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Ingenious Parenting Shortcuts Every Mom and Dad Should KnowParenting can be hard work, and our lives continue to get busier and busier. Is it possible to lighten the load but still raise great kids?From his experiences as a dad as well as interacting with countless other parents, Jay Payleitner has gathered scores of secrets worth passing along--simple things veteran moms and dads have learned over the years. Things as simple as passing along truths during TV commercials. Or connecting with your children as you tuck them in at night. Or learning how to laugh over spilt milk.Some of the ideas are old-school secrets that were passed from one generation to the next; others deal with issues that would have never crossed Grandma and Grandpa's minds. All of them are easy to implement. This book is designed for a quick, breezy reading experience, letting parents pick and choose those ideas that will make their lives easier, their kids happier, and their futures even brighter.

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Publié par	Baker Publishing Group
Date de parution	14 février 2017
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781441230928
Langue	English

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© 2017 by Jay Payleitner
Published by Bethany House Publishers
11400 Hampshire Avenue South
Bloomington, Minnesota 55438
www.bethanyhouse.com
Bethany House Publishers is a division of
Baker Publishing Group, Grand Rapids, Michigan
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Ebook edition created 2017
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ISBN 978-1-4412-3092-8
Scripture quotations, unless otherwise noted, are from the Holy Bible, New International Version®. NIV®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. www.zondervan.com
Scripture quotations marked E S V are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version® (ESV®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. ESV Text Edition: 2011
Scripture quotations marked N L T are from the Holy Bible , New Living Translation, copyright © 1996, 2004, 2015 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.
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Cover design by Darren Welch Design LLC
Author is represented by The Steve Laube Agency.
Dedication
This book is dedicated to your kid’s mom and dad
Contents
Cover
Title Page
Copyright Page
Dedication
Introduction
STRATEGIES
1. Realize Every Kid Is Different
2. Candy Land Penance
3. Six Games for Road Trips
4. Don’t Hide Your Yearbook
5. Blasting Classical Music
6. Honor Apologies
7. Stash Markers and Poster Boards
8. PEZ Dispenser Magic
9. Twenty-one Things to Write on a Sticky Note
10. Take Two-Person Photos
11. Buy Them One Thing
12. Celebrate Moments of Maturity
13. The Library Card Initiation
14. If It’s Important to Your Kids, It’s Important to You
15. Dad Tucks In
16. Plan to Flex
17. Throw Paper or Rock Accordingly
18. Keep the GPS Option Open
19. Use the Needlepoint Metaphor
20. Happy Everything
21. Scrub Pots Together
22. Stop Scrubbing Pots Long Enough to Make a Serendipitous Memory
23. Insert Name Here
24. Make Room in the Fridge
25. Repetitively Repeat Important Lessons Redundantly
26. Let Them Set Their Own Video Game Boundaries
27. Snap a Lost-Kid Photo
28. Everybody Out
29. The Simple Compliment
30. Never Just Walk by a Tree Stump
31. Kids on Business Trips
32. Buy a House With Sidewalks
33. Back-to-School Night
34. Prepping for the Next Unit
35. Sock Rings
36. Doubling Productivity
37. The Slurpee Solution
38. Basic, Basic, Basic Astronomy
39. Lunar Eclipse Lesson
40. Stress Not About Stuff That Just Doesn’t Matter
41. Teach the Birds and Bees Before Your Local Schools Do
42. Be the Bad Guy
43. “I Think You’re Done for the Day”
