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Have you ever wondered why the younger generation makes so many mistakes in life? The logical conclusion is that they haven't gained the wisdom and experiences of more mature adults. When we reach middle-age we have the benefit of hindsight, acquired patience and thoughtfulness. We make decisions and approach life's distresses in a non-emotional, considered way and we are all too well aware of the consequences of bad decisions. We are too seasoned to repeat the mistakes of youth. Wrong! Regardless of age, it seems we approach traumas in the same irrational and emotional state of our youth. This book examines Seth's experiences and his decision making process through his encounters in marriage, his second divorce, middle-age dating, the cancer of his son, and the incredible political and economic mess the world is in and how our 'mature' politicians are addressing that mess. The author also offers insights to those "in the middle" on how to deal with the traumas of life.Book reviews online @ www.publishedbestsellers.com

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Publié par	Pneuma Springs Publishing
Date de parution	20 septembre 2012
Nombre de lectures	1
EAN13	9781782282259
Langue	English

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Trauma
and how mature adults deal with it

A baby boomer’s experiences and perspectives on life in your 50s: love and marriage, divorce, politics, the tea party, cancer, and other incredibly fascinating topics.

Seth Emmanuel
First Published in 2012 by: Pneuma Springs Publishing
Trauma Copyright © 2012 Seth Emmanuel

Seth Emmanuel has asserted his right under the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act, 1988, to be identified as Author of this Work
Pneuma Springs
British Library Cataloguing in Publication Data
Emmanuel, Seth. Trauma and how mature adults deal with it. 1. Decision making. 2. Problem solving. 3. Emmanuel, Seth-- Psychology. 4. Middle-aged persons--Psychology. I. Title II. Trauma 153.4'092-dc23
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Disclaimer The political views expressed herein are those of the author and not of the Publisher.
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This book, my first attempt, is dedicated to my son and only child. I appreciate your understanding, support, and encouragement these past several years. You’ve never questioned my judgment or second guessed me even when things went badly and you’re always there to tell me that things will work out. Thanks for being at the trial with me. I always miss you.

Love
d.a.d.
Author’s Note
Have you ever wondered why younger generations make so many mistakes in life? The logical conclusion is they haven’t gained the wisdom and experiences of more mature adults. When we reach middle-age we have the benefit of acquired patience, thoughtfulness, past experiences, and not repeating the mistakes of youth. We make decisions and approach life’s traumas in a non-emotional, considered way and we are all too well aware of the consequences of bad decisions. We are too seasoned to repeat the mistakes of youth. Wrong! Regardless of age, it seems we approach traumas in the same irrational and emotional state of our youth. This book examines Seth’s experiences and his decision making process through his encounters with marriage, his second divorce, middle age dating, the cancer of his son, and the incredible political and economic mess the world is in and how our ‘mature’ politicians are addressing that mess. This book explores Seth’s decision making process and offers insights to those “in the middle” to deal with the Traumas of life.
Contents

