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About the Author : Dale Carnegie (Nov. 24, 1888 - Nov. 1, 1955) was an American writer and lecturer, and the developer of courses in self-Improvement, Salesmanship, Corporate training, Public speaking, and Internal personal skills. One of the core ideas in his books is that it is possible to change other people's behaviour by changing one's behaviour towards them. All of his books are international best seller.About the Book : Best selling book on developing self-confidence and public speaking skill. The book focuses on developing 'courage and self-confidence', 'improvement of memory', "the secret of good delivery', 'personality Development', 'how to open a talk' And 'how to close a talk'. It highlights - 'how famous speakers prepare their addresses'.

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Publié par	Diamond Books
Date de parution	01 juin 2020
Nombre de lectures	3
EAN13	9789352617579
Langue	English

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DEVELOP SELF-CONFIDENCE, IMPROVE PUBLIC SPEAKING
This book was authored by Dale Carnegi, who was also the author of the best selling “How to win friends and influence people”, “How to stop worrying and start living” and many more self-help books. The book focuses on ‘How to open a talk’, ‘How to close a talk’, ‘Essential elements of Successful speaking’, ‘How to improve memory’, ‘Secret of good delivery’, ‘How to spell bound your audience’. The book consists of many such techniques for the improvement of Public speaking. If you wish to make the most of your individuality, go before your audience rested. A tired man is not magnetic nor attractive. A must read book to continually improve your speaking skills, public speaking skills, conversation skills, and boost self-confidence. Also, helpful in making impromptu speech.
DEVELOP SELF-CONFIDENCE, IMPROVE PUBLIC SPEAKING

