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Bestselling author Michelle McKinney Hammond, whose books have sold over 1.3 million copies, encourages single women to place their need for love in perspective, take their lives off hold, live purposely, and gain a better understanding of how to relate successfully to men.In her candid, no-nonsense style, Michelle assures the reader that the journey toward finding a mate for life does not have to be filled with anxiety or regret. She warmly offers encouragement from her own life experiences and gleans godly principles from Ruth, a sister in the Bible who got her man, to show readers how to get the love they want.Those stuck in the dead-end dating scene, along with those on an involuntary relationship fast, need to know that marriage could very well be on the horizon...if only they learn how to be found by the man they've been looking for.Formerly titled Ending the Search for Mr. Right

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Publié par	Harvest House Publishers, Inc.
Date de parution	01 décembre 2008
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9780736933872
Langue	English

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HOW TO BE FOUND BY THE MAN YOU VE BEEN LOOKING FOR
Formerly published as Ending the Search for Mr. Right .
Copyright 2005 by Michelle McKinney Hammond
Published by Harvest House Publishers
Eugene, Oregon 97402
www.harvesthousepublishers.com
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
McKinney Hammond, Michelle, 1957-
[Ending the search for Mr. Right]
How to be found by the man you ve been looking for / Michelle McKinney Hammond.
p. cm.
Originally published: Ending the search for Mr. Right. Eugene, OR.: Harvest House Publishers, 2005.
ISBN-13: 978-0-7369-2411-5 (pbk.)
ISBN-10: 0-7369-2411-6 (pbk.)
1. Single women-Religious life. 2. Mate selection-Religious aspects-Christianity. 3. Bible. O.T. Ruth-Criticism, interpretation, etc. I. Title.
BV4596.S5M344 2008
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2008020830
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Contents
Attention, Please
1. Love Hunger
2. The Land of Do-It-Yourself
3. Love at Any Cost
4. The Winds of Change
5. Knowing Your Season
6. Making Life Work
7. Recognizing the Man of Your Dreams
8. Turning the Tide
9. A Woman of Virtue
10. Where the Rubber Hits the Road
11. Paying the Cost to Be the Boss
12. The End of the Matter
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Attention, Please
L adies, it is time to get down to the nitty-gritty on this finding-a-man thing. And why not? It is on everybody s minds, for the most part. The time has come to get matters of the heart in perspective and lay some sound ground rules for finding and keeping love in our lives. I know it can be troubling when we take a look around us. We are tempted to say, Where are all the men? Well, they are out there. And they are wondering the same thing about us! This might seem impossible, and yet it is true. For men and women alike, finding The One seems to be as elusive as finding a needle in a haystack. Could we possibly be contributing to this problem? This is what I would like to address in my time with you.
Several evenings ago, before leaving for a road trip, a friend and I decided to grab a quick dinner at a restaurant that had just opened in my neighborhood. This restaurant had quickly become the new she-she-pooh-pooh-la-la place. That means the in spot for all the beautiful, upwardly mobile people-the yuppies, buppies, and other uppies. Though it was early, we were told that the dining room was full. If we liked, we could be seated in the lounge and order from the menu there. We were then escorted to the lower level of the restaurant and greeted by pulsating music and a dreamlike atmosphere. Couples, female clusters, male partners, and mixed groups of friends were lounging and reclining, languidly gazing around the room, or caught up in animated conversation.
I was starving when I entered the room, but my hunger was quickly forgotten as I took in the scene before me. Call me a workaholic, but I was amazed that this was what people do in the middle of the week. First of all, I was struck by the fact that it was a Thursday night, a work night, and these people had obviously gone home, showered, and changed just to come out to see and be seen. The men were looking, the women were strutting, but no one was connecting. To be perfectly honest, I felt a bit naive. I had left this sort of scene so long ago that the subtleties of it were no longer clear to me. I had vague remembrances of my B.C. days (before establishing a relationship with Christ) of hanging out, meeting guys at the bar or on the dance floor, and having brief flings that never went anywhere. After all, how seriously could you take someone you had met under these circumstances?
There always seemed to be a cloud of suspicion hanging over these newfound dates. Where had they come from? Were they seeing anyone else? Who were their friends? What was their background? Who were they really? Were they always on the prowl? Had fate actually worked in your favor on that chance encounter? Too many questions and uncertainties usually clouded any potential for true love with trust issues before two people could even get started. That night, it seemed that nothing had changed except that men were much bolder years ago. They clocked the woman they wanted and moved in for the kill, because everyone understood that was what we were all out for. This new scene of people passing one another in a solo dance that was designed for two was troubling at best.
What was the point? my friend and I asked. Here were all these women dressed to the nines, I mean really dressed to impress: backless, strapless, short short, spike heels, flawless makeup and not a bite. They got lots of stares, but no takers. I wondered, as we left, if anyone made a love connection before the evening was over, and how many people went home disappointed that once again their search for love had turned up empty. How many men kicked themselves for not saying hello ? How many women wondered if they should have gone up and introduced themselves or been more aggressive or worn a different outfit?
How ironic that in a world where everyone longs for the same thing, true love remains elusive for many. If everyone is searching for love, why is it so hard for us to find one another? That mystery question will be answered when someone finally figures out why traffic is backed up if all the cars are moving on a highway. It is one of the great mysteries of life.
Can the search for love be fruitful? I believe it can be when we plant the right seeds and purposefully apply ourselves to living lives that invite love to find us. Because love is not just a feeling but a decision, the head must work with the heart to make intelligent choices that lead to love. As we take a look at an ancient account of a young woman who found lasting love in the most unexpected place, we will dissect the story of Ruth and Boaz-found in the book of Ruth in the Bible-to find principles that can be applied to our own lives. But first, I must ask you some questions:
Are you really ready for the love you think you want?
What is your motivation for desiring a committed love relationship?
What problems do you think love will solve in your world?
What are you prepared to give in order to get the love you desire?
Are you willing to make changes in your world to accommodate the man you love?
Do you know what you want in a man?
Do you know what you should want in a man?
Are your expectations of love realistic?
If you never found a mate, would you still be able to lead a happy and fulfilled life?
These questions might take some time and deep thought for you to answer, but certain heart issues must be settled before we even begin. Though we do not often think about men as being intuitive, they do indeed possess this trait when it comes to women. They can sense desperation, unresolved issues, and excess emotional baggage from a mile away. Believe me, once they get a whiff of any of these, they head for the hills.
This book is less about men and more about you, although I will tell you what you need to look for in a man and what the appropriate responses should be once he finds you. Notice I said he finds you . It is the job of a real man to find his woman, pursue her, and capture her heart. It is the job of the woman to be ready to be found-a much easier job description. But it will only be easy if you have your head and your heart together.
So let s begin. I suggest you grab a journal and chronicle your feelings and gut reactions as you read. It is time to settle your issues and prepare yourself to be loved and to love in return.
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Love Hunger
In the days when the judges ruled, there was a famine in the land R UTH 1:1
S o begins the story of hunger, longing, unfulfillment, and even starvation. I am actually fascinated when I meet a woman who has an active dating life. As I travel the country speaking to and greeting women, the number of those who have not had a date in years is staggering. The common complaint is that all the good men are taken, in jail, or gay. Many women have decided to steer their passions in other directions-toward their careers or other self-fulfilling habits like shopping or being involved in social or charitable activities. Yet in each woman s heart the hunger remains to be loved by that one man who will come into her life, sweep her off her feet, and rock her world.
Turn on your television any day of the week and it is clearly evident that when it comes to the search for love, we are in a state of emergenc