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Couples with great marriages know one simple truth: the best marriages are made up of many everyday decisions that say "I love you" rather than those that say "I love me." When we put the other person first, even in little ways, we find true fulfillment.This book offers husbands practical, hands-on advice to start applying immediately. Maybe you are just entering into marriage and want to start off on the right foot. Maybe you have made some mistakes along the way and are struggling to connect. Or maybe you want your marriage to go from good to great. Wherever you currently are in your relationship, let Matt Jacobson help you learn how to love your wife well.

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Publié par	Baker Publishing Group
Date de parution	01 octobre 2019
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781493419487
Langue	English
Poids de l'ouvrage	2 Mo

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© 2019 by Faithful Families Ministries, LLC
Published by Revell
a division of Baker Publishing Group
PO Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
www.revellbooks.com
Previously published by Loyal Publishing in 2014
Ebook edition created 2019
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ISBN 978-1-4934-1948-7
Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations are from the King James Version of the Bible.
Scripture quotations labeled NKJV are from the New King James Version®. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
Dedication
For my sons, that in striking blows in favor of civilization, you might know and never forget how to love as Christ loves.
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Dedication
100 Ways to Love Your Wife
Introduction
1. She gave her heart to you. VALUE IT for the sacred treasure it is.
2. REACH for her often.
3. After a busy week, run a hot bath . . . just for her.
4. Ask about her thoughts and dreams.
5. Listen when she answers, not because you have to but because the person you cherish is sharing her HEART.
6. Romance her before, during, and after the wedding . . . especially after the wedding, after the honeymoon, after the kids start to come, and after they begin to head off to college.
