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"God, please help me...another game of Candy Land..."Quite a few dads spend time with their kids. However, many have no clue what their kids really need.Enter author Jay Payleitner, veteran dad of five, who's also struggled with how to build up his children's lives. His 52 Things Kids Need from a Dad combines straightforward features with step-up-to-the-mark challenges men will appreciate:a full year's worth of focused, doable ideas--one per week, if desireduncomplicated ways to be an example, like "kiss your wife in the kitchen"tough, frank advice, like "throw away your porn"And, refreshinglyNO exhaustive (and exhausting) lists of "things you should do"NO criticism of dads for being men and acting like menDads will feel respected and empowered, and gain confidence to initiate activities that build lifelong positives into their kids. Great gift or men's group resource!

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Publié par	Harvest House Publishers, Inc.
Date de parution	01 mars 2010
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9780736937573
Langue	English

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The stories will inspire you. The lessons will change you. Jay Payleitner shows twenty-first-century fatherhood for what it is and for what it needs to be.
-Dr. Dennis E. Hensley , professor and author of more than 50 books, including Man to Man and The Power of Positive Productivity
I have been a wife for 37 years, a mom for 31, and a daughter for...well, let s just say even longer. With those credentials, I highly recommend this book to all dads. It is a good read and, more importantly, a great guide for any man desiring to meet the needs of the children God has entrusted to his care.
-Kendra Smiley, radio host, conference speaker, and author of Be the Parent and High-Wire Mom
Jay Payleitner has given fathers a gift a wise, delightful, practical, and profound book. If you re a father, you will thank him, and if you re not, you ll read this book with joy and give it to a father who will rise up and call you blessed.
-Steve Brown , seminary professor, author of Welcome to the Family and other books, and the voice of Key Life Network
Moms of all ages, grab this book for your husbands! It s inspiring, encouraging, and easy to read.
-Ellen Banks Elwell , author of The Christian Mom s Idea Book and When There s Not Enough of Me to Go Around
52 Things Kids Need from a Dad reminds all of us of the humbling privilege and exhilarating joy of fatherhood. You won t find any lectures or guilt trips here. Instead, it s more like 52 inspiring halftime talks. As your personal fathering coach, Jay will provoke you to think deep, laugh hard, and love more, leaving you with 52 unexpected fathering insights .
-Carey Casey, CEO of The National Center for Fathering, speaker, radio host, and author of Championship Fathering
This is great stuff, worth any dad s time. If you can t benefit from this, you re not listening. Ignore it only if you don t want to be a better dad. The first three copies are going to my grown sons.
-Jerry B. Jenkins, coauthor of the megaselling L EFT B EHIND series and author of over 150 other published works
Jay s chapter Kids Need Their Dad to Stop and Catch the Fireflies is worth the price of the book. As my friend Philip the Firefly might say, Payleitner hits pay-dirt on lighting up a dad s heart!
-Dr. Emmett Cooper, author of The HoneyWord Bible for kids of all ages; founder and president of HoneyWord Foundation
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52 THINGS KIDS NEED FROM A DAD
Copyright 2010 by Jay K. Payleitner
Published by Harvest House Publishers
Eugene, Oregon 97402
www.harvesthousepublishers.com
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Payleitner, Jay K.
52 things kids need from a dad / Jay K. Payleitner.
p. cm.
ISBN 978-0-7369-2723-9 (pbk.)
1. Father and child-Religious aspects-Christianity. I. Title. II. Title: Fifty-two things kids need from a dad.
BV4529.17.P39 2010
248.8 421-dc22
2009031514
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means-electronic, mechanical, digital, photocopy, recording, or any other-except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the publisher.
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To my bride, Rita,
who makes me a better dad.
And to all wives
who do the same
for their husbands.
