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Tools for Identifying and Developing Spiritual, Social, and Emotional GrowthFrom birth to adulthood, our children's physical and intellectual development is carefully tracked and charted. But what about their hearts? After all, how our children develop emotionally, socially, and spiritually will determine who they become as husbands and wives, fathers and mothers, friends and co-workers.Are My Kids on Track? helps you identify and measure 12 key emotional, social, and spiritual milestones in your children's lives. Moreover, you will discover practical ways to guide your kids through any stumbling blocks they might encounter and help them reach the appropriate landmarks. Along the way the authors pinpoint the different ways boys and girls develop, so you can help your child flourish in his or her own way.Filled with decades of experience from three practicing counselors, speakers, and writers, this book provides you with valuable, current research and user-friendly, hands-on practices to make supporting your kids' soul development a seamless part of family life. Don't just raise smart kids--raise courageous, compassionate, resilient, empathetic, and smart kids.

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Publié par	Baker Publishing Group
Date de parution	14 février 2017
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781441230799
Langue	English

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Title Page
Copyright Page
© 2017 by Helen S. Goff, David Thomas, and Melissa Trevathan
Published by Bethany House Publishers
11400 Hampshire Avenue South
Bloomington, Minnesota 55438
www.bethanyhouse.com
Bethany House Publishers is a division of
Baker Publishing Group, Grand Rapids, Michigan
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Ebook edition created 2017
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is on file at the Library of Congress, Washington, DC.
ISBN 978-1-4412-3079-9
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Some names and recognizable details have been changed to protect the privacy of those who have shared their stories for this book.
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Authors are represented by D.C. Jacobson & Associates.
Endorsements
“Goff, Thomas, and Trevathan have devoted their lives to helping kids and helping their parents. The wisdom of this book is immense. If you need practical ways to empower your sons or daughters, they outline them in understandable ways for parents. Their four emotional, social, and spiritual milestones and stumbling blocks are stunningly helpful. I will certainly use this as a grandparent, and I’m sorry I did not have this treasure chest for my own children.”
Becky Allender, MA, co-founder of The Allender Center for Trauma and Abuse, The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology
“This book is a profound gift to parents who really want to seize their God-given privilege of offering more than the basics to their children. There is such a grasp of the joy and sorrow, fear and wonder of parenting. Goff, Thomas, and Trevathan have hit a home run for us all no matter whether we are parenting our children or caring for our adult children and grandchildren.”
Dan B. Allender, professor of counseling psychology and founding president, The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology; author, To Be Told and Healing the Wounded Heart
“The intentional and thoughtful focus on a child’s emotional, social, and spiritual life from a very early age may well be the anecdote to the growing mental health concerns we now see in young people. This book offers welcome reassurance and guidance to parents seeking to model calm and positive character development in the midst of our fast-paced world.”
Nancy Beveridge, MD, The Children’s Clinic of Nashville
“As a relatively new adoptive mom, I inhaled Are My Kids on Track? by my friends Sissy, Melissa, and David with the enthusiasm I usually reserve for guacamole or dark chocolate. And boy am I glad I did! I came away with some profound insight and lots of practical application regarding how to parent my daughter out of love not fear and how to better shepherd her toward Jesus. Plus, my jeans weren’t any tighter after I gorged myself on their collective wisdom, which makes this book a huge win-win in my opinion!”
Lisa Harper, author and speaker
“As a parent with young children, I couldn’t be more thankful for Are My Kids on Track? It casts a vision for how to help nurture emotional, social, and spiritual growth in your children’s hearts. I felt inspired and equipped as I read through each chapter, and I believe that this book will be a transformational tool for many families.”
Ellie Holcomb, singer-songwriter
“ Are My Kids on Track? isn’t just the title of this book, but the question we all ask ourselves as parents. We worry about their physical, mental, and social development almost from the time they are born. (How else do you explain why I tried so hard to teach my two-week-old daughter how to hold a rattle?) Meanwhile, we are surrounded by voices that tell us all the ways we could be doing it better, and it can make us feel overwhelmed and confused.
