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Publié par	New Harbinger Publications
Date de parution	01 mai 2018
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781626259652
Langue	English
Poids de l'ouvrage	3 Mo

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“ The Worry Workbook for Kids is filled with practical activities for teaching children effective methods to manage their anxiety and worry. The book translates well-researched strategies into language that children will find engaging, easy to understand, and fun. Every child who struggles with anxiety (as well as their parents) should check out this book!”
— Martin M. Antony, PhD, ABPP , professor of psychology at Ryerson University, Toronto, ON, Canada; and coauthor of The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook
“Khanna and Ledley, in an engaging style and full of activities, guide parents in teaching kids resilience and confidence at times when they may otherwise, unwittingly, fall into worry. The book is for all the ‘what ifs’—all the varieties of worry. This easily read and understood workbook, presented in three parts, is based on sound psychological knowledge, and provides kid-friendly examples and illustrations. In an age of increasing anxiety and worry in youth, this workbook is both highly valuable and timely.”
— Philip C. Kendall, PhD, ABPP , Distinguished University Professor and Laura H. Carnell Professor of Psychology at Temple University

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This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.
Distributed in Canada by Raincoast Books
Copyright © 2018 by Muniya S. Khanna and Deborah Roth Ledley
New Harbinger Publications, Inc.
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Oakland, CA 94609
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Cover image is a model for illustrative purposes only.
Cover design by Amy Shoup
Acquired by Tesilya Hanauer
Edited by Marisa Solis
Illustrations by Noah Gringi
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To my parents, Shyamal and Ruby, for everything I have and ever will achieve— it is because of you.
To my husband, Vijay, for your undying passion, brilliance, and humor, and to Ishani and Sammy— you make it so easy to “create happiness.”
— MK
To my mom, Roslyn Roth, for inspiring my interest in anxiety and worry; for encouraging me in everything I do; and for teaching me (through example) to be a wonderful mom.
To Gary, for always encouraging me professionally, while also being the best partner in parenting a girl could ask for.
And to Jenna and Matthew, for your helpful editing of this book and encouraging us to make it readable for all the kids out there!
— DRL