Foreword
Chapter 1: How I got here
Chapter 2: Love and Marriage
Chapter 3: Politics and Government
Chapter 4: The Talkers
Chapter 5: The Bubble
Chapter 6: The Internal Combustion Engine
Chapter 7: Employment, Middle-age and Unemployment
Chapter 8: Desperation
Chapter 9: Justice
Chapter 10: Seth’s Simple Political Solutions
Chapter 11: The Future
Chapter 12: The Candidates
Foreword
My name is Seth Emmanuel. Cool name huh? Emmanuel was my grandfather’s name and using it always makes me think of him and my father. My Dad was the best man I’ve ever known. Seth is such a simple and strong name and both seem to have an old-school biblical connotation. Those are the reasons I chose it.
I am currently 56 years old and in sort of a mid-life crisis. “Sort of” really doesn’t adequately describe my circumstances. After twenty plus years in corporate life and making good money, I went back to school, started my own businesses, and was self-employed for seven years. My earnings in several of those years actually supported me. I then gave up my businesses to pursue a lifetime dream, and, with the exception of a 6-month job in Connecticut I’ve been unemployed since 2007. I’ve been fighting off bankruptcy now for over a year, and at this time I’m only several months from financial disaster.
I have one son Irish. He is a junior in college and an art major. The latter has been the subject of some debate between father and son, but Irish makes up his own mind now. I send him money when I can, but I haven’t helped with tuition this past year. And yes, much of the money I put away for his education I’ve used to stay afloat. Do I feel bad about it? Yes. Would it be better for Irish if I gave up and filed bankruptcy? I don’t think so. I still have a shot at financial recuperation, albeit a slim one. Irish’s illness was a profound experience for me and, just like you often hear about such things, it changed my perspective on life. It was during that illness when the concept of this book first surfaced.
I’ve been married twice and divorced twice. Actually, at this time I’m still awaiting the Court’s Judgment from my second marriage. If I’m not a clear winner in this trial I’ll have to immediately plunge into bankruptcy because I don’t have the liquid assets to pay even a small award to my soon-to-be ex-wife. I know numerous men and women who are divorced and never went to trial: they each took their respective property and walked away. I should have been so lucky. My first marriage lasted 12 years and ended in a 9 month legal process and a two day custody battle in court. It was nasty. Almost 8 years later and at age 50, I remarried to an older woman and it lasted only 5 years. Once again it’s ending in a lengthy, costly legal proceeding and two days in court. I’m waiting on the Court’s decree now. I sometimes wonder if these trials are my fault, but I generally conclude I had no choice. If you finish this book, I’d be curious of your opinion. Both marriages were good and we had lots of fun together. They both ended suddenly for different reasons and left a lasting impression on me about marriage.
During the current divorce trial, my X’s attorney questioned if I considered myself a litigious person. I immediately answered no, but then was reminded of the actions I’ve been involved in the past five years. There was the first divorce trial in 1994 and 1995. In 2006 I filed suit against a former employer who I partnered with on a consulting job. He was determined to stiff me out of $72,000 of commissions I earned. In the spring of 2008 my wife suddenly announced her intentions to leave me, and then served me with the divorce papers on the anniversary of our marriage on the construction site of “our” new dream home in the mountains. In the summer of 2008 I filed suit against an individual who “purchased” my Midwest home, defaulted at closing, and then refused to release the earnest money to me. In 2009 I filed a construction defect lawsuit against two contractors who were building “the dream home in the mountains” and whose negligence resulted in my abandonment of that property, pending the resolution of the lawsuit. Forty plus years without being involved in any personal lawsuits, and then it was an avalanche of lawyers, courts, and LEGAL FEES. I’ve learned that getting justice once you’re in the system is an elusive gamble. Legal fees have been eating my lunch the past two years.
And so here I find myself 56 years old, alone, lonely, bored, scared and struggling for financial salvation. I’m not in danger of being homeless (I don’t think) but I am definitely at risk to lose everything I worked so hard to obtain. Failure is not a term I prefer to be tagged with. At this age I should be comfortable and relaxed and winding down in life (and I could have been), but I bet everything to pursue a dream and virtually everything went wrong. It’s not easy to recover and find a job at this age and in this environment, and it’s very humbling to pursue jobs that you are qualified for and overqualified for and be consistently turned down.
The idea for this book came to mind many years ago and its concept has evolved somewhat over the years. I should have started it a long time ago. I was laying on my futon the other evening wondering why anyone would buy this book, and I couldn’t come up with a good reason. I’m not even sure how to categorize it: it’s kind of a ‘human interest’ story with my insights into mid-life. I’m not sure who would be interested in that, but I’ve resolved to complete the book, and hope it will be published and help out financially. I’ve gotten to be a talk radio junkie partly because the political environment is so fascinating and partly because I’ve been so lonely and it’s comforting to have someone talking to me. The other day there was an interview with an author who just had his second book published on the ‘history of the eight-cylinder combustion engine’ and it occurred to me that maybe I had a shot at being published also.
So here goes. I hope you find the book interesting and enjoy it, but most importantly hope you learn from my mistakes.
Chapter 1
How I got here
I grew up in rural Ohio, and I mean rural. Now please don’t be alarmed that this is going to be an autobiography of my entire life, because it’s not, but there are a few aspects of my youth that have a bearing on where I am now. The town I grew up in had a population of less than five hundred and was surrounded by towns of the same size. It was in one of the largest Amish settlements in the world and so you can guess that it was a pretty conservative community. Our half of the County was dry (as in prohibition), and it still is. Life revolved around family, church, and school or work. It was a simple life with few distractions and heavy on work ethic. And believe me; I worked my butt off growing up there. I mowed yards until I was old enough to get a real job. After my freshman year in high school I worked ten hour days in a Colby cheese production facility. My Dad would drop me off at six in the morning and pick me up at six in the evening when he came home from the mine. The next two summers I worked for an Amish carpenter crew on about the same schedule. When I t