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Do you want to better understand yourself, maximize your strengths, and improve your relationships? Understanding how we are wired can enrich our lives and our relationships, helping to overcome differences that can seem irreconcilable. Instead of terminating jobs, friendships, or marriage on grounds of incompatibility, it is possible to turn these relationships from dying to growing. For more than 25 years, Marita Littauer, with her mother, Florence Littauer, has helped thousands of men and women with their personal and professional relationships. In Wired That Way, Marita brings together in one book a comprehensive overview of the personality types that speaks to anyone who wants to understand and to be understood.

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Popular psychology

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Publié par	Baker Publishing Group
Date de parution	01 septembre 2011
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781441225351
Langue	English

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© 2006 Marita Littauer
Writing contributed by Tamie Vervoorn
Published by Revell a division of Baker Publishing Group P.O. Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287 www.revellbooks.com
Revell edition published 2014
ISBN 978-1-4412-2535-1
Previously published by Regal Books
Ebook edition originally created 2011
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is on file at the Library of Congress, Washington, DC.
All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the New International Version® . Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan Publishing House. All rights reserved.
Other versions used are:
KJV —Authorized King James Version.
NASB —Scripture taken from the New American Standard Bible , © 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977 by The Lockman Foundation. Used by permission.
C ONTENTS
Chapter 1
Foundation and Background
Chapter 2
Visible Clues
Chapter 3
Strengths and Weaknesses
Chapter 4
Personality Blends
Chapter 5
Emotional Needs
Chapter 6
Marriage
Chapter 7
Parenting
Chapter 8
Communication
Chapter 9
The Workplace
Chapter 10
Spiritual Life
C HAPTER 1
FOUNDATION AND BACKGROUND