“That’s why I love Sissy, Melissa, and David. They offer practical advice on how we can make sure we are raising kids who will flourish, and they do it in a way that is relatable and compassionate. You will read these pages and feel like you’re sitting across the table from a wise older brother and sisters who are cheering you on and encouraging you to run the race of parenthood in a way that will help you develop your kids into exactly who God made them to be.”
Melanie Shankle, New York Times bestselling author of Sparkly Green Earrings
Contents
Cover 1
Title Page 3
Copyright Page 4
Endorsements 5
Epigraph 8
Acknowledgments 9
Introduction 11
Section 1: Emotional Milestones
1. Emotional Vocabulary 17
2. Perspective 43
3. Empathy 69
4. Resourcefulness 93
Section 2: Social Milestones
5. Awareness 117
6. Reciprocity 143
7. Ownership 169
8. Boundaries 189
Section 3: Spiritual Milestones
9. Foundation 213
10. Identity 231
11. Mercy 247
12. Meaning 265
Notes 289
About the Authors 295
Back Cover 297
Epigraph
What saved me was that I found gentle, loyal and hilarious companions, which is at the heart of meaning; maybe we don’t find a lot of answers to life’s toughest questions, but if we find a few true friends, that’s even better. They help you see who you truly are, which is not always the loveliest possible version of yourself, but then comes the greatest miracle of all—they still love you.
Anne Lamott
Acknowledgements
We’re profoundly grateful for the many folks who’ve helped us stay on track over the years . . . predominantly our families, friends, and the staff at Daystar. Thank you for allowing us to share your stories and try your patience as we’ve written this book. We are more because of your love and companionship.
And this book is more because of the giftedness of our home team at Raising Boys and Girls: Carrie Elder, Amanda Young, and Helen Goff keep our schedules, finances, and FedEx packages on track with exceeding kindness. Andy McGuire and the folks at Baker Publishing have extended tremendous hospitality in welcoming us into their family. And Jana Muntsinger has been a coach, encourager, and dear friend to us through the many years and pages of life in the publishing world.
Introduction
“Is my baby rolling back and forth?”
“Does she respond to her name?”
“Can he sit up on his own?”
Questions.
The journey of parenting is full of questions. More questions than answers. The first time a pediatrician enters the hospital room, you’ll find yourself asking and answering questions. It starts with questions about feeding, sleeping, and, of all things, bowel movements. Who knew there was so much to say about meconium?
“How do I know if she is getting enough milk?”
“How much will my newborn sleep?”
“How often should he have bowel movements, and what color should they be?”
We join forces to track height, weight, sleeping patterns, feeding schedules, colic, jaundice, reflux, stools, alertness, reflexes, immunizations, and on and on. And this is just the first few weeks. Many times our questions are infused with hope. At times they are wrapped in fear.
The questions become framed by milestones. Developmental milestones are benchmarks allowing us to track healthy growth, specifically whether our kids are reaching milestones on time. When movement is slow or milestones are missed, we have more questions.
These questions—the ones about rolling over, pulling up, sitting, crawling, standing, etc.—allow us to track their physical development. Once our children step into an academic setting, we have the ability to track their cognitive development, where we can measure IQ, working memory, processing speed, and even pinpoint if a child is reading at a second-grade level, third month, and fourth week. Between the school and the doctor’s office, we track a child’s cognitive and physical development—charting progress, logging percentages, identifying gaps, and layering support. We have the mind and body covered.
But what about the heart?
Three areas lacking in well-defined milestones are our kids’ emotional, social, and spiritual development. These are some of the most vital categories where our kids’ growth is concerned. It’s from this place our kids operate as sons and daughters, brothers and sisters, friends and companions. How our children develop emotionally, socially, and spiritually determines who they are as husbands and wives, fathers and mothers, friends and co-workers.
Can your adolescent son take ownership when he makes a mistake, or does he blame someone else?
Can your daughter voice her needs without manipulation?
Do you have a school-aged child still having meltdowns like a toddler?
Does your teenager have a foundation of faith as he prepares to step into young adulthood?
Getting Stuck
We’re looking for evidence that kids are progressing toward emotional and social milestones. As with physical and cognitive benchmarks, if we can’t see forward movement, it could be a good time to put another set of eyes on the situation. As counselors, with a combined seventy years of experience, we come together with families e