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In recent years men have been given a lot of mixed messages as to what it means to be a man, husband or father. Men hate mixed messages. Just tell us like it is (or should be) without all of the extra verbiage. That's exactly what Mike Pearl does in eliminating the conflicting messages and getting to the meat of the matter. Discover God's design for a man and how can you find joy doing what you were designed to do? Learn your responsibility as a man/husband/father and what is not? Learn how love your wife "even as Christ also loved the church"? As always, Mike's presentation is direct with no holds barred and he is not afraid to hurt your feelings. With his over 50 years of Bible study he presents God's perspective on the subject and his over 40 years of marriage bears witness to its effectiveness. His wife, Debi Pearl, weighs in to add grace to Mike's, to the point writing style.

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Publié par	No Greater Joy Ministries
Date de parution	15 février 2012
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781616440466
Langue	English

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A man out of balance with his wife is imbalanced .
C REATED TO
N EED
A H ELP M EET
A MARRIAGE GUIDE FOR MEN
Created to Need a Help Meet: A Marriage Guide for Men
Copyright © 2011 by Michael Pearl
ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. Any unauthorized reprint or use of this material is prohibited. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system without express written permission from the contributing writer or the publisher except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews. For more information contact:
mcohen@nogreaterjoy.org
Third printing: May 2015
Print: ISBN: 978-1-616440-36-7
eBook: ISBN: 978-1-61644-045-9
ePub: ISBN: 978-1-61644-046-6
All Scripture quotations are taken from the King James Holy Bible
Library of Congress Control Number: 2015905258
This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the author or the publisher is not engaged in rendering any type of professional services. If expert assistance is required, the services of a competent professional should be sought.
1. Marriage 2. Husbands 3. Relationships 4. Sex 5. Intimacy 6. Divorce 7. Christianity 8. Religion I. Pearl, Michael II. Created to Need a Help Meet: A Marriage Guide for Men
Created to Need a Help Meet may be purchased at special quantity discounts for churches, donor programs, fund raising, book clubs, or educational purposes for churches, congregations, schools and universities. Rights and Licensing in other languages and international sales opportunities are available. For more information contact:
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Cover and interior design by Lynne Hopwood
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Publisher: No Greater Joy Ministries, Inc.
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The wise man King Solomon concluded:
“T WO ARE BETTER THAN ONE ; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?” (Ecc. 4:9-11)
“W HOSO FINDETH A WIFE findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” (Proverbs 18:22)
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
I dedicate this book to the hundreds of thousands of ladies who read Created to Be His Help Meet and unilaterally decided to assume the full burden of making your marriages heavenly. You allowed your husbands to dump on you while you developed a Christ-like spirit. Many of you stood alone and forgave wrongs and carried the burden for two. You are my heroines and my inspiration. As I read the thousands of letters and heard the glowing testimonies, you made me ashamed that you stood alone while the men sucked up the benefit of an obedient help meet. Then when I asked for suggestions for the content of a book addressed to men, you wrote almost more than I could read. But all the letters did get read and they formed the basis of my developing ideas. So I acknowledge you as my coworkers in this long overdue project that I trust will lighten your load and make you the recipients of great blessing.
I would acknowledge my wife, but that would be like acknowledging my self. We are so one that when either of us does something, it is the product of both. She was, of course, indispensable. Her wisdom is extraordinary and her judgment most holy. I leaned on her wisdom heavily.
INTRODUCTION
When I first decided to write Created to NEED a Help Meet , I asked my happy wife what one thing I had done correctly and should pass along to other husbands. Her answer was immediate and straight to the point: “You let me be your help meet. You pulled me alongside you in everything you did. You stretched me. Participation made me grow as a person—made my life rich and rewarding and caused me to be a better mama.”
You say, “What is your qualification to teach us to be good husbands?”
I’ve made one of the happiest, most cheerful, thankful, joyful ladies on this earth who thinks I’m the grandest thing in all the world. That gives me the confidence to believe I have something to offer.
But my most enlightening marriage material comes from the many letters and emails I have received from husbands and wives over the past 17 years. The daily stream of correspondence reveals common patterns that either lead to ruin or that heal and grow a marriage into something heavenly. It can almost be viewed as a science: the laws of sowing and reaping are extremely reliable. A marriage grows till it soars or it deteriorates till it’s damned. In your correspondence, you have shown me a thousand times that a marriage can be saved and blossom into something beautiful.