44. Clean Stuff Besides Dishes in the Dishwasher
45. Amusement Park Hacks
46. Homeowner Secrets
47. Visit Colleges
48. Personalized Pancakes
49. Your Response to Their Frustrations
50. Pegs
51. Field Trip Frugality
52. Asking for Kid Insight
53. How to Convince Your Son He Needs a Haircut
54. Envision Your Kids As Parents
55. Camping Out in the Bathroom
56. Expectations and Disappointment
57. Nine Times Anything
58. Sibling Math Races
59. The Art of Pausing
60. Oil Their Mitt
61. Be Smart With Smartphone Photos
62. Responding When They Fail
63. When They Want Their Own Room
64. Lockbox for Scattered Stuff
65. Can We Talk?
66. Hold Off on Dessert
67. Rites of Passage Bring New Rights and Responsibilities
68. Play Best Ball
69. Fourteen Things
70. Remember Grandma’s Spin
71. Tide Sticks, Etc.
72. The 360
73. Open-Door Policy
74. The Job Jar
75. The Answer Is 204
76. Keep Reading Out Loud
77. Be Their Favorite Critic
78. Start Cheap
79. More Than a Driveway
80. How to Have Perfect Timing
81. About Your Secret Stash
82. Low and Slow
83. Teaching Centripetal Force
84. Armed With Science Trivia
85. Volunteer for the Talent Show
86. Identifying Potential Without Adding Pressure
87. Getting Teachers on Your Side
88. The Bad-Apple Teachers
89. Like All Your Kids Best
90. Dividing Your Time
91. Explain 911
92. World Map Shower Curtain
93. Barge Into Their World
94. Take Real Road Trips
95. Please Don’t Say “We’ll See”
96. Making Bad Stuff Better
97. Trusting Science
98. Make Your Kids Your Hobby
99. Introduce Your Hobby to Your Kids
100. Kiss Your Spouse in the Kitchen
101. Sometimes Say No
102. Stop Yelling at Referees
103. Turning Negatives to Positives
104. Kids Want to Work
105. Teach a Mad Skill
106. Peekaboo 2.0
107. Bring Their Night-Light
108. Answer Their Questions With Questions
109. Ice Pucks
110. Who Here Has . . . ?
111. Stop Trying to Be On Time
112. The Amazing Sharpie
113. Laminate Stuff
114. Use the Classic Improv Rule
115. Annual Photos
116. Blind Spot Awareness
117. Don’t Toss That Refrigerator Box
118. On the Steps
119. Express Unconditional Love
120. No-Regret Parenting
121. Exasperate Not
122. Chess Strategies
123. Match Their Deposit
124. Avoiding Hypocrisy
125. Merge Calendars
126. Ticket Stubs
127. Spiritual Gifts
128. Vacation Driveway Checklist
129. T-Shirt Quilts
130. Don’t Blindly Follow My Advice
131. Say “I Miss You”
132. The Potty Mouth Log
133. S’mores
134. Saturday Morning Chores
135. Buy an Art Easel
136. Let Them Starve
137. Alternatives to Nagging
138. The Sarcastic Clap
139. The Cogent Power of Empathy
140. Ask for Their Help
141. Go Back to High School
142. Doing Life
143. Be Happy to See Them
144. See the Seasons
Topical Index
Acknowledgments
About the Author
Also from Jay Payleitner
Back Cover
Introduction
F YI. The following 144 quick tips for busy families are not so quick at all. You can certainly read each short chapter in a minute or two, but it may take a couple of decades before you realize the full benefit of some of these ideas.
That shouldn’t be a surprise. As a parent, you know some rewards come sooner—a baby’s smile or a valentine from a first grader. And some rewards will come later—a hug from a teenager or a thank-you from a new graduate. (Even later rewards include grandkids to spoil and the world-class retirement home your kids will choose for you someday.)
Not all of these tips are sneaky either. Some are gentle reminders of stuff you already know. Some are words and phrases you can speak into the lives of your kids. Some of these tips might be considered “parenting hacks.” Some are spiritual truths critical for every member of your family. And some are semi-brilliant revelations I learned in the process of raising five successful kids who still get along and still enjoy hanging out with their mom and dad.
You will also discover boundaries to set, memories to make, and life lessons to cram into their tiny skulls. Along the way, I reveal some personal parenting fails and satisfying wins. Hey, no one’s perfect.
The chapters are in no particular order. We’ll share a laugh at one page. And we’ll get real serious a few pages later. You are invited to read the entire book in one sitting or one chapter at a time. If you’re a blogger, teacher, or small-group leader, you have permission to repurpose a reasonable number of these ideas as long as you give credit where credit is due.
As always, I love to hear any input from moms and dads who may have their own parenting tips or a fresh spin on something they found in one of my books. Track me down at jaypayleitner.com.
STRATEGY 1 Realize Every Kid Is Different
K ids don’t come with the word musician, athlete, scholar, entrepreneur, or artist stamped on their forehead. Rita and I have four sons, one daughter, four daughters-in-law, and six young grandkids. All with different gifts and personalities.
Raising our family, we assumed our five kids with the same genetic makeup would follow five similar paths. But during their formative years, we seemed to have three natural musicians, two artists, three voracious readers, two math whizzes, two techies, three writers, one scientist, three strategic thinkers, two dreamers, and five athletes. Even now, as life unfolds, we see a continuing evolution of passions and personalities.
Trust me, it’s a mistake to slap a label on a kid and put them in a box.
On the other hand, part of our job as parents is to help our children head in the direction consistent with their God-given gifts and passions. Sometimes that means nudging them back on track. Sometimes it means watching uneasily as their plans naturally derail. Sometimes all we have to do is stand back and applaud.
The key might be to encourage young people to throw themselves 110 percent into life. When their best efforts come up short, then they’ll know to move on to another life pursuit. In other words, encourage exploration and discourage a slacker mentality.
Take heart. The next 143 chapters offer an array of invaluable, unexpected, comforting, quizzical, and sneaky strategies for helping your kids meet their full potential.
You may be called to enter their world. Or invite them to enter your world. You may be given an assignment to implement right away. You may read some strategy that seems insignificant and then suddenly it comes in handy in the not-so-distant future.
You will be reminded that the same child may need to be hugged or disciplined or rescued