7. Buy her the best chocolate you can afford and keep her stash well stocked!
8. Shower together every chance you get.
9. Tell her you really appreciate the dinner she made or that baking effort every time.
10. Kiss every day, but more importantly, kiss with passion—every time you kiss.
11. Send her away . . . because you love her!
12. Hold her close, until she feels the STRENGTH of your conviction.
13. She’s confusing you again, isn’t she?
14. You’ve removed your clothes, but have you removed the OBSTACLES?
15. Surprise her with a spontaneous mini-date.
16. Express thanks for the thankless jobs.
17. Let her know you see her STRENGTHS and unique gifts, and tell her you value them.
18. Make her your accountability partner.
19. Tell her often,“You are so beautiful.”
20. Take her on a “housekeeping date,” but don’t tell her.
21. When it comes to making love, gently ask her what she likes.
22. When it comes to making love, gently help her understand what you like.
23. When it comes to making love, hold nothing back.
24. Speak with gentleness.
25. ACCEPT that she thinks differently from you.
26. During moments of frustration, NEVER FORGET: what God has put together, let no man tear apart.
27. Seek her counsel.
28. Listen to her wisdom after you’ve sought her counsel.
29. When she returns from the salon, it’s time for you to start talking.
30. As a woman, she’s always pouring out, so remember that it’s your job to always pour in.
31. NOTICE that new outfit—she’s dressing for you.
32. Keep your relationship frisky from the honeymoon to year sixty and beyond!
33. The little engine that could needs a little rest.
34. From the time the kids are very young, TELL THEM how wonderful their mom is.
35. Praise her to parents, family, and friends.
36. NEVER make negative comments or inferences or give disapproving vibes about your wife to anyone.
37. NEVER put up with even slightly critical comments about your wife from anyone.
38. Admire her with your eyes.
39. Admire her with your words.
40. Banish sarcasm from your speech.
41. Plan a stay-at-home date.
42. Embrace the reality that the two of you make up one distinct entity.
43. You were made STRONG for a reason, so act like a man and shoulder your responsibilities.
44. Take the lead.
45. NEVER contradict your wife in public.
46. It’s movie night at home, but forget Rambo.
47. Your anniversary matters, even if she says it isn’t important.
48. Write a love note and leave it on her pillow to find later.
49. Hold hands.
50. Keep your heart at home, even when you travel.
51. Pray for her.
52. Ask her to pray for you often.
53. Your wife’s radiance—her countenance—in large measure is a reflection of how well she is loved by you.
54. You don’t own your body.
55. Let her satisfy your passion.
56. Choose contentment with her.
57. Surprise her with a picnic and a stroll afterward—and take care of all the details.
58. You’ve shown appreciation and that’s good. Even better to help with the work around the home.
59. Helping with the vacuuming isn’t a substitute for romance (for most women).
60. Tell her you need her.
61. Tell her when you need her.
62. NEVER, ever look (interestedly, longingly, lustfully) at another woman with your eyes—or indulge lustful thoughts.
63. Get away together.
64. Speak words of truth, delivered with gentleness, love, and support.
65. Be loyal.
66. Show approval by the way you look at her.
67. Recognize she’s the weaker vessel and don’t complain about it.
68. Make Valentine’s Day irrelevant with expressions of your love all year long.
69. Tell her you’ll be faithful forever.
70. Act and speak with kindness.
71. There is no shame in your “oneness”—be naked together.
72. Speak with grace, even (especially!) when she’s not showing grace to you.
73. Forgive with a whole heart.
74. NEVER mention today what was forgiven yesterday.
75. When you disagree, stick to the issue.
76. Choose unity—cling to each other in hard times.
77. Your responsibility and authority come from God, not from your personal power, so lead humbly.
78. BE EXCLUSIVE and don’t keep part of yourself in reserve.
79. You’re the conductor on this train.
80. Choose to be happy.
81. Love your wife by taking precautions to protect yourself.
82. Don’t take the bait. Let go of harsh words.
83. Be a generous giver of second chances.
84. Whatever you plant grows, so what are you planting?
85. You were made to initiate.
86. A woman doesn’t want to lock the door of her heart, but under the right (wrong!) circumstances, over time she will.
87. Stop making the little things important.
88. Schedule your weekly date night.
89. Don’t expect your wife to make the arrangements for dinner out.
90. Come up behind her and kiss her on the back of the neck.
91. RESIST the impulse to try to change her.
92. Remember your wife’s birthday.
93. Go on a cheap date.
94. Don’t overreact to her mistakes.
95. EVERY TIME you walk in the door, look into her eyes and greet her with a smile.
96. Tell her your schedule in advance.
97. Ask her if there is something you can do that would say “love” to her.
98. Love your wife by drawing near to God.
99. Keep the biblical standard and ideal in front of you at all times.
100. Make a decision to love.
About the Author
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100 Ways to Love Your Wife
This is a book of ideas—ideas that, if followed, will lead you toward an excellent marriage.
An excellent marriage sounds good, doesn’t it? It also sounds like an endangered species. Epic marriages are pretty rare these days.
But they don’t have to be—not for you and me.
The best, richest marriages are enjoyed by couples of every age group who know a simple yet all too often forgotten truth. Great marriages are the result of husbands and wives making a lot of everyday choices that say “I love you” rather than “I love me.”
If you want an epic marriage worthy of the best love poet, country-western singer, playwright, novelist, or the Song of Solomon, then learn how to say “I love you” through all the normal days of marriage you are given.
That’s the challenge, isn’t it? All those days. They need to be filled with something, but most of us run out of ideas to keep marriage fresh. This book provides those ideas.
Not long into my marriage, I discovered that just because I was satisfied and happy didn’t mean Lisa was. I needed to learn and understand what every smart husband knows: continually filling your wife’s reservoir is an ongoing endeavor, but doing so pays amazing dividends.
A loved woman—a cherished wife—is a giver, returning to her husband far more than he ever poured into her soul.
But it doesn’t happen all at once. If you take the simple steps outlined here and are consistent over time, you will enjoy a transformed marriage—a marriage transformed by love.
Life is short. Love her well.
They shall be one flesh. (Gen. 2:24)
He who loves his wife loves himself. (Eph. 5:28 NKJV)
Introduction
I’ll never forget those eyes dancing above the rim of her glass the moment I walked into the room—the first dance of many . . . wild and wonderful.
As I lay across the bed from my beautiful, lovely bride during our Hawaiian honeymoon (a typically generous gift from my brother and sister-in-law), those dancing eyes held my gaze, their radiance intensifying a vague sense of loss.
Time. Suddenly all those years without her seemed lost.
As I drank in the moment’s wonder, my fingers fell high on her cheek, lightly tracing to her lips the soft outline of her face.
“Why didn’t I meet you ten years ago? Where were you? Look how much time we’ve missed being together.”
But life is like that, isn’t it? One day we wake up in an oasis, wondering why we wandered around in the desert for so long.
I purposed right then and there, twenty-one years ago, lying on the bed in our room on the fifth floor of the Lahaina Shores Hotel on Maui that I would cherish this woman, my bride, this breathtaking gift from God, every day of my life.
How great it would be to report that I have loved Lisa perfectly. I cannot. I’ve caused her tears, been unloving, insensitive,