Contents
Foreword by Josh McDowell
A Lesson from Hollywood
Kids Need Their Dad
1. To Help Them Beat the Odds
2. To Stop and Catch the Fireflies
3. To Carry the Calf Every Day
4. To Count the Train Cars
5. To Start a File Folder with Their Name on It
6. To Kneel or Stand by Their Bed As They Sleep, Watching, Praying, Appreciating the Gift of Our Children, and Thinking About the Meaning of Love
7. To Catch Them in a Lie
8. To Tell Them the Hamster Died As Soon As the Hamster Dies
9. To-Sometimes-Make an Illegal U-Turn on the Expressway and Drive 30 Miles Back to the Restaurant Where Your Son Left His Dodgers Cap
10. To Spy on Them
11. Two Words: Wallet Photos
12. To Answer Their Questions with Questions
13. To Buy Peeps the First Day They Hit the Shelves
14. To Understand the Ebb and Flow of Traditions
15. To Ignore (or Even Applaud) the Dents on the Garage Door
16. To Avoid the Clich s
17. To Get Right with His Dad
18. To Rent a Dolphin for an Hour
19. To Acknowledge the Absurdity of Participation Trophies
20. To Understand All Three Perspectives in the Story of the Prodigal Son
21. To Teach Them the Word Pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis
22. To Conquer the Car Seat
23. To Affirm Their Existence Intellectually
24. To Be Waiting at the Next Bridge
25. To Buy Them a Unicycle
26. To Be Their Greatest Cheerleader
27. To Throw Out His Porn
28. To Respond with Something Besides Read a Book When Kids Say, There s Nothing to Do
29. To See Who They Really Are
30. To Run Through a Vacation Checklist in the Driveway
31. To Make Sure His Brain Is Engaged Before Putting His Mouth in Gear
32. To Not Yell About Spilled Milk
33. To Freak Out a Little When They Lose His Socket Wrench Set
34. To Teach Them the World s Greatest Knock-Knock Joke
35. To Apply the Brakes on Slippery Slopes
36. To Make a Pair of Homemade Stilts
37. To Read Between the Lines of Psalm 127
38. Daughters Need Their Dad To Willingly Do the Hokey-Pokey, the Macarena, and Even the Chicken Dance
39. Sons Need Their Dad To Be Their Sparring Partner
Kids Need Their Dad
40. To Establish and Enforce Some Ironclad Family Rules
41. To Multitask
42. To Take the Lead on Halloween
43. To Anticipate Their Every Need
44. To Spin a Bucket Overhead
45. To Be Ichthyusiastic
46. To Quit Golf
47. To Kiss His Wife in the Kitchen
48. To Respect Their Mom
49. To Set the Bar Pretty High
50. To Wake Them Up for a Lunar Eclipse
51. To Equip Them for Life Without You
52. To Not Confuse Heritage with Legacy
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Acknowledgments
Notes
About the Author
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Foreword
by Josh McDowell
O ne of the great benefits of being in ministry more than 40 years is that you get to see whether or not all the things you ve been speaking and writing about stand the test of time. Certainly the cultural climate has changed drastically, but I m pleased to confirm (and not at all surprised) that truth is still truth, Jesus is still more than a carpenter, and young people still need unconditional love and strong role models.
In 1991, I co-authored the book How to Be a Hero to Your Kids, which helped give a biblically based, positive parenting plan to a generation of fathers. One of those young dads was Jay Payleitner, who was the producer for Josh McDowell Radio for more than 13 years. During our marathon recording sessions, we covered a wide range of critical topics, including apologetics, teen abstinence, and international outreach, but some of our most impassioned broadcasts focused on the responsibility fathers have to make building a relationship with their children a top priority.
A story I told more than once on radio reveals the single greatest secret to being an awesome father. I cannot take any credit for it, except for the fact that I was smart enough to listen, smart enough not to let my ego get in the way, and smart enough to allow myself to be broken before God.
To put it in context, Dottie and I were living in San Bernardino, California. Kelly was four and Sean was two, so it was quite a few years ago. Katie and Heather were not even born yet. I recall that I was in my study on a Thursday afternoon at about 3:30. I was on a roll, writing a chapter of a book to meet a deadline, when in wandered Sean.
Want to play, Daddy, he chirped.
As an experienced parent, I should have realized that basically Sean just wanted a hug, a pat, and a minute or two to show me the new ball he was carrying. But I was working on something important and felt I just didn t have even two minutes right then.
Son, I said, how about a little later? I m right in the middle of a chapter.
Sean didn t know what a chapter was, but he got the message. Daddy was busy and he d have to leave now. He trotted off without complaining and I returned to my manuscript. My relief was short-lived. In a minute or two, Dottie came in and sat down for a little chat. My wife never tries to nail me; she has much gentler-and more effective-methods.
Honey, Sean just told me you were too busy to play with him. I know that this book is important, but I d like to point something out.
What is that? I asked a bit impatiently, because now my wife was keeping me from my all-important project.
Honey, you re always busy. You re a five-ring circus. You will always have a deadline to meet, a chapter to finish, a talk to prepare, and a trip somewhere to give it. But honey, you won t always have a two-year-old son who wants to sit in his daddy s lap and show you his new ball. Having made her point she started to walk out, but stopped, turned, and lef