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On July 7, 2005, Bill Mann's life changed forever. Emerging from the charred remains of a bombed Circle Line London Underground train carriage at Edgware Road, dazed, confused and lucky to be alive, Bill staggered on to the streets of a city in lockdown. The 7/7 terror attack claimed the lives of 52 people - six of them in carriage 2 at Edgware Road. Bill could have been one of them, having shared his morning commute with the bomb that rocked a city. In How to Keep Calm and Carry On, Bill takes us on a journey of self-discovery following 7/7 and the death of his beloved wife through cancer, explaining the techniques he used to rebuild and, ultimately, change his life.

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Publié par	Austin Macauley Publishers
Date de parution	31 janvier 2019
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781528945073
Langue	English

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How to Keep Calm and Carry On
A Survivor’s Guide to Coping with Change, Trauma and Tragedy
Bill Mann
Austin Macauley Publishers
2019-01-31
How to Keep Calm and Carry On About the Author Dedication Copyright Information Acknowledgements Preface Chapter One: Introduction Chapter Two: What Is Change? Planned and Unexpected Positive and Negative Scale of Change Reactions and Responses Chapter Three: The Change Curve Stage 1: Shock and Denial Shock Denial Stage 2: Anger/Frustration and Depression Anger and Frustration Depression Stage 3: Experiment, Decision, Integration Experiment Decision Integration Applying It in Practice The Art of Self-Defence Sleep Just Say No Asking for Help Being Direct One Step at a Time Taking Time Scale Examples Separating Emotions and Thoughts Chapter Four: Managing Emotions Venting Inner Dialogue Caring for Your Chimp Recognition and Reward Distraction Hot Buttons Chapter Five: Think Straight Unhelpful Thinking Black and White Catastrophizing Jumping to Conclusions Shoulds, Coulds, and Oughts Over-Generalisation Mind Filter Disqualifying Positives Emotional Reasoning Guilt Labelling Blame and Personalisation STOPP It! Table STOPP It Model Helpful Thinking Perspective Your 24-Hours Ditch the Baggage Emotions Are Justified Integrity Leaders and Followers Self-Confidence Serenity Prayer An Open Mind You Are Not the First Control Chapter Six: Opportunity in Change Timing Practise! Good Company Malala Yousafzai Stephen Hawking Piper Kerman Frank Gardner Chapter Seven: The New Normal Options Not an Option Taking Control Integration New Change Chapter Eight: External Influences People Time Stuff and Clutter Chapter Nine: What If? Balance Look to the Future Really? What Can I Do? Now What? Chapter Ten: Supporting Others Shared Experiences On the Curve Escaped Chimps Negative Thinking Chapter Eleven: Personal Change Change Cycle Precontemplation Contemplation Preparation Action Maintenance Relapse Motivation Chapter Twelve: Leading Change Recognition Their Change, Not Yours Listen and Observe Providing Support Give People Time and Space Be There for Them Keep Them Informed Above All – Integrity Support for You Chapter Thirteen: Keep Calm Chapter Fourteen: Carry On
About the Author
Bill Mann has coped with more than his fair share of change, trauma and tragedy. He narrowly survived the 7/7 London bombings in 2005, only to lose his wife to cancer a few years later. Bill has not only adapted to change, but learned how to embrace it and make it a positive force in his life.
Dedication
This book is dedicated to my mother and father – everything I am and everything I have achieved is thanks to them.
This book is also dedicated to my wife, Sarah; and children, Emily, Alice, Ed, Will and Tom. Everything I do, I do for them.
Copyright Information
Copyright © Bill Mann (2019)
The right of Bill Mann to be identified as author of this work has been asserted by him in accordance with section 77 and 78 of the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988.
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, without the prior permission of the publishers.
Any person who commits any unauthorised act in relation to this publication may be liable to criminal prosecution and civil claims for damages.
A CIP catalogue record for this title is available from the British Library.
ISBN 9781528916639 (Paperback)
ISBN 9781528916646 (Hardback)
ISBN 9781528945073 (E-Book)
www.austinmacauley.com
First Published (2019)
Austin Macauley Publishers Ltd
25 Canada Square
Canary Wharf
London
E14 5LQ
Acknowledgements
Many thanks to Steve Bolton for first planting the idea of writing a book in my head. It may have been several years ago but this book is a direct result of his comments. I would also like to thank Steve for his continued support, encouragement and opportunities he has brought my way throughout the whole process. Steve is a highly exceptional mentor to those of us lucky enough to have the benefit of his advice and wisdom.
