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This latest book in the Straightforward Guides series, A Guide to Handling Bereavement, Revised Edition, deals with the practical arrangements necessary after a death. The book is factual yet sympathetic and is intended to guide those who have suffered a bereavement. The funeral industry, post pandemic, in 2022 is covered in depth. The book, updated to 2022 is clear and concise and is intended for the layperson. It is ideal for anyone who wishes to gain knowledge of this area.

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Publié par	Straightforward Publishing
Date de parution	25 mai 2022
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781802361339
Langue	English

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HANDLING BEREAVEMENT
MAKING ARRANGEMENTS FOLLOWING DEATH
Penny Freeman
Editor: Roger Sproston
Straightforward Guides
www.straightforwardco.co.uk
Straightforward Guides
Straightforward Co Ltd 2022
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced, in a retrieval system, or transmitted by any means, electronic or mechanical, photocopying or otherwise, without the prior permission of the copyright holder.
British Library Cataloguing in Publication Data. A catalogue record is available for this book from the British Library.
ISBN: 978-1-80236-055-4 ePUB ISBN: 978-1-80236-133-9 Kindle ISBN: 978-1-80236-140-7
Printed and bound by 4edge www.4edge.co.uk
Cover design by BW Studio Derby
Whilst every effort has been taken to ensure that the information contained in this book was accurate at the time of going to print, the publisher and the author cannot accept any liability for any inaccuracies contained within or for changes in legislation since writing the book.
CONTENTS
Introduction
1. Death and the registration of death
Laying out a body
Police involvement
Certificate of cause of death
The coroner
Registration of death
Registrars requirements
The Presumption of Death Act 2013
Registering a stillbirth
Death in a hospital
Carrying out a post-mortem in hospital
The donations of organs for transplantation
Organs that can be transplanted
The National Health Service Organ Donor Register
Donation of a body for medical causes
Donation of the brain for medical research
Registration in Scotland
Death certificates
Death abroad
2. Steps after registration
3. Taking decisions about a funeral
Costs of a funeral
Funeral Plans and other financial plans
Associated costs
Obtaining help with funeral costs
4. The Burial-Main Points
The burial
Burial in cemeteries
Types of grave
Other burial places
Cremation
Fees for cremation
Services in a crematorium
Cremations and memorials
Remains
5. Events Before a Funeral
Embalming a body
The final arrangements before a funeral
Non-Church of England funerals
Non-religious services
The funeral
The burial
Cremation
Burial in Scotland
Arranging a funeral without a funeral director
Green Funerals
Real Green Funerals
The Natural Death Centre
6. Different funerals
Muslim funerals
Hindu funerals
Sikh funerals
Buddhist funerals
Jewish funerals
Cult funerals
7. After a funeral is over
Traditional funerals
Memorials
After cremation
Charitable donations
8. Applying for probate in England and Wales, Scotland and Northern Ireland.
When probate is not needed
Who can apply
If there s a will
If the person did not leave a will
Work out who inherits
If you re an executor
If there s more than one executor
If you do not want to or cannot be an executor
Before you apply
Probate application fees
Get help and advice
Apply for probate online
Apply for probate by post
If the will has been changed or damaged
After you ve applied
Probate in Scotland
Applying for probate in Northern Ireland
9. The intervention of the courts
Introduction
Who can apply for an order?
When to apply for an order
Grounds for making a claim
Orders the court can make
Factors the court must consider
The procedure
Legal costs
10. Welfare benefits after bereavement
Bereavement benefits if you were married or in a civil partnership
Bereavement Support Payment
How much is Bereavement Support Payment?
How do I claim Bereavement Support Payment?
Bereavement benefits if you were living together
How to claim benefits if you re on a low income
Funeral Payment
How much you will get
How your bereavement benefits affect other benefits
Benefits calculators
Tax and National Insurance
Financial help death in the armed forces
Tell Us Once Service
Update Property records

