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What is healthy sexual development? How do you protect a child from sexual abuse?

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Publié par	Marshall Cavendish International
Date de parution	15 août 2015
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9789814721349
Langue	English

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2015 Marshall Cavendish International (Asia) Private Limited
Illustrations: Julie Davey
Series designer: Bernard Go
First published 2003 by Times Editions
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National Library Board, Singapore Cataloguing-in-Publication Data Fung, Daniel, author.
Living with sexuality issues / Dr Daniel Fung, Dr Zheng Zhimin. - Singapore : Marshall Cavendish Editions, 2015
pages cm. - (Living with)
eISBN : 978 981 4721 34 9
1. Teenagers - Sexual behavior. 2. Sexual ethics for teenagers. 3. Sexual disorders. 4. Gender identity. 5. Sexual orientation. I. Zheng, Zhimin, author. II. Title. III. Living with.
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Printed in Singapore by Markono Print Media Pte Ltd
Dedicated to all the children of the Child Guidance Clinic and their parents
CONTENTS
PREFACE
INTRODUCTION
PART 1
Teens And Sex
PART 2
Relationships And Sex
PART 3
Child Sexual Abuse
PART 4
Sharing Values About Love And Sex
PART 5
Pornography And Sex Addiction
PART 6
Alternative Sexual Behaviours
PART 7
Sexual Disorders
PART 8
Support For Sexuality Issues
USEFUL RESOURCES
ABOUT THE AUTHORS
PREFACE
When Dr Fung s wife was asked how she would respond if their children were to ask a sexually related question, her immediate reply was, I would tell them to ask their father! Is this not the common response of most adults? Don t ask me, ask someone else. Sex is often perceived as a taboo subject and the situation in Singapore is no different. One parent even told us that it was against his religion to talk about sex. Does this mean that it is acceptable to find out about sex from pornographic magazines and films?
The impetus for this book came from the many requests for information about teenage sexuality, as well as the increasing number of sexual offenders who are in their adolescent years. Many parents have referred their children to the Child Guidance Clinic because of worrying sexual behaviours and the fear that their children may become sex fiends or deviants. The purpose of this book is therefore two-fold: to describe the normal sexual development of children into the stages of adolescence and adulthood, and to help parents understand the context of sexual disorders and how these come about. The case studies presented in this book are composites of the patients at the clinic, which is Singapore s largest child and adolescent health facility for emotional and behavioural problems. Details of the patients have been changed to protect their identities.
Since this book was published more than 10 years ago, attitudes towards sexuality issues in Singapore has moved some ways. Today, sexuality issues are more openly discussed and youths are questioning the way sex education is taught in school. There is a greater awareness of gender equality and more interest in discussions about sexual orientation and gender identity. There was a call for an update and we felt that there is a need for an evidence-based response to the queries we had received; from parents and their children, from the agencies who dealt with youths, and from policy makers who want a balanced approach to managing youths.
We would like to thank Karen Sik, who works with sex offenders and sex abuse victims, for her help with this edition.
Dr Daniel Fung
Dr Zheng Zhimin
August 2015
INTRODUCTION
There are several ways to define sexuality. A narrow definition of sexuality is that it pertains to anything about sexual intercourse. Such a view sees sexuality as a behaviour and may trivialise its significance. Sexuality has a greater influence and effect on individuals and social groups and is an important aspect of culture and society. A broader definition of sexuality is to describe it as the erotic significance of a person s identity, relationships and behaviours.
Sexuality is therefore the way a person sees himself and the relationships with important people in his lives. From the teen who looks at herself in the mirror when she wakes up in the morning, to two young people holding hands in a darkened cinema during a late night show, sexuality is evident.
Sexuality is not something dirty or unmentionable. On the contrary, it is a part of our daily lives. Sexuality, like eating, drinking and sleeping, is but one part of being alive. Although sexuality is important, it should not be the only aspect of a young person s life. On the other hand, it should not be avoided as it is important part of a young person s development.
The first part of this book highlights the physical, social and emotional changes that the young person goes through. The second part describes the relationships that teens have and dispels the myths about teenage sex. Thereafter are sections on child sexual abuse, acquiring specific skills that teens need in order to handle their developing sexuality, and maladaptive sexual behaviours such as pornography and sexual addictions. An additional section on alternative sexual behaviours is now included. The final section focuses on sexual disorders and how these are distinguished from normal variations of behaviour. Descriptions of gender identity disorders and sexual disorders are explained and discussed. The morality of sexuality is discussed, but this is not a social, religious or cultural guide.
It is our hope that this guide will prove helpful and relevant for parents and other adults who have to be a resource for growing children and teenagers.
Singapore is a unique country filled with fascinating opposites. Although there is much centralised control and censorship regarding pornography and what is considered acceptable standards of sexual behaviour, there is also a lot of sexually inappropriate material that is readily available to our youths in the media.
But what is sexually inappropriate? When the Austin Powers movie The Spy Who Shagged Me was about to be released in Singapore in 1999, the film distributors considered changing the title to The Spy Who Shioked Me , because of the fear that shag would be considered unsavoury. After the television series Sex in the City became wildly successful, running from 1998 to 2004, there are now several TV series that have the word sex in the title.
In 2013, when the Ashley Madison website, which facilitates extramarital affairs, announced its plans to launch in Singapore, the Media Development Authority banned the website to serve as a symbolic statement of the types of content that the community is opposed to . Whether this reaction was excessive or not, an important issue was brought to light: sexual issues are still uncomfortable topics.
Yet, children and teenagers are constantly being bombarded by suggestive and provocative messages from television, newspapers and magazines. Advertisements in the daily newspapers are excessively titillating, movies and television programmes suggest that promiscuity and regular sexual relationships outside of marriage are a fact of life, while sexual crimes are highlighted almost daily in major newspapers.
The advent of social media has expanded sexual messages on an entirely different level. For example, in 2012 a couple from Malaysia kept a blog of sexually explicit content, including videos, and created a huge controversy on both sides of the Malay peninsula. The chief of the Malaysian Chinese Association Youth condemned the couple, stating that Malaysians are not that advanced or daring and in Singapore, the couple were chastised for not practising behaviour appropriate of a scholarship holder .
As a result of these influences, the children and youths of today are asking questions about sex from a much younger age.
1.1 DOES NORMAL SEXUAL DEVELOPMENT EXIST?
There are several phases of sexual development which encompass the physical, psychological and social aspects of life. Normal sexual development is therefore dependent on the cultural, social and religious context of and within each country.
In Singapore, there is increasing pressure for the Board of Censors to allow more variety in media products to be publicly available. Regardless of the arguments for and against the relaxing of censorship rules, there will be increasing opportunities for children to have access to inappropriate materials. Socially acceptable norms change rapidly in such situations.
Physical health will also determine when children attain sexual maturity. With better nutrition and general improvements in healthcare, teenagers attai