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Today, marriages have a 50 percent chance of lasting. Longing to improve those odds, pastor Clayton King, author of the popular Dying to Live, and his wife, Sharie, reveal a revolutionary biblical perspective--at the heart of a godly union is a heart of service. Love is more about understanding one's spouse than being understood. Offering wisdom from God's Word and beneficial advice from their decade of marriage, the Kings present 12 relationship-building questions for couples to ask before they wed. They guide and encourage couples to discuss their: religious backgrounds past relationships desires for family and future financial habits and goals vocational aspirations These questions reveal expectations and concerns and help each person understand the needs and hopes of their loved one. A great resource for churches, counselors, dating couples, and young men and women who dream of a forever marriage.

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Publié par	Harvest House Publishers, Inc.
Date de parution	01 août 2011
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9780736941952
Langue	English

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What Others Are Saying About 12 Questions to Ask Before You Marry
Clayton and Charie share truth and wisdom that I believe will help young Christian couples build strong relationships that will last for a lifetime.
-J ERRY F ALWELL J R ., chancellor and president, Liberty University
In a day when the church desperately needs its people to show the reality of the gospel to a lost world by how we love each other in our marriages, I cannot think of a better book for Christians to read and implement than this one.
-P ERRY N OBLE, senior pastor, Newspring Church, Anderson, South Carolina
Clayton and Charie King have done a fantastic job of preparing young men and women for marriage by encouraging them to ask commonsense questions that reveal very important issues of character, conviction, and competence. I urge you to read this book.
-D ANIEL A KIN, president, Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary and author of God on Sex
I know that God will use this book to impact thousands-my prayer is that you will allow this book to impact you .
-J ONATHAN F ALWELL, pastor, Thomas Road Baptist Church Lynchburg, Virginia
This book goes further than quoting divorce statistics and flashing warning signs. It encourages caution, instructs with wisdom, and inspires with biblical truth. I hope you will read this book and apply its principles.
-T IM C LINTON, president, American Association of Christian Counselors
With God s direction through this powerful book, I pray you ll find the answers that lead you to the one-of-a-kind love story God has written for your life.
-from the foreword by C RAIG G ROESCHEL, author; founding and senior pastor of LifeChurch.tv
This helpful book advises young adults to look past sentimental notions of romance to see the challenges and rewards of the reality of lifelong commitment. Clayton and Charie offer strong medicine that will lead to stronger families.
-T REVIN W AX, author of Counterfeit Gospels and Holy Subversion
Clayton and Charie have written a gift to the church, a book on relationships that meets all of us wherever we are and spurs us on towards the gracious Lordship of Jesus Christ.
-M ATT O RTH, pastor, Broad River Community Church, Boiling Springs, North Carolina
Whether you re single or married, this book is essential reading.
-S TEVEN F URTICK, lead pastor, Elevation Church, Charlotte, North Carolina; author, Sun Stand Still
Clayton and Charie King

HARVEST HOUSE PUBLISHERS
EUGENE, OREGON
All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from The Holy Bible, New International Version NIV . Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 by Biblica, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.
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Cover by Dugan Design Group, Bloomington, Minnesota
Cover photo Serena Siqueland / Digital Vision / Getty Images; back-cover author photo Bob Carey
Clayton and Charie King s agent: David Van Diest from D.C. Jacobson Associates, 3689 Carman Dr., Ste. 300, Lake Oswego, OR.
Personal stories in this book: Where individuals may be identifiable, they have granted the author and the publisher the right to use their names, stories, and/or facts of their lives in all manners, including composite or altered representations. In all other cases, names, circumstances, descriptions, and details have been changed to render individuals unidentifiable.
12 QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE YOU MARRY Copyright 2011 by Clayton and Charie King Published by Harvest House Publishers Eugene, Oregon 97402 www.harvesthousepublishers.com
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
King, Clayton, 1972-
12 questions to ask before you marry / Clayton and Charie King.
p. cm.
ISBN 978-0-7369-3777-1 (pbk.)
ISBN 978-0-7369-4195-2 (eBook)
1. Marriage-Religious aspects-Christianity. I. King, Charie, 1974- II. Title.
BV835.K545 2011
241′.6765-dc22
2011007471
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means-electronic, mechanical, digital, photocopy, recording, or any other-except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the publisher.
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A Word of Thanks from Clayton
I thank my family (Joe, Jane, and Brad) for adopting me, loving me, teaching me hard work and humility, and raising me to know and love Christ.
I am thankful for good friends like Matt, Seth, Perry, Steven, Jonathan, Brian, J.D., Bruce, Dean, Justin, Micah, Jeremy, Brad, Brent, Jordan, Johnnie, David, Tyler, Paul, Todd, Andy, and Ray for their faithfulness to Jesus and to me.
I am thankful for godly mentors like Wilkes Skinner, Jake Thornhill, Doug Murphy, and Billy Graham who have modeled what it means to follow Christ and be a servant.
I am thankful for the many preachers and authors who have shaped my life and theology.
I am thankful for the staff at Crossroads, the community at Broad River, and everyone at Newspring and Liberty for their prayers and support over the years.
Most of all I am thankful to, and for, my wife, Charie, and our boys, Jacob and Joseph. You are the joy of my life. I love you so very much.
Contents

