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Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 Goals are a powerful force that can be used to help you live your life. They put a powerful force into play on a universal, conscious, and subconscious level. They give your life direction.
#2 Boundaries are crucial to recovery. They are connected to all phases of recovery: growing in self-esteem, dealing with feelings, and learning to love and value yourself. They emerge from deep within and are connected to letting go of guilt and shame.
#3 In recovery, we learn that self-care leads us on the path to God’s will and plan for our life. We can trust ourselves, and we are wiser than we think. Our guide is within, ever-present.
#4 We can draw a healthy line between ourselves and our nuclear family. We can separate ourselves from their issues, and we do not have to take on their problems if we want to be loyal to them.

Sujets

Santé et bien-être

Bien-être émotionnel

Bien-être

Sexualité

sexualité

Sexualité

Meditations

Love

Love (disambiguation)

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Publié par	Everest Media LLC
Date de parution	20 mars 2022
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781669354901
Langue	English
Poids de l'ouvrage	1 Mo

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Insights on Melody Beattie's The Language of Letting Go
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Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Goals are a powerful force that can be used to help you live your life. They put a powerful force into play on a universal, conscious, and subconscious level. They give your life direction.

#2

Boundaries are crucial to recovery. They are connected to all phases of recovery: growing in self-esteem, dealing with feelings, and learning to love and value yourself. They emerge from deep within and are connected to letting go of guilt and shame.

#3

In recovery, we learn that self-care leads us on the path to God’s will and plan for our life. We can trust ourselves, and we are wiser than we think. Our guide is within, ever-present.

#4

We can draw a healthy line between ourselves and our nuclear family. We can separate ourselves from their issues, and we do not have to take on their problems if we want to be loyal to them.

#5

We are not alone. We can draw on the strength of our recovery group and our Higher Power to help us. There is an ample supply of people who care about us, and we don’t have to do it ourselves.

#6

Relationships are the blessing and bane of recovery. We must learn to own our power and take care of ourselves in relationships. Today, I will participate in my relationships to the best of my ability.

#7

We can’t gain control over our feelings by trying to punish others. We can only gain control over our feelings by being vulnerable enough to feel them, and then going on with our lives.

#8

We must be willing to feel hurt and pain, and we must take responsibility for our feelings, behaviors, and what we need to do to take care of ourselves. We must not analyze or justify our feelings.

#9

When we take care of others without taking care of ourselves, we are engaging in caretaking. When we take responsibility for others without taking responsibility for ourselves, we are caretaking.

#10

We may be afraid of making a mistake, what others might think of us, or success. We may second-guess our next action or word until we talk ourselves out of participating in life. But we mustn’t be afraid, and we mustn’t second-guess ourselves.

#11

We must stop feeling so guilty. Guilt can prevent us from setting boundaries that would be in our best interests and in other people’s best interests. We must push past the barrier of guilt that holds us back from self-care.

#12

The goal of recovery is balance, and we can achieve that by going to extremes. Today, I will be gentle with myself and understand that sometimes to reach the middle ground of balance, I need to explore the peaks and valleys.

#13

We can let ourselves feel good, and we don’t have to worry about injecting negativity into our lives. We can feel good, and we don’t have to analyze, judge, or justify our feelings.

#14

In recovery, we learn that we can shamelessly feel all our feelings, including anger, and still take responsibility for what we do when we feel angry. We don’t have to let anger control us, but it will if we prevent ourselves from feeling it.

#15

It is so easy to rally to the defense of others. It is difficult, however, to rally to our own defense. We need to remember that it is okay to stand up for ourselves when that is appropriate.

#16

Prayer and meditation are two ways we take care of our spirit. They are not necessarily connected to organized religion, but they are ways to improve our personal relationship with a Higher Power to benefit ourselves and our growth.

#17

Acting as if is a powerful recovery tool that can be used to overcome fears, doubts, and low self-esteem. We do not have to lie or be dishonest with ourselves. We can open ourselves up to the positive possibilities of the future instead of limiting it by today’s feelings and circumstances.

