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Rad Families: A Celebration honours the messy, the painful, the playful, the beautiful, the myriad ways we create families. This is not an anthology of experts, or how-to articles on perfect parenting; it often doesn't even try to provide answers. Instead, the writers strive to be honest and vulnerable in sharing their stories and experiences, their failures and their regrets. Some contributors are recognisable authors and activists but most are everyday parents working and loving and trying to build a better world one nappy change at a time.

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Publié par	PM Press
Date de parution	01 décembre 2016
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781629633152
Langue	English

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PRAISE FOR RAD FAMILIES AND RAD DAD
I miss the days when Rad Dad would be found in my mailbox and I would wait patiently for my turn to read it. It was mostly dads, fathers, and the frustrations and tenderness and amazement of fathering. As a mother, I needed those stories too. Now I can t wait to get Rad Families and share it with all my friends, parents or not. We all need to hear these stories if only for the diversity of experiences. We all need these stories because we need rad children. We need a rad future.
-Nikki McClure, illustrator, author, parent
I love this book! Wonderfully written, tenderly honest, unabashedly hilarious, deeply important stories from the messy-beautiful world of real-life parenting. Thank goodness it exists.
-Michelle Tea, author of How to Grow Up
This collection takes the anaesthetized myth of parenting and reminds us that intimacy looks like menses on the toilet seat and the cramps you get when baby-making in a Safeway bathroom. The contributors describe the contours of family in a way that resonates.
-Virgie Tovar, editor of Hot Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love, and Fashion
Want a thriving family raising magical kids, building beloved community, and rooted in a vision of liberation that frees us all of white supremacist hetero-patriarchy? Read this book.
-Chris Crass, author of Towards the Other America and Towards Collective Liberation: Anti-racist Organizing, Feminist Praxis, and Movement Building Strategy
When I first heard of the Rad Dad zine, my contrarian instinct was to roll my eyes. Of course throughout human time women have raised kids, but the moment a dad takes on a fraction of that responsibility we have to make it out that we re all rad and shit. I vowed that if I became a dad I would just do the job and not be a Rad Dad. Just a dad. But then I actually became a dad and read some Rad Dad . It was not at all what I thought it would be. The essays were self-reflective, literary, and important. And it was not all about dads! So I m really excited about this project and expanding the framework to families is both apt and overdue. Full of deep insights, silly anecdotes, unique perspectives, but most of all great writing, Rad Families is the collection for all families.
-Innosanto Nagara, author/illustrator of A Is for Activist and Counting on Community