What Others Are Saying About 12 Questions to Ask Before You Marry
A Word of Thanks from Clayton
Foreword by Craig Groeschel
Are You Paying Attention?
1. Are You Willing to Grow Up?
2. Are You Equally Yoked ?
3. Have You Talked About Money?
4. Will You Tell the Truth?
5. Will You Commit?
6. Are You Compatible?
7. Have You Communicated Your Expectations?
8. Are You Ready to Marry an Entire Family?
9. Are You Willing to Submit?
10. Will You Give Respect?
11. Are You Ready to Love?
12. Are You Ready to Get Naked ?
Final Considerations
Notes
A Word from Clayton About Crossroads Worldwide
Other Harvest House Books by Clayton King
More Resources to Help You with Relationships
About the Publisher
About the Authors
Foreword
by Craig Groeschel

M ost marriages begin with dreams of happily ever after. In reality, more than half of those unions won t see that fairy-tale ending-but they will end. And of the marriages that do last, many struggle on life support for the sake of the kids.
It doesn t have to be that way.
It s not supposed to be that way.
So what do you do when you want a marriage that soars in a world where most crash before takeoff? What do you do when you have a dream for intimacy, but most married couples you know are strangers to each other? What do you do when you desire a marriage that honors God and goes the distance?
You do something different.
Think about it. The normal path toward marriage isn t working very well, is it? Premarital sex is par for the course. Living together before marriage is seen as an acceptable decision. And many individuals plow through person after person, as if buying dozens of lottery tickets hoping for the lucky one-the one that might hold the magic ticket of marriage.
When you think about it, many people desperate for love attempt to find it by doing what married people do. They share their hearts. I love you . They share their bodies. I want you . They share their living spaces. Let s move in together . In other words, they pretend like they are married. When their imaginary marriage doesn t work, they break it off. Pretend marriage. Practice divorce.
Before long, rather than seeing marriage as a covenant before God, they view it as a contract to protect themselves. I ll do my part. You do yours. I m in as far as you re in. Once the real marriage hits some inevitable bumps along the road, they naturally do what they trained to do: They bail at the nearest off-ramp and go their separate ways.
Thankfully, Clayton and Charie King have written a book with some different advice. While some claim to have all the answers, Clayton and Charie take another approach. You might say they have all the questions. The eye-opening book they ve written, 12 Questions to Ask Before You Marry , will show you that your craving for lifelong intimacy is a God-given desire. With wisdom, humor, and practical advice, they ll help you prepare for that God-honoring relationship.
Let me warn you: The questions in this book might lead you toward some different answers. In fact, I pray they do. If you are sick of deadend relationships or lukewarm love, it s time to make some major changes. If small changes would do the trick, everyone would be making them. Minor adjustments produce marginal results. Most of us need to overhaul our thinking. To experience the kind of relationships we long for, we must, with God s help, prepare to be radically different.
It s time to ask the right questions. And with God s direction through this powerful book, I pray you ll find the answers that lead you to the one-of-a-kind love story God has written for your life.
-Craig Groeschel
author; founding and senior
pastor of LifeChurch.tv
Introduction
Are You Paying Attention?

E veryone is going somewhere. Only a few people go there on purpose .
Charie and I aren t su