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Child rearing has never been easy, and if you're a dad today, trustworthy advice on good parenting and godly parenting skills can be hard to find. Author and speaker Josh McDowell has spent over 50 years successfully working with young people, including raising his own four children. He mentors you in guiding your children into 10 practical life commitments that will enable them to confidently face a scary world and an uncertain future. You can help your kids know how to love God, love themselves, and love others make right choices resolve conflict and respond properly to authority understand sex and relationships as God designed them deal humbly with success and graciously with defeat Leading your kids with God's wisdom and practicing good parenting skills is the best way to love them. 10 Commitments for Dads gives you a straightforward, concise resource for keeping your children in the center of your heart.

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Publié par	Harvest House Publishers, Inc.
Date de parution	01 octobre 2014
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9780736953863
Langue	English

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10 COMMITMENTS FOR DADS
Copyright 2014 by Josh McDowell Ministry. All rights reserved.
Published by Harvest House Publishers
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McDowell, Josh.
10 commitments for dads / Josh McDowell.
pages cm
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 978-0-7369-5384-9 (pbk.)
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1. Fatherhood-Religious aspects-Christianity. I. Title. II. Title: Ten commitments for dads.
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Acknowledgments
I wish to recognize the following individuals for their valuable contribution to this book:
Dave Bellis , my friend and colleague for over 35 years, for collaborating with me on the outline of this book, pulling material from my talks and other works to write the rough draft, and folding in all the edits and revisions to shape this work into its final form. I recognize Dave s insights on the topic of dads and I m deeply grateful for his contribution.
David Thurston for critiquing the manuscript and providing helpful input on making the book clearer and more easily understood.
Becky Bellis for laboring at the computer to ready the manuscript.
Joshua Devries for coordinating the production elements and digital tags that have enhanced this book.
Terry Glaspey of Harvest House for his vision and guidance in shaping the direction and tone of this work.
Paul Gossard of Harvest House for the expert editing and insight he brought to the manuscript completion.
Contents
Acknowledgments
Foreword by Sean McDowell
Chapter One
What s a Dad to Do?
Chapter Two
Commitment 1: I Will Do My Best to
Always Speak the Truth in Love
Chapter Three
Commitment 2: I Will Do My Best to
Be Responsible to My Kids Rather Than for Them
First Part
Chapter Four
Commitment 2: I Will Do My Best to
Be Responsible to My Kids Rather Than for Them
Second Part
Chapter Five
Commitment 3: I Will Do My Best to
Be an Authentic Model
Chapter Six
Commitment 4: I Will Do My Best to
Explain Who God Is and What He Is Like
Chapter Seven
Commitment 5: I Will Do My Best to
Instill a Love of Self That Is Unselfish
Chapter Eight
Commitment 6: I Will Do My Best to
Impart God s Way of Forming Healthy Love Relationships
Chapter Nine
Commitment 7: I Will Do My Best to
Instruct on How to Know Right from Wrong
Chapter Ten
Commitment 8: I Will Do My Best to
Teach How to Honor God s Design for Sex
Chapter Eleven
Commitment 9: I Will Do My Best to
Present Why We Believe What We Believe
Chapter Twelve
Commitment 10: I Will Do My Best to
Foster a Heart of Gratitude
Afterword
I Will Do My Best
Relational Needs Assessment Inventory
Notes
About the Author and the Josh McDowell Ministry
Foreword
by Sean McDowell
B eing a father is tough business. While I love being a dad, I often find myself wanting to scream and pull my hair out and say, I didn t sign up for this! And yet I wouldn t trade it for the world.
My wife and I aim to be the best parents we can be, but when I m at a loss, I often find myself wondering, WWJD? I don t mean What Would Jesus Do? It would be nice to have a direct line to Jesus on parenting, but the reality is he had very little to say about how to be a good dad. In fact, what he did say is quite controversial (for example, Luke 14:26).
By WWJD , I mean What Would Josh Do? Now, as my dad admits right at the beginning of this book, since he was a traveling speaker, my mom was more present in our daily lives than he was. Yet my parents were-and still are-a great team. I don t mean to imply they were perfect. That s certainly not the case. Dad made many mistakes, as he says in chapter 1. And by all sociological measurements, his life should be a wreck because of his terrible upbringing. (More about that in a minute.)
Despite his shortcomings, though, my dad gave us kids the love, direction, and boundaries we needed. And I hope to instill the same in my own three kids.
That s why I appreciate this book. It s not a simple list of do s and don ts for dads that guarantees kids will turn out right, as if parenting were like baking a cake or planning a vacation (of course, we all know vacations don t always turn out as planned either!). We all know it s not that simple. Rather, this book is filled with examples of successes and failures from my dad s experiences, seasoned by biblical truth and including some practical steps as well.
One of the things I appreciate most about my father is how vulnerable he has been regarding the struggles in his own life. He continues that honesty in this book. Even though I had heard the stories about his alcoholic father, his broken family, and the sexual abuse, I m not sure I fully realized how difficult it was until we were sitting down for dinner at a recent family gathering. Mom was sharing funny stories about her childhood, and my sister asked Dad to share one from his life. After an awkward pause he said, I don t have any good memories at all. For some reason when he said that, it hit me harder than ever before. My dad couldn t even think of one good family memory. My heart was broken.
And yet there we were, decades after his childhood, with a close, loving family. How did this happen?
If you re wondering about the answer to that question, then this book is perfect for you. If anything, it s testimony that God can redeem even the most broken and dysfunctional family. Whether you re a new dad trying to function on minimal sleep or you ve been parenting for years, you will find both hope and direction in 10 Commitments for Dads . Enjoy!
Sean McDowell
1
What s a Dad to Do?
I t felt like hours. I couldn t stop pacing. Dottie had been in the delivery room longer than I d expected.
Back then there were no Lamaze classes and husbands weren t allowed to be a part of the birthing process with their wives in the hospital delivery room. Expectant dads were relegated to a waiting room to pace the floor. So that s what I was doing.
Finally they wheeled Dottie out of the delivery room holding an eight-pound, two-ounce baby girl. Once we got into the hospital room Dottie handed her to me. As I held Kelly my knees went weak. It dawned on me that now I was actually a father, but I didn t have a clue about fathering.
I wasn t really trained to be a father, and most of us aren t. It s natural to be running scared. Then when you look around and see the culture our kids face, you get petrified. Most of the values today s culture embraces are almost the opposite of what you want your kids to embrace. Kids are getting into drugs, alcohol, and sex at an earlier and earlier age. You read about the bullying, violence, and suicide that is happening among kids and it s cause for alarm. What s a dad to do?
How Did You Do It, Josh?
Many people know my childhood story. I was the son of the town drunk. He was abusive to my mother, kept drunk most of the time, and more or less ignored me. I never remember hearing my dad ever say he loved me. I guess I feared that my dysfunctional childhood would somehow carry over into my own family, so I was running scared.
I ve had people come up to me and ask, How d you do it, Josh? They see my four adult children-Kelly, Sean, Katie, and Heather-and wonder what we did to raise up such faithful Christian adults, now married and raising great families of their own. It appears that we did something right. I d like to think we did all the right things, but we didn t. Frankly, I blew it a lot, but I kept at it. This book is a distilling of the commitments I made to God, myself, and my family in order to raise my kids to honor their parents and God. But before we walk through those commitments, let s tee them up-put them in the proper context.
1. A Dad Isn t Really Complete Without the Mom
My kids are where they are t