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Calling all Catholic women! Are some of your relationships stressing you out? Have you been deeply let down by someone you dearly love? Are you tired of recycled criticism or constant arguing? Hope is here. In this, her latest in The Catholic Woman's Guide series-all about relationships!-noted author Rose Sweet shares some of her "golden nuggets" that expose the roots of relationship troubles and how to finally be free of them. The Catholic Woman's Guide series integrates Catholic theology (Theology of the Body and teachings on contemplative prayer) with Sweet's unique brand of story and humor and will help you to find authentic love and freedom in all your relationships. In this third volume, The Catholic Women's Guide to Relationships, Sweet takes you through the doorway of Scripture to see how Jesus handled those troublesome people! Topics include: Exposing the little ways in which we tend to use even the people we love Learning to hear and speak another's emotional language Changing poison patterns in relationships Setting and enforcing healthy boundaries Knowing when, how, and why to reinvent or even end a relationship Embracing the power and freedom of solitudeSweet also reveals the "Four Rules of Relationship" as the pathway not only to healthier, holier relationships, but also as a map into a deeper interior life with the God who desires a rich and intimate relationship with you.

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Publié par	TAN Books
Date de parution	09 novembre 2020
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781505118919
Langue	English

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A Catholic Woman’s Guide to Relationships
A CATHOLIC WOMAN’S GUIDE TO RELATIONSHIPS
Rose Sweet
TAN Books Gastonia, North Carolina
Copyright © 2020 Rose Sweet
All rights reserved. With the exception of short excerpts used in critical review, no part of this work may be reproduced, transmitted, or stored in any form whatsoever, without the prior written permission of the publisher.
Unless otherwise noted, Scripture quotations are from the Revised Standard Version of the Bible—Second Catholic Edition (Ignatius Edition), copyright © 2006 National Council of the Churches of Christ in the United States of America. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
Cover design by Caroline K. Green
Cover image by David Shawley / Shutterstock
Library of Congress Control Number: 2020940991
ISBN: 978-1-5051-1225-2
Kindle ISBN: 978-1-5051-1890-2
EPUB ISBN: 978-1-5051-1891-9
Published in the United States by
TAN Books
PO Box 269
Gastonia, NC 28053
www.TANBooks.com
Printed in the United States of America
Contents
Part 1: Standing at the Door
Introduction
1 Entering the Interior World
2 Exploring the Mystery
3 Following the Master
Part 2: Listening
4 Learning to Listen
5 Hearing with the Heart
6 Listening in Silence
Part 3: Leading
7 Understanding Your Role
8 Using Your Gifts
9 Letting Them Fall
Part 4: Loving
10 Being a Gift
11 Adjusting Your Expectations
12 Respecting their Freedom
Part 5: Letting Go
13 Facing Your Fears
14 Releasing Control
15 Learning to Trust
Part 6: Sitting at the Fire
16 Releasing the Shame
17 Seeking Forgiveness
18 Letting God Lead
Forty Pearls of Wisdom
P ART 1
Standing at the Door
Behold, I stand at the door and knock; if any one hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me.
—Revelation 3:20
Introduction
G oodness gracious, there is no way one can pack in all the wisdom about healthy relationships in one little book! So I will simply begin in the way that the Gospel of John ends: “But there are also many other things which Jesus did; were every one of them to be written, I suppose that the world itself could not contain the books that would be written” (Jn 21:25).
To properly enjoy and digest something rich—and not make yourself sick—it should be served in small portions. Think of a juicy, fluffy, gravy-drenched Thanksgiving dinner; there is a little savory and sweet, starchy and salty, and maybe things that you would prefer to not even look at (that green bean casserole?)! Similarly, this book has a little of everything to whet your appetite for more.
And there is no way that you can put everything good on your plate in one go-around. You must go back for seconds, and later for leftovers! When you’re hungry for relationship truth, I hope this book is one you can go back to again and again.
In the pages that follow, I’ve served up some of my best recipes for love, peace, freedom, and joy in living and working with others. I got them from Jesus; savor them and give thanks to the Lord for he is good.
His love is everlasting (see Ps 136).
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Entering the Interior World
Indeed, the Architect of Love has built the door into heaven so low that no one but a small child can pass through it, unless, to get down to a child’s little height, he goes in on his knees.
—Caryll Houselander, Reed of God
I love magic doorways.
When I say “magic,” I’m not referring to superstition or the occult but the commonly used word for the mystery and allure of God’s supernatural creation. I wrote more about our Catholic mysteries in the first two books of this series on happiness 1 and romance. 2
We are intrigued, and sometimes scared, to discover doorways that lead us into other worlds. Ever since I was a child, I’ve loved to read stories of secret entrances (doors, portals, gates, platforms, and even mirrors) that opened to great adventures! Alice’s tiny door into Wonderland, Dorothy’s farmhouse door into Oz, and my favorite, Lucy’s hidden door through the back of the English wardrobe.
