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Grandparents and their grandchildren have always had a special bond, but living in a culture that has lost its moral compass, many parents are at a loss as to how to raise a child with moral values and a sense of decency, finding the adolescent years especially difficult. Within this vacuum, grandparents are becoming increasingly involved--and important--in providing the needed stability for their grandchildren. However, the culture in which grandparents find themselves is radically different from the one in which they were raised.In How to Really Love Your Grandchildren, Dr. D. Ross Campbell offers invaluable help and encouragement for all grandparents as they attempt to counter the unhealthy influences of our day and help provide direction and influence for their grandchildren. Topics covered include: -helping your children in parenting-distance grandparenting-parenting grandkids-training children in anger management-making a critical difference in the area of discipline-giving grandchildren the love and security they crave-special needs grandkids-leaving a legacy of faith

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Publié par	Baker Publishing Group
Date de parution	01 août 2008
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781441224712
Langue	English

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What Do Grandparents Mean to You?
(from My Grandchildren)

Grandparents mean I always have someone on my side, even when I am arguing with my parents.
Megan, 21
My grandparents are generous and always go the extra mile for me. They are unspoken authorities and never ground me.
Cami, 19
Grandparents are a vacation away from the rest of the world.
When they are around, I am not judged; I’m just completely myself.
McClain, 19
They are my legacy and anchor.
Hudson, 17
Wise friends.
Builder, 15
Grandparents encourage you and are always open to you.
They are like “backup” parents.
Kruesi, 13
They provide a safe place to be, have fun playing with us, and create fun projects that we wouldn’t be a part of if they weren’t around.
Beata, 12
Grandparents mean more people to come to school plays.
Taylor, 11
It is so fun when we go to their house . . . it’s a lot of happiness.
Eden, 9
For loving.
Ella, 7
I like it when he [Ross] looks for fish with me.
Coen, 5
Love.
Rainey, 3
He [Ross] talks to me.
Gus, 2
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.
Blaine, 2
(Blaine had been reading a book on Bible verses prior to answering this question.)
HOW TO REALLY LOVE YOUR GRANDCHILD

2008 Dr. D. Ross Campbell and Rob Suggs
Published by Revell a division of Baker Publishing Group P.O. Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287 www.revellbooks.com
Revell edition published 2014
ISBN 978-1-4412-2471-2
Previously published by Regal Books
Ebook edition originally created 2013
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means-for example, electronic, photocopy, recording-without the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is on file at the Library of Congress, Washington, DC.
All Scripture quotations are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version ®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan Publishing House. All rights reserved.
Other version used is: NKJV —Scripture taken from the New King James Version . Copyright © 1979, 1980, 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
To my grandchildren
Contents

Foreword by Gary D. Chapman, Ph.D
1. New Grandparents for a New World
2. Helping Mom and Dad
3. Grandparenting from a Distance
4. Parenting Your Own Grandchildren
5. The Love Your Grandchild Must Have
6. The Anger Your Grandchild Expresses
7. The Discipline Your Grandchild Needs
8. The Protection Your Grandchild Craves
9. The Special Needs of Your Grandchild
10. Grandparenting and Faith
11. The Legacy of a Grandparent
Postscript by Cami Ross
Five Ways to Get the Most from this Book
Study Guide
Foreword
The radical social changes in American culture over the past 50 years have left many contemporary grandparents confused about their role. Because of the mobility of Western society, many grandparents live thousands of miles from their grandchildren. Others, because of fractured relationships, are estranged from their adult children and grandchildren. Grandparents who have regular contact with their grandchildren often find that their own ideas of parenting and the ideas of their adult children are different. These differences sometimes lead to conflicts. Given these realities, the question is, “What’s a grandparent to do?” In this book, Dr. Ross Campbell answers that question.
Most grandparents genuinely love their grandchildren. They are excited when they are born and follow with great interest their development through the years. They are pained when, for whatever reason, they are unable to see their grandchildren. Grandparents find great pleasure in spending time with them, and when the visit comes to a close, they may be physically exhausted, but it is a happy exhaustion.
However, many grandparents have little understanding about the culture in which their grandchildren are being reared. They operate with paradigms of a former generation that may have little meaning to their grandchildren. Thus, there is often an intellectual and emotional disconnect between grandparents and their grandchildren. Sincerity is not enough. We need information on how to connect with our grandchildren so that the love that is in our hearts may be communicated to their hearts.
Psychiatrist Ross Campbell, who has invested more than 30 years in helping parents and grandparents connect with their children, has done all of us a great service in writing How to Really Love Your Grandchild . As a grandfather, I have read it with great interest. The insights and practical advice on these pages are needed by every grandparent who sincerely wishes to leave a positive legacy for their grandchildren. Dr. Campbell shows us how to be successful in that pursuit. In his former writings, he has helped millions of parents effectively rear their children. In this volume, he brings that same wisdom to the task of grandparenting. I am honored to recommend a book that I believe will help thousands of grandparents do what they genuinely desire to do: really love their grandchildren .
Gary D. Chapman, Ph.D.
Author of The Five Love Languages and
The Five Languages of Apology
1