Contents
Foreword
Hello, Parents
Hi, Kids!
Understanding Worry
Activity 1: Why Do We Worry?
Activity 2: The Worry Cycle
Activity 3: Breaking Out of the Worry Cycle
Breaking Out of the Worry Cycle: Step 1. Spot the False Alarm
Activity 4: Why Does My Tummy Hurt?
Activity 5: Worry Is Like a Bully
Activity 6: Let It Come and Go
Breaking Out of the Worry Cycle: Step 2. Choose a Useful Thought
Activity 7: Thinking About Your Thinking
Activity 8: Turning Anxious Thoughts into Useful Thoughts
Activity 9: Choose Your Focus
Activity 10: Choose to Feel Good
Activity 11: Having an Attitude of Gratitude
Breaking Out of the Worry Cycle: Step 3. Choose a Different Action
Activity 12: Doing New and Uncomfortable Things
Activity 13: Choosing Actions
Activity 14: Getting Used to It
Activity 15: The More You Do It, the Easier It Gets
Activity 16: What You Can Control
Activity 17: Create Happiness
Breaking Out of the Worry Cycle: Step 41 Keep Practicing
Activity 18: Sitting with Discomfort
Activity 19: Worry Can’t Survive If You Are Flexible
Activity 20: Putting It All Together
Habits that Help
Activity 21: Ten- Minute Mindfulness
Activity 22: Take an Insta- Break
Activity 23: Sleep Solutions
Activity 24: Who’s the Judge of Me?
Activity 25: Sprinkle in Some Fun
Appendix: Extra Worksheets
Acknowledgments
Reference
Recommended Reading
Foreword
Of all the challenges we face as parents, seeing our children wrestle with worry is one of the most difficult. Whether they are worrying about bees or homework, monsters under the bed or embarrassment in front of their friends, being away from home or even whether they are safe at school, children who worry are struggling with something that can feel out of reach to us and hard to fix: the products of their busy, fearful imaginations. We don’t want our children to miss out on life, and at the same time, we ourselves are not sure how to convince them that they are okay when they are so convinced that they are not. As parents, we may be afraid that pushing kids into their discomfort zone will be too much for them.
Anxiety disorders in children are on the rise, with lifetime estimates as high as 24 percent. But the very good news is that children can learn so much about how to take charge of anxiety and buffer themselves from anxiety— with resilience under their wings rather than fear weighing on their shoulders. And parents are in the very best position to be the very best teachers. The wonderful book you hold now in your hands will help you lead the way.
Parents teach their children how to walk, tie their shoes, brush their teeth, look both ways before crossing the street— and the reason those lessons go so well is that parents know that their children need those skills in order be successful in life. So it is with anxiety management skills.
Fear is a normal and expected part of life; it rushes in and fills in the gaps between a child’s learning about something new (like a dog) and learning how that experience really works (that dogs may be big and noisy but they are friendly, wonderful companions). Our instinct as parents is to protect our children from discomfort. We may want to whisk our children out of uncomfortable situations, having them skip activities like sports or school trips that may feel too hard. But here’s the thing: being afraid of new situations isn’t the problem, it’s not even a sign of trouble, since most children feel that way. The problem is when we inadvertently teach our kids that if/when they are afraid, they need to stay away in order to cope.
What is the alternative? We can teach our children a different response to fear: instead of trusting all the what ifs? and oh nos! that worry tells them, they can put these worries to the test and fact- check worry’s story. Doing this fact- checking shrinks worry down to a much more manageable size. Then our children can be ready for the next step— approaching that fearful situation— which will seem much less daunting, even if it’s one small step at a time.
One instinct we have as parents is to protect our children from suffering, but an equally strong instinct is to encourage and support our children’s growth. Knowing how to handle fearful moments and shrink worry down to size doesn’t always come naturally. It helps to have a guide. The Worry Workbook , written by my wonderful, gifted colleagues Drs. Muniya Khanna and Deborah Ledley at the Children’s and Adult Center for OCD and Anxiety, shows parents and children how to use their smarts and not get taken in by the tricks worry can play. The step- by- step plan, complete with exercises and friendly illustrations, walks parents and children through worry moments and equips them with easy, effective strategies to understand how worry works, how to dismantle it, and how to prevail. More than just tackling the weeds of worry, The Worry Workbook provides exercises to plant the seeds of positive experiences such as creating happiness and cultivating gratitude— both of which buffer us from fear and contribute to a satisfying life.
It is never too early or too late to work on these skills with your children. The Worry Workbook has translated the most effective, empirically sound approaches to overcoming fear and anxiety into fun, accessible activities to work on with your child. And it is so much more than that. The Worry Workbook is a game changer, preparing children to be ready to take charge of the full range of life experiences they may face. It will be the beginning of a new sense of confidence for your child— for now and for a lifetime. Here’s to less worry all around!
—Tamar E. Chansky, Ph.D.
Author of Freeing Your Child from Anxiety: Practical Strategies to Overcome Fears, Worries, and Phobias
Hello, Parents
If you picked up this book, it is probably because your child seems more stressed and anxious than he or she needs to be. No parent wants to see a child suffer, and we applaud you for seeking help. Your instincts are correct: There are simple changes in how your child approaches anxiety that can absolutely lessen how stressed and worried he or she feels.
We think you picked up the right book! This workbook is full of simple strategies based on decades of research that are designed to help children who struggle with anxiety, fear, and worry.
Children who struggle with worry have a near constant need for predictability, perfection, and planning. Why? All of these needs are aimed at avoiding “discomfort.” It is totally normal for humans to want to avoid feeling bad, but sometimes this instinct becomes overactive and interfering. Our brains become focused on all the bad things that are happening or could happen in a situation, and we begin planning ways to “fix” it, prevent it from happening, or avoid it completely. After a while, our bodies and minds learn, incorrectly, that we can’t handle discomfort and t