Thanks too to Neil Meldrum for his professional advice and guidance from the outset, and all the edits and corrections along the way. I had to pick his brains all the way through the creation of this book. His enthusiasm for this project and personal interest in the book were a great source of confidence to me.
I will be forever grateful that my wife, Sarah, not only believes in me, but also believed that I had the insight and wisdom to write this book. She supported me throughout, provided valuable input and observations on the content, and even created all of the graphics. Thank you.
Preface
Being caught up in a terrorist bomb explosion is, thankfully, not something that many of us experience. The psychological impact of this type of trauma is something that many have struggled to cope with. Even battled hardened soldiers suffer from PTSD for years after this type of event. Many people do not recover, they cope, just.
For Bill Mann, on his way to work on 7th July 2005, this was a life changing moment. He was used to commuting to work and had swapped the risks of a long daily commute on a busy motorway to the relative safety of a train journey. None of us expect to be the victim of a terrorist bomb, but that is what happened to Bill that day. It is incredible that he found the strength to resume his daily commute only a few days later and refused to let the incident compromise his life, his plans, and his goals.
To deal with one such life changing event is an achievement, to get back up and carry on with life requires enormous inner strength. A few short years later his wife was diagnosed with terminal cancer and Bill was knocked down again. Only this time it was his family and his whole world that was rocked to its foundations. Undoubtedly, his earlier experience will have helped, but these two events, in quick succession, totally changed his life. Yet again, he got up and continued with his life, providing the stability, support, and strength his young family needed. It is a testament to his incredible inner strength that not only was he able to cope with these changes, but that he was able to successfully rebuild his life, and carry his family through the tragedy.
Bill spent many years on self-reflection, understanding the psychology of change, and developing the personal tools and techniques to help him cope. Ultimately, he learnt how to do more than cope, he learnt how to embrace change and turn it to his advantage. The knowledge and wisdom he shares in this book are of value to us all.
We all face change in our lives. Thankfully, not to the extremes that Bill has. But we all face changes as we go through life, changing jobs, moving house, embarking on new relationships, starting families, and so on. We all face change on an almost daily basis, our plans change, things happen, and we have to change course and accommodate them in our lives. The explanation of the change process that we go through, and the tools and techniques that Bill used, are applicable to all of us. This book is a fascinating and captivating journey through change. It makes us consider not only what we go through when facing change, but the impacts we have on others when we make change.
Looking back over the years, since Bill experienced these tragic events it is remarkable how he has come to accept them and used the experience to rebuild his life with extremely positive results. He has started not one, but two businesses, built a property portfolio and become financially independent, written a book, and become a thought leader in life change and lifestyle design. He is now in a position to share those experiences, and to help others that may not have the same insight. I thoroughly recommend the support he provides via this book and his mentoring services.
Steve Bolton.
Chapter One: Introduction
“Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will.”
Mahatma Ghandi
It’s the smells and sounds that stay with you. The taste of soot and smoke engulfed my senses for days, weeks and months afterwards. The sounds, of fear, distress, unimaginable pain and pure terror, became the soundtrack for my nightmares.
My name is Bill Mann and on July 7th 2005, I boarded a Circle Line London Underground train to Paddington. It was normal day for me. Balmy by the dubious standards of the English summer, so an uncomfortable commute lay ahead on London’s bustling transport network, but my thoughts were on the day ahead. Meetings, specific jobs in the office in Paddington.
I’d said my usual goodbyes to my wife and children and set off for London Fenchurch Street, before wandering around the corner to Tower Hill underground station. I stood on the platform, in the same spot I always did despite the rush hour. When the train came to a screeching halt, I boarded the same carriage I always did. A creature of habit, perhaps, but perfect for a quick exit at the other end.
The train rolled into Edgware Road. I’d occasionally disembark there, and enjoy a walk into Paddington. I don’t know why I didn’t that day. If only I had.
I wouldn’t describe myself as a people watcher on the Tube. Many are. Some are happy with their thoughts, like me, while others read the morning papers and most, in this digital age, are engrossed in their phones and tablets. I sat contemplating the day ahead as the train moved into the tunnel away from the Edgware Road platform.
A train passed beside us in the opposite direction as I was thrown from my seat towards the doors. The flash of light was blinding and the intensity of the heat scolded my skin which was already damp with sweat. The darkness was illuminated only by the emergency lighting in the tunnel and the burning embers that flashed past me. The screeching sound of metal on metal was only later drowned out b