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If you ask the average woman how much sizzle there is in her marriage, she'll probably answer, "Not enough!" Being a mom is overwhelming, and it's easy for moms to slip into the habit of allowing responsibilities for kids, work, and church to interfere with their relationship with their husbands. They don't have the energy or the ideas they need to have a spicy, satisfying sex life. Hot Mama to the rescue!Kathi Lipp and Erin MacPherson set out on a mission to find out what it takes for busy moms to feel confident and sexy. In this witty book, they share hilarious stories and creative ideas from moms all over the country that will help readers build a relationship with their spouse that's happy, healthy, and fun. From building confidence and banishing guilt to flirting (remember that?) and wearing clothes that make you--and him--feel hot, Kathi and Erin offer women all the encouragement, motivation, and know-how they need to take their sex lives from ho-hum to hot.

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Publié par	Baker Publishing Group
Date de parution	25 août 2015
Nombre de lectures	1
EAN13	9781493401239
Langue	English

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© 2015 by Kathi Lipp and Erin MacPherson
Published by Revell
a division of Baker Publishing Group
P.O. Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
www . revellbooks .com
Ebook edition created 2015
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—for example, electronic, photocopy, recording—without the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is on file at the Library of Congress, Washington, DC.
ISBN 978-1-4934-0123-9
Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations are from the Holy Bible, New International Version®. NIV®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. www.zondervan. com
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Published in association with the Books & Such Literary Management, 52 Mission Circle, Suite 122, PMB 170, Santa Rosa, CA 95409-5370, www.booksandsuch.com
To protect the privacy of those who have shared their stories with the authors, some details and names have been changed.
Contents
Cover 1
Title Page 3
Copyright Page 4
Acknowledgments 7
Introduction 9
1. The Hot Mama Way 13
2. Thou Shalt Enjoy Sex 18
3. Confidence Is Key 27
4. Throw Out the Guilt 37
5. Hot Dates over Playdates 48
6. Getting over Our Good Girl Issues 59
7. Get in the Mood 69
8. Let’s Talk about Sex, Baby 77
9. Speak Respect 87
10. Keep Sex out of the Locker Room 96
11. Heat Things Up 105
12. Knowing Your Man 114
13. What Happens in the Bedroom, Happens in Our Bedroom 123
Bonus Section: 133
Ask Our Sexperts 135
Girlfriend-to-Girlfriend Q&A 159
More Tips from Real Hot Mamas 179
Continuing Your Hot Mama Journey 183
Notes 185
About the Authors 187
Books by Kathi Lipp and Erin MacPherson 188
Back Ads 189
Back Cover 194
Acknowledgments
This book started with a tribe—a group of hot mamas, who like us, wanted to make their marriages hot and honor God in the process. There is not enough chocolate in the world to express our gratitude to our hot mama team, so we’ll start with a heaping dose of acknowledgment right here.
Thank you to the hundreds of women who contributed to this book in one way or another. Special thanks to Robyn Arnold, Christy Ahart, Mollie Burpo, Lori Callister, Melissa Carter, Laura Choy, Sarah Craven, Emily Deiss, Alisa Dusan, Sandy Fivecoat, Susy Flory, Cheri Gregory, Connie Hagen, Michelle Halvorsen, Annie Hoffman, Hannah Hudson, Laura Jennings, Katie Kessel, Laura Marion-Faul, Shannon Martin, Sharon McCaskill, Dina Morris, Rebecca Palmer, Mollie Pierce, Rachel Randolph, Sue Alice Sauthoff, Monica Scantlon, Stevi Schuknecht, Bianca Vimont, and Sarah Windham for being the best hot mama friends we could ask for. For giving us stories, ideas, fuel, and friendship. We love you all.
We also want to acknowledge our expert team who gave us the answers to the questions that all of our hot mama friends kept asking. Thank you to Bonny Logsdon Burns, Paul and Lori Byerly, Jay Dee, Bill Gionovetti, Dr. Jeff Hagen, Rob Harrell, Mike Kaylani, Virginia Mosby, and Lucille Zimmerman. We are so blessed by amazing professional counselors, pastors, and doctors like you who love God and love people and are willing to share your expertise.
Thank you to our wonderful publishing team, both at Books & Such Literary and at Revell. We couldn’t be more thrilled to work with such a talented, fun, and savvy team.
And last but certainly not least, we thank our respective husbands, Roger and Cameron, who not only put up with long hours and PB&J dinners while we wrote this book but also supported us 100 percent as we embarked on a journey to talk about sex in public. You both deserve a medal. And a big heaping dose of King Ranch chicken casserole.
Introduction
(Erin)
I was wearing yoga pants.
