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Looking for contentment, fulfillment, happiness, satisfaction, and acceptance in life? Finding Connection Within will provide you with creative tools to honor, respect, and liberate yourself. Find creative ways to reach your potentials with uplifting, inspirational, and invigorating scripts. Learn new tools to create opportunities to be intentionally present for yourself and carve out time to rewrite your scripts.
Are you consumed by unhealthy, toxic scripts that deplete your self-validation and self-acceptance? Finding Connection Within helps you challenge these scripts and create healthy, self-honoring, and self-respecting scripts to express yourself genuinely, congruently, and freely. To ignite personal connection, this book provides multiple creative tools to inscribe uplifting, inspiring, and invigorating thoughts to help one enrich life with authentic interactions. Various tools will enable readers to lean into life with courageous fortitude to find attunement, contentment, and fulfillment.

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Relations interpersonnelles

Relation interpersonnelle

Communication

Self-help

Social Skills

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Publié par	Balboa Press
Date de parution	14 juillet 2022
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9798765230824
Langue	English
Poids de l'ouvrage	2 Mo

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Finding CONNECTION Within

Mee-Gaik Lim, Ph.D.

Copyright © 2022 Mee-Gaik Lim.

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The author of this book does not dispense medical advice or prescribe the use of any technique as a form of treatment for physical, emotional, or medical problems without the advice of a physician, either directly or indirectly. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being. In the event you use any of the information in this book for yourself, which is your constitutional right, the author and the publisher assume no responsibility for your actions.

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ISBN: 979-8-7652-3081-7 (sc)
ISBN: 979-8-7652-3082-4 (e)

Library of Congress Control Number: 2022912099

Balboa Press rev. date: 07/14/2022

Acknowledgments
To my nieces and nephews who have enriched my life with lessons of patience and acceptance.
Contents
1 Successful Ways to Ask for What We Want
2 How to Handle Reactive and Explosive Behaviors
3 Words That Can Implement Change in Your Life
4 Practical Steps to Increase Happiness in Your Life
5 My Personal Bill of Rights
6 Constraints of Self-Limiting Thoughts
7 Healing of Self-Abandonment
8 Keys to Strengthen Personal Authenticity
9 The Dance of Self-Sabotaging Relationships
10 The Importance of Being Present for Yourself
11 The Value of Self-Reflection
12 Chatter of Inadequacy and Insufficiency
13 Living Life with Courage
14 The Pitfalls of Self-Judgment
15 How to Overcome Inadequacy and Insufficiency Self-Talk
1
Successful Ways to Ask for What We Want
People generally don’t assert themselves because they are not familiar with asking for what they want. Asking for what you want is uncomfortable for most people. It may have led to arguments or rejection in the past; hence, it’s easier for people to take the path of least resistance and avoid making waves in their relationships.
Since it takes courageous effort to voice our needs, we may fall into the habit of putting our feelings, thoughts, and interests on hold for fear of being turned down or rejected. Not expressing ourselves openly and honestly may eventually lead to resentment and may also hinder our ability to be transparent and voice ourselves freely in relationships.
Our inability to openly ask for what we want may be due to the fact that we did not see our parents openly express themselves. They saw their parents complain about the behaviors of others rather than clearly express their own needs. Parents may complain about the annoying behaviors of their children or spouse rather than ask in clear, simple, constructive ways.
We tend to model the behaviors of those around us. As Jack Canfield stated, “We are an average of six to eight people we hang out with.” Since we didn’t see our parents model constructive ways of asking, we too may fall into the complaining trap rather than engaging in transparent expression.
Another hesitancy factor may come from our fear of imposing on and inconveniencing others. We may have grown up with the message that our job is to help others, and we may believe it’s selfish to ask for what we need. Eventually, after hearing this repeatedly, we learn to put our needs on hold and pause our interests and desires. This negative self-chatter may cause us to continually put our needs, desires, and passions on hold.
To successfully ask for what you want, you need to learn to state your requests in positive ways. Open your statement with an “I” and finish with a positive request. There should be two positives in your sentence. When statements are expressed positively, they set you up for success, and people are more likely to cooperate and comply. Most people want to work together and cooperate, not defy and resist. When you openly express your thoughts and needs, you give others opportunities to cooperate, and you also steer them in constructive directions.
Examples:
• I appreciate it when you do your homework before playing on the iPad.
• It helps me when you complete your chores before going to your friend’s house.
• It means a lot to me when we spend one-on-one time together each evening.
In asking and expressing yourself, learn to lean in with courageous energy. Whatever emotions you experience, lean into them, and don’t run from them. As an adult, model healthy ways to ask. This allows your children to watch you, and likewise, they will use this tool to ask or express themselves with their friends. It also provides them with a successful tool set in their adult years.
Here are some sentence stems to make requests openly and directly. These stems can be used with your spouse, partner, colleagues, children, or friends. These sentence stems steer you to make requests in positive ways.
Reflection Ponderings
I really appreciate it when you___________________________

I am looking for us to ________________________________

I would like to see us _________________________________

I am interested in ___________________________________

I am invigorated when ________________________________

I am encouraged when we _____________________________

I am grateful for your efforts to __________________________

I am touched by your effort to __________________________

I value our ability to _________________________________

It is important to me__________________________________

It helps me when you_________________________________

It hurts me when____________________________________

It means a lot to me when ______________________________

It motivates me when _________________________________

I feel connected when you ______________________________

I feel heard and validated when __________________________

I feel respected when you ______________________________

I feel special when you ________________________________

I feel supported when you _____________________________

When we work together, I feel __________________________

When you hear me, I feel ______________________________

When you are attentive to my needs, I feel __________________

When you take time to _______________________________

Given time, I would like to _____________________________

To strengthen my confidence, I would like __________________

To start healing, I would like to _________________________

Some of the feelings I am struggling with are ________________

Your mindfulness motivates me to ________________________
The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.
- Carl Jung
Accompanying YouTube Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9G9J-csLDA8
2
How to Handle Reactive and Explosive Behaviors
Reactive and explosive behaviors are common in partner and family relationships. With little provocation, an individual may fly off the handle and respond with over-the-top fits of explosive rage. Reactive responses are often in the form of a desire to get back at someone and return a punch with a punch. Unfortunately, many people spend much of their time in this reactive response.
Reactive and explosive patterns are rooted in secondary emotions like anger, fury, rage, irritation, annoyance, infuriation, and exasperation.