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Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 There are two contradictory sides of myself: the one side that is in touch with my daughter’s inherent power and is deeply connected to her, and the other side that reacts to her in a blind and unthinking way, creating antipathy and disconnection.
#2 The voice in your head that controls your emotions and reactions is your ego. It is the result of fear, and it is always rooted in fear. It is what drives you to be reactive with your children.
#3 The path to a peaceful world begins with a childhood that’s resplendent with a sense of worth and the freedom to be true to ourselves. We were all raised with a plethora of shoulds, and a host of dogmatic impositions on how to be that we began to mistake for our authentic self.
#4 The ego is the voice in our head that is constantly thinking about how we can best protect ourselves and our loved ones. It is this false self that creates the first seeds of disconnect with our children.

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Publié par	Everest Media LLC
Date de parution	01 avril 2022
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781669374879
Langue	English
Poids de l'ouvrage	1 Mo

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#1

There are two contradictory sides of myself: the one side that is in touch with my daughter’s inherent power and is deeply connected to her, and the other side that reacts to her in a blind and unthinking way, creating antipathy and disconnection.

#2

The voice in your head that controls your emotions and reactions is your ego. It is the result of fear, and it is always rooted in fear. It is what drives you to be reactive with your children.

#3

The path to a peaceful world begins with a childhood that’s resplendent with a sense of worth and the freedom to be true to ourselves. We were all raised with a plethora of shoulds, and a host of dogmatic impositions on how to be that we began to mistake for our authentic self.

#4

The ego is the voice in our head that is constantly thinking about how we can best protect ourselves and our loved ones. It is this false self that creates the first seeds of disconnect with our children.

#5

When children aren’t given the space to assert their authentic voice, but are instead drowned out by the roar of our parental agendas, they grow up anxious and depressed.

#6

To parent consciously, we must be aware of how our ego seduces us. With each step we take toward increased awareness, we get closer to our children’s hearts and spirits.

#7

We all passed through childhood, and because we were raised by parents who were largely unaware of how to navigate the parenting years in a manner that would result in our growing up to be emotionally mature, we are all still affected by our childhood experiences.

#8

When we become anxious in connection with our children, we often lose all sense of our mature self and behave in ways that leave us feeling like a failure as a parent. We experience fear in the form of anxiety when we witness our children suffering.

#9

The more immature we are emotionally, the more our children will present us with complexes, insecurities, and behavior problems. This is their way of saying, Hey, parents, I’m here to show you that you have some growing up to do. Can you please get on with it so I can move on and be who I’m supposed to be.

#10

When we are angry with our children, it’s like being knocked off our feet emotionally. We usually think of the child as having behaved in a way that set us off. We tell ourselves that if we could just get the child to do or not do certain things, we wouldn’t react the way we do.

#11

Conscious parenting is a game changer because it doesn’t try to change the child, just ourselves as parents. It holds that once the parent creates the right conditions, the child will naturally change and evolve toward higher consciousness.

#12

Our children are our awakeners. They offer us lessons and insights that help us grow, and we should embrace this and not ignore it. If we ignore the immature ways we sometimes behave toward our children, we turn down one of the most profound opportunities to grow ourselves up.

#13

The way we organize our life affects our children. If we are not willing to grow and mature in the way we organize our life, these seemingly small things have a way of seeding many a dysfunctional pattern in a family.

#14

Our children mirror back to us our tardiness, our anxiety, our need for perfection, and our desire for control. They reveal how difficult it is for us to engage them with full-on presence, and how threatening it is for us to be spontaneous and playful.

#15

The conscious parenting approach is a game changer. It shifts the focus away from the child and onto the parent’s inner transformation, which can lead to profound changes in the way parents interact with their children.

#16

As parents, it’s important for us to understand that as long as our children are in touch with their deepest self, they will motivate themselves beyond anything we could ever imagine. Our role is to help them express their motivation in ways that are tailored to their particular makeup.

#17

Control is very difficult to give up. If you try to do so, your ego will bombard you with fearful messages reminding you of all the reasons you wanted control in the first place. But those messages have nothing to do with the reality of who your child is and what’s actually transpiring in the present moment.

#18

As Karla began to gain insight into how her anxiety was undermining the leadership she wished her daughter to develop, as well as overriding her ability to be present with her daughter in a way that would enable them to connect, Tonya began to open up.

#19

When we are constantly busy with our kids, we fail to give them the attention they need. We push them to become involved in sports, social activities, dance, singing, or playing a musical instrument, among other things.

#20

When we allow our children to relish each moment without constantly having an agenda thrust on them, they come alive to their native intelligence, heartfelt desires, and natural inclinations and interests. They are rarely bored because they are never forced to perform.

#21

What do you imagine your children most want from you. The latest iPhone. New shoes or designer clothes. A trip to Disney World. Tuition for a top private school.

#22

When children feel seen, believe they are worthy, and sense that they matter for who they are as a person rather than just what they accomplish, they are able to enjoy their own sense of empowerment.

#23

Our children yearn for us to understand them on a deep level, which is their essence. They count on us to cut through the rubble of their sometimes irrational behavior and see them in their pristine selfhood.

#24

The path to consciousness is an internal process, and identifying universal principles is difficult. You must start with what you are observing happening right now, with what you are actually seeing moment by moment.

#25

When we stop blaming our children for triggering us, we realize that it’s our own inner lack that is causing us to react so negatively towards them. We must examine why our children’s behavior causes us to react negatively, so we can change the patterns of interaction between our children and us.

#26

The fact is, if we didn’t already carry pain from our own upbringing, we wouldn’t react unconsciously. It’s only when we have been sensitized in some way internally that our triggers can be enflamed by something external.

#27

Conscious parenting is about becoming aware of your thoughts, feelings, actions, and everything you bring to each and every moment with your children. It requires you to hold a dual lens, one facing inward and the other outward.

#28

Our beliefs control our behavior, so we must change those first if we want to change our behavior. We must take responsibility for how we want to live and parent, and then manifest that lifestyle.

#29

The seven myths that define how we are supposed to parent are the product of a culture that has been saturated with them for generations. They seduce us into accepting society’s dictates concerning how children should be raised, and we fear what will become of our children if we don’t follow them.

#30

We must be bold and abandon the archaic child-rearing practices that have produced generation after generation of unfulfilled humans. We must connect with our children in a way we haven’t been able to until now because we weren’t seeing them as they are.

#31

I had the misconception that I was going to raise you to be whole, complete, and worthy. I was deluded to think I knew it all. I thought I had it all together, ready to teach, inspire, and change you. But now that I have raised you, I understand that it is you who are here to teach me, guide, lead, and elevate me.