And not the cool Lululemon kind of yoga pants, but the ratty grey kind that I had picked up at Target eight years ago before they carried Lululemon knockoffs.
But my friend N was wearing jeans. Real, buttonable jeans. And a cute shirt. And . . . wait for it . . . lipstick.
Now, I’m not one to judge, but who wears lipstick to preschool drop-off?
Anyway, after N and I dropped off our kids, we headed to Whole Foods to have coffee and chat. We sat there sipping our lattes and talking life when N’s phone buzzed.
She picked it up and giggled.
“My husband,” she said, blushing.
Five minutes later, it buzzed again. She giggled again.
A half hour later, she looked up at me and said, “Hey, this has been fun, but I . . . uh . . . gotta go.” Then she held up her phone and showed me a text message from her husband.
It said, “NOONER?” (in all caps).
My mouth dropped open. A nooner? On a school day? How risqué. How totally unlike anything I had ever done. How . . . awesome.
I’m not trying to imply that my married-with-kids sex life isn’t risqué and romantic and awesome . . . but, well, if I’m being honest, it’s not. And can you blame me? I have three kids under eight, a job, a mortgage, and a golden retriever who sheds what seems like an entire dog’s worth of fur onto my floor every day. I’m exhausted and droopy and cranky and there are times that it’s easier to just throw on a pair of yoga pants and frump the night away.
But that morning at Whole Foods I saw something different.
Because N, in all of her lipstick-wearing, nooner-having glory, also has three kids. And a mortgage. And an energy-sucking, exhaustion-causing schedule that looks very similar to mine. Yet she still manages to do crazy hot mama things like wear lipstick and have sex with her husband. A lot.
Which begs the question: What do we as Christian women want from our marriages? And more importantly, what does God want? Do you think boring, ho-hum relationships that are only fulfilling when we are well rested and have a babysitter are what God intended when he created the most important human relationship?
I don’t think so.
And neither does Kathi. Which is why after much back-and-forth chatter about marriage, relationships, and yes, even sex, Kathi and I decided to write this book. Because we know that God calls us to more than lukewarm when it comes to our relationships with our husbands. And because we also know that with the pressures of life as a mom, many Christian marriages cool off. And when Christian moms start spending more time playing with Hot Wheels and making hot chocolate than wearing hot lingerie, there’s a problem.
We don’t want that!
And so, we asked our hot mama friends—you know, the ones who are making out instead of making lunch, and rushing home from coffee dates for sex—what they do to keep their marriages hot. And let me tell you, they answered. The pages of this book are filled with creative, romantic, and hot come-hither ideas, romantic stories, and even confidence-building thoughts so that you, too, can become a hot mama and build a marriage that would make other people blush. Each chapter also includes a Hot Mama Pledge, to remind us all of what we really want as wives. Copy these, highlight them, pin them, place one in your lingerie drawer—put them wherever you need a reminder of what you’re after as a hot mama.
And in doing so, you’ll build a marriage that’s God-honoring, romantic, fun, and . . . hot.
1 The Hot Mama Way
(Kathi)
I’d venture to guess that most of you reading this would love to have a hot marriage.
But I’d also guess most of you are feeling anything but hot right now.
And is it any wonder you are not feeling like all that ?
On TV you can’t watch anything without the Victoria’s Secret Angels thrusting their bustlines in your face (not to mention the face of your husband). Every magazine plays on our insecurities: we’re not thin enough, mom enough, rich enough, or sexy enough. Every “reality” show says reality is having your hair and makeup professionally done every day.
We normal girls don’t have a chance.
Which means we’re left feeling totally unconfident, completely unsexy, and entirely unhopeful that we could ever be a hot mama with a hot marriage and a hot sex life. When we’re living with this lack of confidence, it’s easy to swing to what I like to call the mommy extreme .
You’ve probably been there (or may be living there right at this very minute). This is the place where your life is overrun with the process of mothering. Pajamas are worn into the afternoon hours of the day. Clothes are given the sniff test to see if they can pass one more wearing. Dinner is a phone call to your husband on the way home and a discussion of your favorite drive-thru options. The only hot you feel is “hot mess.”
There is a better way!
Remember when you were dating your husband? I bet that was a time you felt the most confident, the prettiest, and (may I be so bold to say) the sexiest. You spent a lot of time thinking about, prepping for, primping for, and getting excited about seeing your man.
And because you knew he was thinking about you, you had confidence. You were probably working or going to school at the same time, and you made it work. You found the time to be in love, work, study, and talk to your friends (and eventually, plan a wedding) all at the same time.
But then life happened. And somewhere between happily-ever-after and right now, you lost that swagger that told you to slip on those skimpy red panties and give your hubby a come-hither look. Maybe you lost your confidence. Perhaps