New Grandparents for a New World

Like most adults captured off guard by middle age, Jim and Maggie were youngsters on the inside with a few wrinkles on the outside when they joined the ranks of the world’s proud grandparents. They could remember looking upon others who were grandparents as “those old people.” They still had a lot of living to do: goals to reach and satisfaction to seek. Now they knew the shocking truth: By golly, becoming a grandparent could happen to anyone!
It seemed as if hardly any time at all had passed since Jack, their son, was no more than a toddler. Somehow that little fellow had grown up, flown from the nest and begun a promising business career. Having also married and started a family, Jack was a genuine, fully certified adult. Jim and Maggie could no longer deny it. Even so, they never truly felt the reality of being grandparents until that first moment when they held little Jared. For the first time, they understood what put the “grand” in grandparenting. Jack had done a brilliant job in providing his parents with such an adorable baby boy. (Maryanne, Jack’s pretty wife, had certainly had something to do with this astonishing achievement as well.)
It wasn’t long before Jim and Maggie once again discovered the bittersweet truth of how rapidly children grow. Jared began to crawl, then to pull up on the furniture; in no time, he began to stand, to walk, to talk and to wear “big boy underwear” rather than diapers. It would have been nice if the child could have remained a cuddly tot for just a little longer, but his ensuing ages and stages carried their own grandparenting delights. Jim and Maggie loved playing with Jared, reading fairy tales to him and sharing their memories about the long-ago days when Jared’s daddy was a little boy.
Being a grandparent, it turned out, was a time for celebration bursting with joy and pride. For years it brought nothing but pleasure, until Jim and Maggie had to serve as temporary parents again. For a while, that experience took the “grand” right out of the equation.
Jack and Maryanne had an opportunity to participate in a mission trip to a primitive region of Brazil. The journey required them to be out of the country for four weeks. Taking Jared wasn’t an option, so the grandparents were called in to make everything possible. This allowed 10-year-old Jared to sleep in his own bed and attend his fifth-grade classes without disruption. Jim and Maggie were happy to serve. They had no idea they were about to face the phenomenon known as culture shock.
They had enjoyed seeing their grandchild on holidays and special days, most of which were observed on the elders’ home turf. Grandmother and Granddaddy enjoyed hosting gatherings for the extended family. Now, however, Jim and Maggie were the “visiting team.” They got an up-close and personal look at the daily environment of a 10-year-old at the beginning of a new millennium, and it was unfamiliar territory.
The first enigma involved what was appropriate for a child’s television viewing. On this and other matters, Jack and Maryanne had failed to leave detailed instructions—understandably, they’d been preoccupied with international travel preparations.
It suddenly seemed as if every television channel had content that seemed out of bounds for a young viewer. What was particularly troubling was the extent to which Jared seemed perfectly comfortable with these things. The grandparents tried to interest him in channels and programming geared to children, but he wanted to watch the shows that everyone was talking about at school. Jim and Maggie weren’t certain what to do. They decided to err on the side of caution, telling Jared there would be certain rules for this particular month; afterward, he could take up the matter with his parents.
Then there was the matter of Internet activity. Jim and Maggie were particularly uncomfortable with this issue, because they knew so little about computers or the Internet. However, they’d heard the horror stories about the world of cyberspace, where censorship didn’t exist. They noticed that Jared was already using such features as “chat rooms” and instant messaging. As a matter of fact, this little boy already had his own cell phone!
The grandparents suddenly realized that today’s environment was a brand-new world for children—a world driven by rapidly developing technology. Jared liked using his father’s laptop computer, so Jim and Maggie made this rule: no computer activity alone. Bring the laptop into the family room where an adult is present.
Then one