#18

Gratitude is the key that unlocks positive energy in our lives. It is the alchemy that turns problems into blessings, and the unexpected into gifts. We must learn to be grateful for our problems and feelings, and stop trying to control outcomes.

#19

We must be careful not to become comfortable with the feeling of being victimized. It can be dangerous, and often leads to addictive or other compulsive behaviors. In recovery, we are learning to identify when we are feeling victimized, when we are actually being victimized, and why we are feeling that way.

#20

Letting go of resentments does not mean we allow the other person to do anything to us that they want. It means we accept what happened in the past and set boundaries for the future. We can let go of resentments and still have boundaries.

#21

We can learn to tune-in to ourselves and listen to ourselves, and take responsibility for what we want and need. We can learn to identify what we want and need and be patient with ourselves while we're learning.

#22

We must remember that our past is a series of lessons that help us grow and become who we are today. We must not mistake our past for the truth.

#23

We must not limit our future by our past. We must be open to the new, and trust that it will be different from the past.

#24

We can’t give and receive love if we are holding on to negative feelings from past relationships. We must clear the emotional slate with awareness, honesty, and openness.

#25

The First Step of recovering codependents is to come together because of a common problem. We find a common solution through the fellowship of Twelve Step programs.

#26

We can learn to not get hooked into unhealthy, self-defeating behaviors in relationships. We can learn to watch for and identify hooks, and choose not to allow ourselves to be hooked.

#27

We can find the balance between needing people too much and not letting ourselves need anyone at all. We can allow ourselves to receive the love that is there for us.

#28

Worrying about what’s going to happen is a negative contribution to our future. We must realize that things will work out if we let them. We can simply affirm that our future will be good if we live well today.

#29

Going to meetings is an immediate solution that will help us feel better. It can be difficult to resist what can help us feel better, so we should consider going to a meeting.

#30

We each have the freedom to define and understand our Higher Power, God, as we choose. We do not try to impose our religious beliefs or understanding of God on others.

#31

It is safe to trust God. He will provide you with what you need, especially if you do. Remember that God cares about what you need, especially if you do.
Insights from Chapter 2

#1

We come to believe in a better life through the powerful gift of other people. We are not in a do it yourself program. We do not have to exert willpower to change. We do not have to force our recovery to happen.

#2

Spirituality and spiritual growth are the foundations of change. Codependency is not a do-it-yourself task. God, as we understand God, is a loving God.

#3

We can’t change who we are, and we can’t change our feelings or our past. We can, however, accept ourselves and others.

#4

The process of growth and change takes us along an ever-changing road. Sometimes the way is hard and craggy, sometimes we climb mountains, and sometimes we slide down the other side on a toboggan.

#5

Taking responsibility for your financial affairs is an important part of recovering from codependency. We must learn to handle money, and self-esteem will increase when we increase our sense of being financially responsible for ourselves.

#6

We need to let go, on a deep level, of our need to be victimized and abused. We deserve better. We deserve much better. When we believe in our right to happiness, we will have happiness.

#7

We need to make a distinction between powerlessness and owning our power. We can’t change other people, solve their problems, or control their behavior, but we can take care of ourselves in any situation.

#8

Guilt is a warning signal that we’re off course. We must not let it control us. We can choose to feel good about ourselves, and we should. We must not feel guilty, and we should not let it control us.

#9

We must be gentle with ourselves and others. We must set boundaries, detach, and take care of ourselves, and as quickly as possible, do those things in love.

#10

We can’t avoid our feelings, and we can’t force them to go away. We can, however, begin to open ourselves up to them, and allow them to heal us.

#11

surrendering ourselves and our life to a Power greater than ourselves means that we come into harmony with a Grand Plan that is beyond our imagination. We are promised Divine Guidance if we ask for it and work the Twelve Steps.

#12

We can go forward with our lives and recoveries, even though someone we love is not yet recovering. We can love them, wave to them, and holler back and forth with them. But we cannot make them come over with us.

#13

We must learn to listen to our instincts and intuitions. These leadings and leanings draw us into God’s rich plan for us. We must listen and trust, and then follow through.