Rad Families: A Celebration
2016 PM Press
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Cover art by Thi Bui
Cover and interior design by Josh MacPhee/Antumbradesign.org
Published by PM Press
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Published in Canada by Fernwood Publishing
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Rad families : a celebration / edited by Tomas Moniz.
Co-published by PM Press.
ISBN 978-1-55266-915-0 (paperback)
1. Parenting. 2. Families. I. Moniz, Tomas, editor
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Fernwood Publishing Company Limited gratefully acknowledges the financial support of the Government of Canada through the Canada Book Fund, the Manitoba Department of Culture, Heritage and Tourism under the Manitoba Publishers Marketing Assistance Program and the Province of Manitoba, through the Book Publishing Tax Credit, for our publishing program. We are pleased to work in partnership with the Province of Nova Scotia to develop and promote our creative industries for the benefit of all Nova Scotians. We acknowledge the support of the Canada Council for the Arts, which last year invested 153 million to bring the arts to Canadians throughout the country.
Contents
Calm the Fuck Down: A Foreword Ariel Gore
How and Why to Read Rad Families Tomas Moniz
Forgiveness and Wet Toilet Seats: What Parenting Has Taught Me Tomas Moniz
Part 1
Nipples
Legacy
Birth
Scars and Diamonds: A Birth Story Jonas Cannon
With a Child Is Born a Parent: An Interview with Ian MacKaye
Lucas s Birth Burke Stansbury
Letting Go Danny Goot
Trans Pregnancy Simon Knaphus
Daddy s Tangled Apparatus: On Infertility Daniel Muro LaMere
The Long Pause: (In Three Parts and Two Voices) It s Positive Artnoose
The Lamaze Class Welch Canavan
And Now, an Epilogue Artnoose
The Beating Jennifer Lewis
Patchwork Family Tomas Moniz
Staying Connected
Unlike the Brady Bunch Zach Ellis
Dear Stranger, Thank You Alicia Dornadic
Learning to Be Human Jesse Palmer
Only Bits and Pieces: On Adoption and Parenting Mindi J.
Building a Community of Parents: An Interview with Carla Bergman Tasnim Nathoo
(Birth) Mothering from Prison Rachel Galindo
Daddy Thoughts: Lose Yourself! Robert Liu-Trujillo
Deep Roots, Wide Branches, and a Place in the Sun Dawn Caprice
List 1: How Fathers Can Help Fight Patriarchy
Ask a Dad #1
Part 2
Redwoods
Toenails
Gender
Warrior Training Starts Young Shawn Taylor
A Woman Who Is Daddy to Her Kids D.A. Begay
My Sex-Positive Parenting Philana Dollin
Dear Vivian Zach Ellis
Slut-Shaming on the Playground Airial Clark
Radical Role Models: Riot Grrrl and Parent Allies: A Conversation with Allison Wolfe
Riot Parent, Riot Kids: Reflections on Teen Sexuality, Becoming a Feminist, and Riot Grrrl Tomas Moniz
List 2: Riot Parent
Ask a Dad #2
Failing and Learning
A Reinterpretation of Tears Roger Porter
Binge Parenting Tomas Moniz
Moving through This Space of Unknowns: Pre-Dad Thoughts cubbie rowland-storm
It s Funny: What Brought Us Together? Annakai and Rob Geshlider
The Big Lie Jeremy Adam Smith
Nothing I Have Experienced as an Adult Has Been as Hard as Being Thirteen : An Interview with Young Adult Author Frances Hardinge
A Clutch of Flowers: Celebrating My Love for My Daughter, One Bouquet at a Time Jonathan Shipley
The Modern Family: When the Personal Becomes the Political Bronwyn Davies Glover
Part 3
Bellybutton
Blood
Who We Are
Not the Real Dad, Not a Real Dad Amy Abugo Ongiri
Invisible Dad Mike Araujo
All Things Big and Small-Race, Gender, and Ferguson Craig Elliott
Kindergarten Angst Eleanor Wohlfeiler
Through My Grandfather s Eyes Scott Hoshida
Migration Is Beautiful: One Father s Journey Plinio Hernandez
Advice
Raising a Feminist Madison Young
Advice to New Fathers Nathan Torp
Keeping a Poo Journal Simon Knaphus
Balls and Eyes; or, How to Talk with Your Kids about Anarchism Tomas Moniz
List 3: How to Talk to Kids Jessie Susannah
Part 4
broken circles
RAD Family Dos and Don ts
Community and Allies
Writing Our Own Manual: Persistence, Community, and Disability Parenting Krista Lee Hanson
How to Parent on a Night Like This Carvell Wallace
Losing My Shit Dani Burlison
Where s Your Grown-up? Simon Knaphus
Step-Dad Brian Whitman
Becoming Papa, Signing Contracts, and Telling Grandma scott winn
Making Commitments to Other People s Children: Building Intimacy with Parents and Kids Kermit Playfoot
Being an Ally to Parents and Kids Sasha Vodnik
Building Family: A Conversation with Author/Organizer Chris Crass
List 4: A Ridiculously Simplified List of Things to Communicate to Your Child and Pitfalls to Avoid when Parenting
Afterbirth/Conclusion
Family Stories: A Reckoning, a Healing Zora Moniz
Nesting: A Redefinition Of Tomas Moniz
About the Contributors
Calm the Fuck Down: A Foreword
Ariel Gore
A distant friend called this morning to ask me for parenting advice. You re the only one I could think to call, she said, almost apologetically.
And it was true that when I d seen her name glowing on my phone, my first thought had been, she s got a lot of nerve . The last I d heard from her, she was publicly slamming me for my lackadaisical parenting.
Adolescence, she whined now. I didn t it would happen to my smart boy. Should I spank him?
No. Definitely not. But I didn t have much more for her in terms of advice.
To be honest, I ve grown weary of most parenting advice.
I never went for the dumbed-down how to pieces and listicles that cluttered the baby magazines when I had my first kid twenty-five years ago-the Twelve New Positions in Which to Simultaneously Do the Laundry and Burp the Baby or the Twenty-Five Ways to Spruce Up and Unattractive Toddler Using Big Hats. But even some kinds of essays I used to write (like Raising Kids Who ll Change the World ) can make me roll my eyes these days. I mean, most of us don t honestly know what kinds of chickens we re raising, let alone who our children will become.
So here s all I could suggest:
1. Be yourself.
2. Be yourself except when yourself wants to spank your kids, in which case stop being yourself and calm the fuck down. Call me if necessary.
Because more than advice or slams, we need support and we need community.
Sometimes that support and community happen in person, sometimes online, sometimes over the phone, and often, for me, they happen via the printed word. I write my experience and I forgive myself. I read your experience and I am at once unburdened and emboldened.
Since I first found an issue of Rad Dad in my Post Office box, it has been part of my support and my community. What I love about Rad Dad is that it s here for us without judgment and most times without advice.
I am still learning myself through fathering, writes one father in Rad Families , and twenty-five years into this parenting thing, I m still learning myself through it all, too. This is my community and yours. This book is a celebration of our community.
How and Why to Read Rad Families
Tomas Moniz
S tart anywhere. Skip around. Look for what you need. Make it yours. Pick up this book when you want to feel a little less anxious or worried. Not that these stories have answers, but they might remind you that you are not alo