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Develop Self-Confidence, Improve Public Speaking
By - Dale Carnegie
CONTENTS Increase Courage and Self-Confidence How to Open a Talk How to Close a Talk Self-Confidence Through Preparation How Famous Speakers Prepared Their Addresses Essential Elements of Successful Speaking The Improvement of Memory The Secret of Good Delivery Platform Presence and Personality How to Make Your Meaning Clear Improving Your Diction How to Interest Your Audience Capturing Your Audience at Once
1 INCREASE COURAGE AND SELF-CONFIDENCE
“Courage is one step ahead of fear.”
– Coleman Young
More than eighteen thousand business persons, since 1912, have been members of the various public speaking courses conducted by me. Most of them have, at my request, written stating why they had enrolled for this training and what they hoped to obtain from it. Naturally, the phraseology varied; but the central desire in these letters, the basic want in the vast majority, remained surprisingly the same: “When I am called upon to stand up and speak,” man after man wrote, “I become so self-conscious, so frightened, that I can’t think clearly, can’t concentrate, can’t remember what I had intended to say. I want to gain self-confidence, poise, and the ability to think on my feet. I want to get my thoughts together in logical order and I want to be able to say my say clearly and convincingly before a business group or audience.” Thousands of their confessions sounded about like that. Years ago, a gentleman here called D. W. Ghent joined my public speaking course in Philadelphia. Shortly after the opening session, he invited me to lunch with him in the Manufacturers’ Club. He was a man of middle age and had always led an active life; was head of his own manufacturing establishment, a leader in church work and civic activities. While we were having lunch that day, he leaned across the table and said: “I have been asked many times to talk before various gatherings but I have never been able to do so. I get so fussed, my mind becomes an utter blank: so I have side-stepped it all my life. But I am chairman now of a board of college trustees. I must preside at their meetings. Do you think it will be possible for me to learn to speak at this late date in my life?”
“Do I think , Mr. Ghent?” I replied. “It is wo? a question of my thinking. I know you can , and I know you will if you will only practise and follow the directions and instructions.”
After he had completed his training, we lost touch with each other for a while. In 1921, we met and lunched together again at the Manufacturers’ Club. We sat in the same corner and occupied the same table that we had had on the first occasion. Reminding him of our former conversation, I asked him if I had been too sanguine then. He took a little red-backed notebook out of his pocket and showed me a list of talks and dates for which he was booked. “And the ability to make these,” he confessed, “the pleasure I get in doing it, the additional service I can render to the community—these are among the most gratifying things in my life.”
The International Conference for the Limitation of Armaments had been held in Washington shortly before that. When it was known that Lloyd George was planning to attend it, the Baptists of Philadelphia cabled, inviting him to speak at a great mass meeting to be held in their city. Lloyd George cabled back that if he came to Washington he would accept their invitation. And Mr. Ghent informed me that he himself had been chosen, from among all the Baptists of that city, to introduce England’s premier to the audience.
And this was the man who had sat at that same table less than three years before and solemnly asked me if I thought he would ever be able to talk in public!
Was the rapidity with which he forged ahead in his speaking ability unusual? Not at all. There have been hundreds of similar cases. For example—to quote one more specific instance—years ago, a Brooklyn physician, whom we will call Dr. Curtis, spent the winter in Florida near the training grounds of the Giants. Being an enthusiastic baseball fan, he often went to see them practise. In time, he became quite friendly with the team, and was invited to attend a banquet given in their honour.
After the coffee and nuts were served, several prominent guests were called upon to “say a few words”. Suddenly, with the abruptness and unexpectedness of an explosion, he heard the toast-master remark: “We have a physician with us tonight, and I am going to ask Dr. Curtis to talk on a baseball player’s health.”
Was he prepared? Of course. He had had the best preparation in the world: he had been studying hygiene and practising medicine for almost a third of a century. He could have sat in his chair and talked about this subject all night to the man seated on his right or left. But to get up and say the same things to even a small audience—that was another matter. That was a paralyzing matter. His heart doubled its pace and skipped beats at the very contemplation of it. He had never made a public speech in his life, and every thought that he had had now took wings.
What was he to do? The audience was applauding. Everyone was looking at him. He shook his head. But that served only to heighten the applause, to increase the demand. The cries of “Dr. Curtis! Speech! Speech!” grew louder and more insistent.
He was in positive misery. He knew that if he got up he would fail, that he would be unable to utter half a dozen sentences. So he arose and, without saying a word, turned his back on his friends and walked silently out of the room, a deeply embarrassed and humiliated man.
Small wonder that one of the first things he did after getting back to Brooklyn was to come to the Central Y.M.C.A. and enrol in the course in Public Speaking. He didn’t propose to be put to the blush and be stricken dumb a second time.
He was the kind of student that delights an instructor: he was in dead earnest. He wanted to be able to talk, and there was no half-heartedness about his desires. He prepared his talks thoroughly, he practised them with a will, and he never missed a single session of the course.
He did precisely what such a student always does: he progressed at a rate that surprised him, that surpassed his fondest hopes. After the first few sessions his nervousness subsided, and his confidence mounted higher and higher. In two months he had become the star speaker of the group. He was soon accepting invitations to speak elsewhere; he now loved the feel and exhilaration of it, the distinction and the additional friends it brought him.
The gaining of self-confidence and courage and the ability to think calmly and clearly while talking to a group is not one-tenth as difficult as most men imagine. It is not a gift bestowed by Providence on only a few rarely endowed individuals. It is like the ability to play golf. Any man can develop his own latent capacity if he has sufficient desire to do so.
Is there the faintest shadow of a reason why you should not be able to think as well in a perpendicular position before an audience as you can when sitting down? Surely, you know there is not. In fact, you ought to think better when facing a group of men. Their presence ought to stir you and lift you. A great many speakers will tell you that the presence of an audience is a stimulus, an inspiration, that drives their brains to function more clearly, more keenly. At such times, thoughts, facts, ideas, that they did not know they possessed, drift smoking by, as Henry Ward Beecher said; and they have but to reach out and lay their hands hot upon them. They ought to be your experience. It probably will be if you practise and persevere.
Of this much, however, you may be absolutely sure: training and practise will wear away your audience- fright and give you self-confidence and an abiding courage.
Do not imagine that your case is unusually difficult. Even those who afterwards became the most eloquent representatives of their generation were, at the outset of their careers, afflicted by this blinding fear and self-consciousness.
Mark Twain, the first time he stood up to lecture, felt as if his mouth were filled with cotton and his pulse were speeding for some prize cup.
The late Jean Jaurès, the most powerful political speaker that France produced during his generation, sat, for a year, tongue-tied in the Chamber of Deputies before he could summon up the courage to make his initial speech.
John Bright, the illustrious Englishman who, during the civil war, defended in England the cause of union and emancipation, made his maiden speech before a group of countryfolk gathered in a school building. He was so frightened on the way to the place, so fearful that he would fail, that he implored his companion to start applause to bolster him up whenever he showed sign