, photocopied, recorded or otherwise reproduced in any form by any mechanical or electronic means, without the prior written permission by Carol Juergensen Sheets, except for brief quotations used in articles and reviews.
Editor’s note: This ebook shares the wisdom from the most prolific sexual addiction experts in the world talking about sexual addiction, shame, trauma, trauma reenactment, partner betrayal, partner pain, love addiction, and other issues that contribute to compulsive sexual acting out.
All proceeds are to benefit the American Foundation for Addiction Research (AFAR).
Carol Juergensen Sheets
365 Boston Post Road, #311
Sudbury, MA 01776
www.blogtalkradio.com/SexhelpwithCaroltheCoach
Published in eBook format by eBookIt.com
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Sexual Addiction: Messages from the Masters/ Carol Juergensen Sheets. —1st ed.
ISBN 978-1-4566-2690-7
Editor’s note: These chapters have been taken from transcripts from the Sex Help with Carol the Coach Internet radio show. I have taken the liberty to edit these narratives so they make more sense in the written form. Each show has a date attached to them so that you can go to www.blogtalkradio.com/sexhelpwithcarolthecoach and listen to the show. You can also download them at iTunes.
PREFACE

Preface
I created this ebook because sexual addiction is not yet recognized in the American Psychiatric Association’s (APA) Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders , Fifth Edition ( DSM-5 ). The DSM-5 is essentially a classification and diagnostic tool for health care providers. The APA’s reasoning? We need more research to prove that it is an addiction. There is an organization out there that is doing just that.
The American Foundation for Addiction Research (AFAR) was created by Dr. Patrick Carnes. It exemplifies personal, social, and professional responsibilities; globally encompassing all disciplines and addictions through a collective partnership between science, clinicians, public policy, and the recovery community. AFAR continues to be a catalyst of social change, promoting dignity, integrity, and service to others. I have long wanted to contribute to AFAR in a meaningful way and I knew my listeners “know” that sex addiction is real and they would want to help AFAR too. I decided to use the transcripts from my Carol the Coach radio show to create a book where all the proceeds could benefit AFAR. I have cherished bringing you the experts in this field through my radio show and now I hope you will enjoy reading their theories and experiences.
For our first edition of this ebook, I have selected a group of experts I consider “masters” who have contributed significantly to the field and made a positive difference in the lives of so many people affected by sexual addiction. I hope each chapter will share information that will help you better understand this disorder.
I want you to walk away from this book with a better sense of yourself and what tools and resources are out there to support you and your recovery. If you are a partner of a sex addict, please know that there is specialized help for you too.
Every time I interview a guest, I learn so much and feel so blessed to share it with my listeners. Now we can pay it forward by helping the field get the recognition it deserves by legitimizing a very real problem that many still believe is “a lack of moral character.”
I want to thank each “master” who agreed to do the show and then allowed us to use the transcript to support AFAR. I want to also thank Corrine Casanova, the senior editor for Gentle Path Press, for her insight and wisdom. Her compassion and helpfulness was instrumental in the writing of this book. I also want to thank Kim Cook, who has transcribed every show and was my “go-to girl” in getting this book formatted. She has encouraged me every step of the way!
And most important, I want to thank the thousands of listeners who open these podcasts religiously and send me emails letting me know that I have been instrumental in changing their lives. And that is exactly why I wanted to do this show and use it to create this ebook. I want your lives to be better and I want you all to find hope, strength, and recovery so that you can create the life you deserve!
Carol the Coach
CHAPTER 1

Sex Addiction: Suffering into Meaning
“Sex Help with Carol the Coach”
April 20, 2015
Dr. Patrick Carnes
Carol: Tonight, I am thrilled to be talking with the guru, the founder, the master of sexual addiction. This is a man who has put his whole life into sexual addiction recovery. You’ve heard me talk about him before. There’s no doubt about it that he has influenced me. I took the training to become a certified sex addiction therapist (CSAT) through his institute. Dr. Patrick Carnes is a nationally known speaker and writes on sex addiction and recovery issues. He’s the founder of the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals , and he’s the founder of Gentle Path Press , probably the most phenomenal publishing company regarding sexual addiction. The folks there are stellar, and I just so appreciate being associated with this group of people.
Tonight we are going to be talking about how sexual addiction has changed in the last thirty to forty years and what he’s most excited about in terms of treatment, recovery, brain science, and all the things that are contributing to healthy recovery for sex addicts and their partners. We are also going to be talking about the need for more research to prove to others that sexual addiction is a real disorder/addiction and needs to be in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, which is the “bible” of mental health conditions.
You are going to be learning about the American Foundation of Addiction Research (AFAR), which is a group of people devoted to providing research on sexual addiction. All the proceeds from this book are going to AFAR because this research is so very important. It is important in substantiating the work we’re doing, important in helping sex addicts and their partners get healthy, and important in helping other people understand that this is a real disorder.
I was telling my group tonight as we were ending, “Now guys, if you’re not doing anything, you might just listen to my interview with Dr. Patrick Carnes.” I was so excited, and they laughed because, I’m telling you, these guys are from different places and go to different treatment centers and of course attend Twelve Step meetings in other cities, other states, and other countries. But when people find out that they’re from Indianapolis, they go, “Oh my gosh, do you know Carol the Coach?” That is the beauty of media and radio. But here in my own backyard … like Rodney Dangerfield … “I get no respect.” That is not really true, as I work with the greatest guys (and women) who are forever indebted to me and any CSAT who spends time unraveling their shame and pain.
What I know to be true is that there used to be so many stigmas when talking about this kind of stuff. People are hungry for the information. They want to get help. I had a young man call me today. He’s not able to drive. He had difficulty speaking, and he was talking about chronic masturbation. He said, “I cannot stop and I don’t know what to do.” Of course I said, “Get yourself to a Twelve Step meeting.” That’s when I found out he couldn’t drive. I said, “There are telephone meetings day and night that you can be a part of.” But I do want him to do some face-to-face meetings. I can tell that this man is incredibly lonely and is probably using chronic masturbation as a way of medicating the loneliness. I said what I would initially do is find a qualified certified sex addiction therapist. This man was from another state. He had actually Googled me and the show and listened to a few podcasts, and he was really interested in figuring out how he might be able to get help.
What I know to be true about sexual addiction is that whether you had trauma that contributed to the sexual addiction or you have trauma now as a result of the sexual addiction, it is imperative that you work on a recovery program that activates behavioral patterns that are healthy; that you work through the grief, the loneliness, the sadness, the anger, the rage; and that you connect to other people who are going through the same thing. That’s why we really believe in certified sex addiction therapists, because this is a niche. It’s not a “one treatment takes care of all the issues.” There are people who really do have expertise in trauma, people who have expertise in trauma reenactment, people who have expertise in Twelve Step programs, and people who have expertise in ministry and recovery. You need to assess what it is you need, but you need to go to the experts. That’s what this show is all about, and that’s what a certified sex addiction therapist can provide you. Go to www.sexhelp.com , click on “find a therapist,” put in your zip code, and find the closest CSAT or look for somebody who works through Skype or coaching.
I started my group therapy as a result of talking with Dr. Carnes. He has said that if you were going to offer good clinical skills, then you should offer a group to enhance the individual clinical work that you provided to them. Group therapy is a different type of experience than a Twelve Step meeting, because the clients in the group are working on therapeutic issues and resolving them. There is cross talk. The group members help each other work through issues. I do something in my groups called “Mt. Vesuvius.” That is where the men go through an anger exercise where th