Useful addresses
Index
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Introduction
Death is an unpleasant reality and one that many people avoid thinking about. However, on the death of a person who is close there are very necessary actions that need to be taken. This book, updated to 2022, and which now includes probate in Scotland and Northern Ireland, is an attempt to enlighten the reader as to the practical steps that need to be taken after the death of a person. Each step is outlined along with the role of the funeral director and the role of the church and crematoria after death.
The Coronavirus and the effect on funerals
The coronavirus pandemic has obviously influenced funerals and those who attend funerals. The government issued guidance on funerals and attendance at funerals on their website:
www.gov.uk/government/publications/covid-19-guidance-for-managing-a-funeral-during-the-coronavirus-pandemic .
Although restrictions have now been relaxed, basically, safety first in all aspects of organising and carrying out a funeral is still the main underlying message!
In the book, the role of the coroner is outlined and also the doctor, registrar, clergymen and cemetery and crematorium officials. This book does not dwell in depth on bereavement counselling, as this is a separate area and warrants a book on its own. It does, however, outline the process of grief and discuss aspects of this and offers advice in a limited way. The book is very much a practical guide and has been written in the hope that people may benefit from it at this difficult time.
There is a section on non-Christian burial in the recognition that the United Kingdom is a diverse multi-racial society and different traditions apply to different cultures. There is also a section on wills and probate, as dealing with an estate after death can be very complex and time consuming, particularly if there is no will. Finally, there is a list of useful addresses at the end of the book. Before we look at the practical side of handling death, we will look at bereavement generally.
Bereavement generally
Bereavement affects people in different ways. There s no right or wrong way to feel. You might feel a lot of emotions at once, or feel you re having a good day, then you wake up and feel worse again. Experts generally accept that there are four stages of bereavement:
accepting that your loss is real
experiencing the pain of grief
adjusting to life without the person who has died
putting less emotional energy into grieving and putting it into something new (in other words, moving on)
You ll probably go through all these stages, but you won t necessarily move smoothly from one to the next. Your grief might feel chaotic and out of control, but these feelings will eventually become less intense. Give yourself time, as they will pass. You might feel:
shock and numbness (this is usually the first reaction to the death, and people often speak of being in a daze)
overwhelming sadness, with lots of crying
tiredness or exhaustion
anger, for example towards the person who died, their illness or God
guilt, for example guilt about feeling angry, about something you said or didn t say, or about not being able to stop your loved one dying
These feelings are all perfectly normal. Lots of people feel guilty about their anger, but it s natural to be angry and to question why.
The GOV.UK website has information on what to do after someone dies, such as registering the death and planning a funeral. One particularly important service that we will be referring to in detail in chapter 10 is the Tell us Once service that enables people to input details relating to benefits, passport, driving licence etc and enables the bereaved party to deal with all government departments at once. This is in recognition of the fact that the last thing people want, in such a difficult time, is for government departments breathing down their necks. For more information, go to https://www.gov.uk/.../organisations-you-need-to-contact-and-tell-us-once
Coping with grief
Talking and sharing your feelings with someone can help. Don t go through this alone. For some people, relying on family and friends is the best way to cope. But if you don t feel you can talk to them much (perhaps you aren t close, or they re grieving too), you can contact local bereavement services through your GP, local hospice, or the National Cruse helpline on 0808 808 1677.
A bereavement counsellor can give you time and space to talk about your feelings, including the person who has died, your relationship, family, work, fears, and the future. You can have access to a bereavement counsellor at any time, even if the person you lost died a long time ago.
Don t be afraid to talk about the person who has died. People in your life might not mention their name because they don t want to upset you. But if you feel you can t talk to them, it can make you feel isolated.
If you need help to move on
Each bereavement is unique, and you can t tell how long it will last. In general, the death and the person might not constantly be at the forefront of your mind after around 18 months. This period may be shorter or longer for some people, which is normal.
Your GP or a bereavement counsellor can help if you feel that you re not coping. Some people also get support from a religious minister.
You might need help if:
you can t get out of bed
you neglect yourself or your family, for example you don t eat properly
you feel you can t go on without the person you ve lost
the emotion is so intense it s affecting the rest of your life, for example you can t face going to work or you re taking your anger out on someone else
These feelings are normal if they don t last for a long time. The time to get help depends on the person, if these things last for a period that you feel is too long, or your family say they re worried, that s the time to seek help. Your GP can refer you, and they can monitor your general health.
Some people turn to alcohol or drugs during difficult times. Get help cutting dow