In addition, I have been a student of the words of God for the past fifty-four years, spending hours searching out every subject, and the husband and wife relationship has always been of particular interest to me. Through my experience and that of others I have found that God is the best marriage counselor on earth, and beyond it as well. After all, he who imagined and conceived of marriage, with all its complexities, will best know how to make the most of it.
The theme of this book is unique, having never been the subject of any book preceding it. Sir, even though you think you are quite autonomous and complete in yourself, you were created to need a help meet. Marriage is God’s laboratory for the perfecting of the human race. It is a recapitulation of the entire human experience, distilling the conflict and triumph of the ages down to a very personal, individualized experience—a test of all that makes us human. In marriage each of us has the opportunity to grow and develop into something much higher and nobler than the self-seeking ends native to one person alone.
Marriage is both the mount of temptation—where we have the opportunity to feed our self-centered natures—and the pinnacle of a paradise restored, where we become heirs together of the grace of life and develop the nature of a savior and a priest. Marriage is heaven’s boot camp, the terminal of our future destiny, the place where we grow small and inward or become large with mercy and sacrifice.
In contrast to my introduction, this book is not philosophical. It is so practical you will squirm with embarrassment and hope your wife doesn’t read that line.
The Three Kinds of Men
The two halves of this book are so different, they could have been written as two separate books. In the first half we examine all the ways in which we men need a help meet. In the second half we look at the three kinds of men, as presented in my wife’s book, Created to Be His Help Meet . But my approach is much more masculine and in your face. You will discover that by nature you come to marriage, as well as life, with certain strengths and weaknesses. You will come to know yourself, and you will learn to temper your natural excesses and strengthen your natural weaknesses. Most of all, you will learn the part your wife plays in this maturing process. You will learn how to make her your most suitable helper.
Mr. Pearl,
A funny thing happened on my way to send you my comments about my husband for your new book! I woke up in the middle of the night and could not sleep, so I got up to take the opportunity to write all I had to say. This was my big moment!
As I sat down and began writing every complaint that came mind about my husband and men in general, the conviction of the Holy Spirit came upon me and the Lord turned the whole thing around. I began sobbing and wailing before the Lord as I was brought into repentance and He had me write 30 specific items I needed to repent to my husband for. I was transformed, literally, from a woman looking forward to unloading a truckload of scathing comments about my husband, to a sinner broken and contrite before my God.
This was humbling, painful, cleansing, and refreshing at the same time! I wrote the whole letter of repentance to my husband, getting up a new creature in Christ and going back to bed. I gave my husband the letter the next morning and we have never been the same since.
It was the start of a brand new marriage with a brand new life! I am now becoming the help meet I was created to be and my husband is changing too! After repenting and having to take such a long, hard look at my own sin, I no longer look at my husband the way I used to. I see him as another child of God who is “working out his own salvation with fear and trembling,” rather than the lazy bum who won’t get off the couch and do anything (he’s not like that, but that’s how I viewed him!)
Just wanted you to know how the Lord used your plans for a new book to change our lives!
A Happy Wife
CONTENTS
Acknowledgements
Introduction
Chapter 1: Anticipation
Chapter 2: Created to Need a Help Meet
Chapter 3: Marriage Made on Earth
Chapter 4: How Do I Need Thee? Let Me Count the Ways
Chapter 5: In His Image
Chapter 6: Mr. Visionary
Chapter 7: Mr. Steady
Chapter 8: The Command Man
Chapter 9: Contrasting the Types
Chapter 10: Three Kinds of Women
Chapter 11: What Saith the Scriptures?
Chapter 12: Washing of the Word
Chapter 13: Obey Indeed?
Chapter 14: Leave and Cleave
Chapter 15: Issues
Excerpt: Pornography: Road to Hell
Excerpt: Holy Sex
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD . Proverbs 18:22
Chapter 1
ANTICIPATION
My First Love
It was a mile and a half walk down a hot tar and gravel road to the country church where I would attend Vacation Bible School. I was nine years old, and I discovered love that day. I don’t remember her name. I can’t even remember what she looked like, but I do remember her pink dress