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From Marriage and Family Experts Dennis and Barbara RaineyDennis and Barbara Rainey have spent decades helping families find biblical help to strengthen and transform family relationships. Through radio broadcasts, conferences, and other events, they have been teaching on the foundations necessary for building godly families. Now they bring insights and expertise gleaned from those years of ministry, as well as from their own personal experience of raising six children, to The Art of Parenting. Expanding on parenting themes shared with FamilyLife audiences in person and on the radio, Dennis and Barbara offer trusted advice on how to establish Christian values in your home.In The Art of Parenting, Dennis and Barbara will help you to experience God's truth and apply his Word in your family by focusing your attention on four crucial elements in your children's lives:1. Identity--understanding who they are in Christ 2. Character--learning to live wisely and honorably3. Relationships--fostering godly connections with others4. Mission--understanding why they are hereWhen you apply biblical truths in these four areas, you can feel confident your children will have a foundation they can build upon for the rest of their lives.

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Publié par	Baker Publishing Group
Date de parution	28 août 2018
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781493413683
Langue	English
Poids de l'ouvrage	3 Mo

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Title Page
Copyright Page
© 2018 by Dennis Rainey and Barbara Rainey
Published by Bethany House Publishers
11400 Hampshire Avenue South
Bloomington, Minnesota 55438
www.bethanyhouse.com
Bethany House Publishers is a division of
Baker Publishing Group, Grand Rapids, Michigan
www.bakerpublishinggroup.com
Ebook edition created 2018
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—for example, electronic, photocopy, recording—without the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is on file at the Library of Congress, Washington, DC.
ISBN 978-1-4934-1368-3
Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version® (ESV®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. ESV Text Edition: 2011
Scripture quotations identified NASB are from the New American Standard Bible®, copyright © 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995 by The Lockman Foundation. Used by permission. (www.Lockman.org)
Scripture quotations identified NIV are from the Holy Bible, New International Version®. NIV®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. www.zondervan.com
Scripture quotations identified NKJV are from the New King James Version®. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
Cover design by Julie Sullivan, MerakiLifeDesigns.com
Authors represented by Wolgemuth and Associates
Contents
Cover 1
Title Page 2
Copyright Page 3
Foreword by David and Meg Robbins 5
Eight Certainties for Every Parent 7
Section One: A Parakeet Teaches God’s Love 9
1. Like Arrows 18
2. What Every Child Needs 26
3. What Every Parent Needs 33
Section Two: Relationships Matter 47
4. Bridge Building Lane One: Loving Unconditionally 51
5. Bridge Building Lanes Two and Three: Pursuing and Forgiving 59
6. Teaching Love for Others 69
7. The Bridge That Love Built: Teaching Love for God 82
Section Three: Building Character 93
8. A Plan for Building Character 97
9. How God Builds Character in Us 107
10. Building Character in Your Children 115
11. Using Discipline to Build Character 128
12. What about Spanking? 140
13. Smartphones for Smart Families 150
Section Four: What Is Identity? 165
14. Emotional Identity 168
15. Spiritual Identity 180
16. Sexual Identity 191
17. An Intentional Approach to the Birds and the Bees 203
Section Five: Mission 219
18. Your Home, His Embassy 224
19. Releasing Your Arrows 232
With These Hands 243
Recommended Resources 246
Notes 249
About the Authors 253
Back Ads 255
Back Cover 258
Foreword
by David and Meg Robbins
O ne of the primary ways God is bringing the world back to Himself is through moms and dads making disciples of their own kids.
We believe at our core that this is true, and we seek to be intentional in the formation of our four children. But many days it seems like we are doing more harm than good and barely hanging on by a prayer.
Are we being too strict? Or are we being too lenient?
Are we helping our kids pursue their own relationship with Jesus? Or are we just busying them with activity?
Are we displaying God’s grace? Or are we being legalistic?
Are we focusing on the “majors”— on what’s most important? Or the “minors”?
Dennis and Barbara have poured so much heart, wisdom, and experience into these pages, and we are so grateful for the profound encouragement and practical tools we’ve found in The Art of Parenting . We have loved reading other books from the Raineys over the years, but we’ve had the opportunity to get to know them and some of their children over the last year as they passed the leadership baton of FamilyLife to us. What a privilege to interact with their children and see how God has shaped them through the love and intentionality of Dennis and Barbara as parents. As we have talked with the Raineys and picked their brains about raising kids in the midst of all the challenges of the world, we have seen what a wealth of wisdom they gained from their own experiences.