Can you think of people in your life whom you’d like to change? People who are too demanding, too talkative, too introspective or who just don’t have it together? Do you ever just want to walk away from a relationship because communication seems impossible, and it seems like the other person will never change?
But are they really the ones who need to change? As Marita Littauer suggests in Wired That Way , “Once we give up trying to change the people in our life—and accept that they are just wired that way—we can begin to understand others and improve our relationships with them. Likewise, when we are able to grasp the way we are wired, we can use that knowledge to grow beyond our natural tendencies and become better and more balanced individuals” ( page 12 ).
We all wrestle with things that we want to change about ourselves, but often we feel frustrated because we don’t know where to begin. Understanding the way people are wired is essential for living in our strengths, growing through our weaknesses, and building better relationships. Such knowledge affords us greater possibilities for being “at peace with everyone” (Romans 12:18) as well as for being at peace with ourselves.
• Let’s begin by taking a look at ourselves. Describe a situation in which you tried to change someone with whom you worked, lived or had a close relationship. Maybe that person had a personality quirk that annoyed you, or perhaps you subtly—for whatever reason—tried to make him or her more like yourself. What was the outcome of your attempts?
• In your life today, who do you have a hard time relating to or communicating with? What about that person would you like to change?
• What does Matthew 7:3 say about judging the apparent flaws of others?
• Look closely at the areas of weakness in your own life. Do you have behavior patterns or character traits that seem to sabotage your relationships?
Discovering Your Personality Type
Sometimes these flaws and weaknesses have less to do with sin or irresponsibility in our lives than with our actual Personality. “We all come with our own Personality, determined before birth within our individual genetic makeup,” Marita writes. “They are inborn Personality traits—the way we are wired” ( pages 12 - 13 ). And each of our Personality types is prone to various strengths and weaknesses. (Note: If you haven’t yet picked up a copy of the Wired That Way Personality Profile and discovered your own unique Personality type, now would be a great time to do this.)
• Look up Psalm 139. What does it say about the way God “wired” you?
Isn’t it comforting to know that God didn’t make us clones of one another? Although we do possess general similarities in our Personalities, He fashioned each one of us uniquely so that we might glorify Him and complement one another! In this study guide, we will take a deeper look at each of our Personalities in order to determine how we can develop healthier relationships with others. It is our hope that this guide will give you the tools you need to improve your relationships with others and solve any relational problems you may be experiencing with others.
• Write out Philippians 2:4. What does this verse communicate about healthy relationships?
• What key relationship(s) with others in your life could benefit from a better understanding of the way you (and they!) are wired?
• Write out Romans 1:8, and then write down what you think this verse says about how God sees those of us who are in Christ (even with all of our quirks and shortcomings).
This, of course, is not an excuse for sin, but a reminder of God’s grace. He sees us as He sees Christ. Therefore, we do not need to feel condemned for the parts of our Personality that need work. God is in the business of refining (or sanctifying) us to make us more like Him. Only through communion with Him and His Word can we mature. Only in Him will we see the true redemption of our Personalities.
• Celebrate Jesus’ sanctifying work in you by writing out the following verses:
John 17:17-19
1 Thessalonians 5:23
Our environment, of course, also shapes our Personalities, but as Marita says in Wired That Way , “the basics are predetermined” ( page 12 ). This ought to be a refreshing thought to those who may have struggled all their lives to be neat and tidy, but whose Personality actually predisposes them toward being a bit cluttered and scattered—or who have felt inadequate for not being dynamic conversationalists or powerful leaders, not knowing that their prepackaged Personality determines much of who they are and how they behave.
Marita says the following about how organization does not come easy for her: “As a Popular Sanguine, I am not really very organized, but as a business owner and a professional speaker, I have had to learn to get organized. So, yes, I am organized, but it is something I struggle with every day of my life.”
Who Are You, Anyway?
When we understand our God-given personality types, we can better determine the changes we need to make to become the people that we want to be without beating ourselves up over who we’re not.
• After reading the descriptions of each Personality given in chapter 1 , which one did you most identify with?
• Did you have any “a-ha” moments when you read these descriptions, recognizing the people you live and work with? Using the space below, see if you can identify the Personality type of several of your close friends. (It might also be fun for you to have them take the Personality Profile with you as well!)
• If you have taken the Personality Profile, what did it reveal to you about your dominant Personality type? Are you more of a Popular Sanguine, a Powerful Choleric, a Perfect Melancholy or a Peaceful Phlegmatic?
Popular Sanguine
Keeping in mind the description of the Popular Sanguine as given in Wired That Way , let’s review some of the key traits that might show up in someone with a dominant Popular Sanguine personality.
• What are the key strengths and weaknesses of the Popular Sanguine?
• What kind of people does the Popular Sanguine like to be around? Who don’t they like (or feel liked by)?
• What kind of leadership might you expect from a Popular Sanguine?
• What might be an instant indicator that you’ve just met a Popular Sanguine?
Powerful Choleric
Let’s review the dominant traits of the Powerful Choleric Personality type.
• What is a primary desire of the Powerful Choleric?
• What, generally, are the Powerful Choleric’s emotional needs? How might you adjust your approach (knowing what you now know) to meet the needs of a significant Powerful Choleric in your life?
• What is the Powerful Choleric’s typical reaction to stress?
• How might you immediately recognize a Powerful Choleric?
Perfect Melancholy
Let’s review the unique traits of the Perfect Melancholy personality type.
• What might the Perfect Melancholy’s motto be?
• What tends to make Perfect Melancholies depressed, and what are they generally afraid of?
• How would a Perfect Melancholy be valuable in a work situation?
• How could the Perfect Melancholy’s strengths be beneficial in your own life?
• How could you easily recognize a Perfect Melancholy?
Peaceful Phlegmatic
In Wired That Way , Marita tells us that the Peaceful Phlegmatic might be the hardest Personality to recognize. Let’s review some of the key traits of the Peaceful Phlegmatic.
• What kind of person is the Peaceful Phlegmatic? Why are Peaceful Phlegmatics not as easy to identify as the other Personalities?
• What are the Peaceful Phlegmatic’s key strengths? Now think of a possible Peaceful Phlegmatic person in your own life. Why do you enjoy being around that person?
• What Personality do Peaceful Phlegmatics tend to marry, and why?
• How can a person’s posture indicate that he or she might be a Peaceful Phlegmatic?
Relating It to Relationships
As you think about your unique Personality traits—and those of your coworkers, family members and friends—you can start to apply this new knowledge to key areas in your life. The Personalities can provide you with a fantastic tool for interacting with people and can even solve relationship problems that naturally crop up when Personality types clash.
• Do you see how relationships in each of these key areas have been affected by the Personalities of those with whom you interact every day?
• With these Personality differences in mind, how can you c