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Have you ever wondered who you are? Or, if you could be exactly who you want to be?All too often people present to the world, a representation of themselves which has been constructed from others' agendas!How would it feel to go on a journey of self-discovery, and connect with your authentic self? And so become the person you were meant to be. You are entitled to prioritise your own wants and needs!This book will encourage you to discover and connect with all elements of your being, the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual, enabling you to reach enlightenment of self.

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Publié par	Austin Macauley Publishers Ltd
Date de parution	06 janvier 2023
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781398469563
Langue	English
Poids de l'ouvrage	1 Mo

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It Is My Garden! So, I shall Tend to It Myself
A Self-Help Book
Alison Simone
Austin Macauley Publishers
2023-01-06
It Is My Garden! So, I shall Tend to It Myself About the Author Dedication Copyright Information © Preface Introduction Section One: Physical Section Two: Mental Section Three: Emotional Section Four: Spirituality References: Books
About the Author
Alison Simone is a qualified counsellor and lives in Cheshire.
Having experienced some of the issues raised in this book and herself benefiting from counselling, Alison then felt empowered to improve her own situation and so embraced adult learning in her later years.
Becoming qualified as a counsellor, allowed for a sense of reason and purpose, and so now, Alison wishes to share this positive energy with others by furnishing them with the tools and knowledge that they too can achieve, similarly, and so bring about inner peace.
Dedication
This book is dedicated to anyone who has ever found themselves in a ditch, with no tools to dig themselves out.
Its contents offer the reader a practical approach to taking repossession of their own brain, by merging various psychological theories in an easy-to-understand logic, thus giving the reader the tools needed to emerge from that ditch.
Copyright Information ©
Alison Simone 2023
The right of Alison Simone to be identified as author of this work has been asserted by the author in accordance with sections 77 and 78 of the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988.
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Preface
Imagine if you will a barren field, void of any foliage or vegetation, and without a surrounding fence or barrier of any sort.
Then compare this vision to that of a newborn baby’s brain, vacant of stimulus, and awaiting contribution from external forces (being that of the caregiver).
As one of the first abilities a newborn gain is their sight, the first visual contribution received could be one of either a smile or a scowl, therefore the message the newborn will receive and absorb will be one of either positivity or negativity.
Let us now then connect any positive messages received to the image of a beautiful rose, and similarly, negative messages to the image of an invading weed, with either of these being planted in our barren brain field at any given time.
The more positive reinforcement a person receives as he/she grows would result in producing a beautiful blooming rose garden in our brain, although in comparison, of course, negative messages and negative reinforcement would similarly produce a dismal view, of neglected wasteland, with many weeds.
Over time, all of these contributions would equally establish themselves, creating roots, and taking ownership of their designated space. Therefore, the holder of this brain lives their life according to how many roses and how many weeds have been planted.
Introduction
This book is split into four sections in order to cover all aspects of our being, namely: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual.
People can find that they are struggling for various reasons, this can include trauma (which was experienced as a child or as an adult), grieving (the loss of a person close to them, or loss of a way of life), or even debility, due to loss of control over their own life.
All or some aspects of our being can be affected as a result of an uncomfortable experience, be that physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual, hence the reason we will be exploring all of the above, to bring them into alignment and so create harmony within.
Our physical self is our ‘being’, our mental self is our ‘thinking’, our emotional self is our ‘feelings’, and our spiritual self is our ‘knowing’.
Have you ever heard the saying, ‘They’re not firing on all four cylinders?’ (A cylinder is the power unit of a car engine and it is the chamber where the petrol/gasoline is burned and turned into power). Cars have a minimum of four cylinders, (although they can have six or eight to produce more power). So, this is simply referring to someone not functioning at the greatest possible level.
Therefore, we can liken our existence to having four cylinders, and to be functioning at our greatest possible level, all our four cylinders (Physical, Mental, Emotional and Spiritual) need to be given the same amount of thought and attention.
Physically, we will explore the changes that take place in the brain through creating an awareness of neuroplasticity, breaking old destructive thought habits, and introducing new positive thought patterns. This results in creating new neural pathways and also allows the old pathways to disconnect, through no longer being in use. (If you do not use it – you lose it!). We will also explore how struggling with anxiety or depression can possibly develop into a self-loathing of our physical self, including eating disorders or possibly body dysmorphia, and so have an adverse effect on our body.
Mentally, you can recite mantras to initiate the growth of these new neural pathways, allowing you to break the habit of returning to the previous way of thinking. A mantra is simply the practice of repeating the same words over and over (repetition is the mother of all learning!).
Emotionally, we connect to our feelings, paying attention to our instincts and doing what ‘feels’ right, rather than what we ‘think’ is right for ourselves. All too often, people do what they think is best for other people, instead of ‘feeling’ what is best for themselves. This then results in a feeling of neglect of oneself.
And lastly, spiritually, as we become aware of our inner strength, which we can learn to rely on to promote ‘self-care’, putting our own needs first and foremost. This can be achieved by mindfulness, or simply connecting to the gap in between a stimulus and our response.
Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response, in our response lies our growth and our freedom (Frankl, 2004).
We then use this space to decide on an outcome that is in our best interest. We must look after ourselves in the same way we look after others, although we must make this a priority to ensure our own wellbeing.
Promoting self-care is not selfish, it is a necessity, and when you begin to look after yourself you can gain hope and trust, in a brighter future, and in yourself, to do what is right for you and so achieve positive change.
Section One Physical
In this first section, I choose to focus on the physical aspect of our being, associating these already established roots, with that of the neural pathways in the brain, this is to give the reader an understanding of how this example relates to our physical self, and how this affects our mental and emotional state of being. The brain can be described as a physical blob of muscle sitting inside our skull and dictating our thoughts and decisions. Something you think you have no control over, are the victim of and are at the mercy of its choices and judgements.
And, up until this point, you could be forgiven for thinking that!
The good news is, due to a breakthrough in research, scientists now believe we can, in fact, have control over the physical structure of our own brain, and because of this breakthrough, in 2008, Dr Norman Doidge M. D. wrote a book entitled, The Brain That Changes Itself , in which he focuses on the concept of Neuroplasticity.
From this book, we discover that it has been since the seventeenth century that doctors and scientists believed that the brain was rigid and that the common belief was, after childhood, the brain physically changed only when we reached our senior years, and so then it began the long process of deterioration and shrinkage. It was also accepted by these professionals that when brain cells did not initially develop properly, became injured or died off, they were never able to be replaced.
This belief of ‘the static brain’ commanded that people who were born with limited brain function, or who sustained brain damage, would be forever restricted from leading a full life for the remainder of their life.
But, thankfully because of this further research, it is now understood that the brain can, in fact, develop and change, due to its own plasticity, which is now known as, Neuroplasticity . We can now embrace the knowledge that our brain has the ability to change throughout our entire life. Neural pathways associated with a given function, which have been damaged or have developed because of particular messages received can be reassigned to a different location, and new neural pathways will eventually grow and strengthen, taking on this newly assigned responsibility.
Now for the science bit. The human brain is made up of an estimated 100 billion neurons making a total of 100 trillion neural connections. The pathways along which information travels through the neurons (nerve cells) of the brain can be compared to that of a man-made path across a field of tall grass. As people keep taking the same route across this field, they wear out a path and so every time we learn something new, these neural circuits are altered in our brain.
This then takes us back to our roses and weed roots scenario, so any of these given messages you have received will have caused structural changes in your brain to become part of how you live your l