Man has always longed to explore other worlds, and it’s no wonder: we were made for heaven . God will never cease drawing us to himself (see CCC 27), and all of nature and creation is our invitation to the supernatural realm. Most especially, the Church and the Sacraments are mysterious ways of truly uniting the visible and invisible worlds of which we are all a part.
But these doors and this adventure should lead us not just to places but to Persons: into relationship with the Father, the Son, and the Holy Ghost . Not only do worlds meet but also hearts. Our heavenly Father wants us to discover not only his hidden secrets but mostly the abundant love he has for us. God himself is a relationship of perfect love and harmony between divine Persons (see CCC 233); our relationships with others will be disastrous unless they reflect this holy communion.
Doors are more than they seem
Doors keep us safe. Funny, though, when people argue, they often slam a door in the other’s face. Physical doors can also have spiritual and emotional dimensions to them.
Back in my single days, I dated a man who became increasingly frustrated that I didn’t listen to him and therefore didn’t understand him. Sadly, he was right. But it didn’t hit me until the night he literally shut the door in my face, making sure I could hear him loudly turn the inside lock. Pathetically, I stood outside and called out for him, knocking at his door. All that did was give him the pleasure of refusing to answer. Then he went to the large living room picture window and, while defiantly staring me down, slowly lowered the blinds.
He was cruel to shut me out that way. I’ll never forget how I got into my car, burst into tears, and sobbed all the way home. I’m thankful God will not slam the door in our faces. If we seek him with all of our heart, we will find him (see Jer 29:13). We must also keep the doors of our heart open to him … and anyone he sends to us!
God wired our brains for connection , but trauma rewires it for protection . That’s why wounded, scared, or angry people have such a tough time forming healthy relationships. We each have the power to let love in or lock it out. Jesus came to us as the key to open those doors and enter into authentic love.
Jesus calls us into relationship with him
“Do you have a personal relationship with Jesus?”
The question took me aback when I first heard it on my car radio, listening to the Protestant radio program Focus on the Family in the mid-1970s. Every morning on the way to work, I would hear people share their inspiring conversion stories, of moving away from sinful lives to an intimate and trusting walk with the Lord. They made me laugh, cry, and want more than ever to have a good relationship with Jesus.
I thought about it and said back to the radio, “Yes, I have a personal relationship with Jesus. I got it at baptism!”
After all, I was “betrothed” to him as a baby by my parents, confessed my sins to him when I was seven, and asked him to come into my heart and live there forever on my first Holy Communion day. I went to Mass with my parents and prayed pretty regularly, often pouring my heart out to him before I went to sleep. But that’s where it ended.
One day, a Protestant friend asked me the question directly.
“Do you have a personal relationship with Jesus?”
Oh, no, here we go again.
She didn’t wait for my reply.
“It sure doesn’t seem like it by the way you live. All that man-made ritual and repetitive prayer you Catholics hang onto is in vain. Why do you keep trying to sacrifice him over and over at Mass? And why do you still have him hanging on the cross? He is RISEN!”
Back then, I didn’t know how to respond. I felt attacked and was frustrated that I didn’t have quick answers. But I am forever thankful for the question because it made me think and was the start of my journey (no, my wild adventure !) to go more deeply into the interior life.
We all have a personal relationship with Jesus
You could say that we all have a very “personal” relationship with the Lord in that he created us, he first loved us, and then he gave of himself so that we could have eternal happiness with him forever. It’s just that too many take the relationship for granted, never respond fully, or reject it completely. It’s our side of the relationship that is in question.
As an adult, I was still stuck in a childish relationship with him. I would call to him, usually only when I needed help and then wait and see what happened. If God didn’t make things happen for me, I would just figure out a way to do it myself. I didn’t know him very well, and I certainly didn’t trust him as I should. I had never entered as a grown woman into the “bridal chamber” of his heart and surrendered myself, body and soul, to his tender love.
Everything changes with that kind of complete surrender. At some level, we all know it, and many fear it.
Jesus opens the door to love
One day, I told God, Look, I want the truth and nothing but the truth. If the Catholic Church is full of error, I want to know it! If it is, I’m outta here!
He loves those kinds of prayers.
I started reading anti-Catholic literature so that I could be familiar with the most common objections. Most of it was written by ex-Catholics who, I later found out, were deeply wounded by someone in the Church or who could not give up a particular sin that the Church condemned.
I also discovered the endless library of truth that the Church has preserved for us. I started to burn with desire for more of God and his mystery and eventually had my own life-changing conversion. When I began to realize something of how intensely God loved me, it was natural for me to respond with deeper love in return. And all the routinely memorized Ten Commandments, works of mercy, and so many more structured prayers came flooding back into my heart, now animated with love.
Relationships ar