This book is like a deep-dive into their years of parenting. It’s a chance to be mentored, trained, and equipped by the Raineys as they share how God was at work in their family through both successes and missteps. We are in the thick of raising kids ourselves, ages two through twelve. So we appreciate the melding of biblical principles and practical advice and ideas to point our children to Jesus and to help them develop strong relationships, godly character, and steadfast identity—and discover their unique mission in life.
The timing of The Art of Parenting comes at an important cultural moment. God’s plan A for the formation of the next generation is through parents. But what parents and kids must navigate today is certainly challenging—the pace of changing technology, an increasingly secular society, and a new set of questions encircling core identity (just to name a few). The Art of Parenting consistently draws upon the timeless, unchanging wisdom of Scripture to help us as parents navigate common challenges. Dennis and Barbara guide us in how to tenaciously build strong, grace-filled relational bridges in which character-forming truths and discipline can travel.
Recently, one of our kids began training for a cross-country team. Initially he began taking jogs on his own. But I (Meg) realized two things: First, I needed more exercise myself! Second, running with him would give me more opportunities to strengthen my relational bridge that is increasingly needed with my soon-to-be teen. So I pulled out my running shoes and started training with him. And although I’ve been very sore, I’m so grateful for this purposeful, consistent time with him. This is just one example of the many ways God has prompted us while reading this book to be more intentional with our kids.
We pray that you and your relationship with your kids will be shaped by The Art of Parenting. The Raineys beautifully steward the wisdom and experience gleaned from more than forty years of direct ministry to marriages and families. This is the culmination of countless interviews with experts on the FamilyLife Today radio show and the honest lessons from their own family.
One thing is sure: This book will draw you into closer relationship to the One who covers your imperfections as a parent and gives you supernatural power to pass on a living faith.
One generation shall commend your works to another, and shall declare your mighty acts. . . .They shall pour forth the fame of your abundant goodness and shall sing aloud of your righteousness.
Psalm 145:4, 7
David and Meg Robbins President and CEO, FamilyLife
Eight Certainties for Every Parent
H aving finished the journey of parenting, we understand the whole of the mission much like a coach who isn’t on the playing field anymore but stands on the sidelines watching the team, noticing needed adjustments, and anticipating next plays. From his or her years on the field, the coach sees the value of both offense and defense. Decades of experience have led to strategic thinking that younger coaches, so engrossed in the demands of their specialties, haven’t the time or experience to formulate.
So before you turn the page, here are eight truths we’ve learned in our decades of experience, certainties that will provide context to every word, every story in this book. All that follows in these pages is reflective of how God parents us, His children. As parents ourselves, we sought to adopt His values and His definitions of character for our children’s hearts. We are saying to you, “Here is what we learned, what we did reasonably well, and where we failed.” Our goal is to encourage you, coach you, and cheer you on. Parents are complex. Every parent brings into this journey a mixed bag of good and bad experiences from his or her family of origin. Those experiences need to be looked at with fresh eyes as you decide what to keep and repeat or what to set aside or overcome. Part of God’s intent for you as parents is to continue growing you up, to continue transforming your heart. God will use children to change you as parents. Children are complex. Every child is born with predispositions, gifts, handicaps, and talents that can’t be seen clearly in the early years. Parenting is an adventure in discovering what God is up to in each uniquely created child He gives you. Pray and lean on Jesus for His specific, unique guidance with each one. Parenting is heart work. It is fundamentally a relationship built on love and schooled in love. The ultimate parental goal each and every day is handing over to God’s care the hearts of our children. He can be trusted to transform each of your children. There is no one-size-fits-all formula for parenting. Yes, there are principles and clear teachings in the Bible, but the application of those to each individual child in each unique family setting must be done by listening to God’s specific guidance. He knows everything about your child. Our stories and suggestions are what we did. Some will work for you and others won’t. It’s the beauty of God’s creative genius. He doesn’t want robots. No one raises perfect kids. Even God. We sure didn’t. Our children all have gaps in their lives from growing up in our home. They have told us we didn’t meet them in some of their greatest needs. They’ve said they felt overlooked or excluded at times, and sometimes felt they didn’t fit in the family. Those words hurt to hear, for we never intended harm for any of our six and loved them each passionately. We apologized and said how sorry we were for our mistakes. Every parent is full of limitations and flaws. No one parents