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Publié par	New Harbinger Publications
Date de parution	01 janvier 0001
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781608826254
Langue	English

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“ The Power of Validation is an immensely valuable book about helping our children feel worthy and valued. It is written with a compassionate conviction, backed by empirical evidence, and illustrated with vivid anecdotes. The wisdom of these words touches us not only as parents, but as humans longing to be validated for who we are. What greater gift could we possibly give our children than to lovingly recognize, accept, and validate their lives?”
—Brent LoCaste-Wilken, LCSW, CEAP, adjunct professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work
“Validation is the number-one skill in improving relationships with children of all ages, partners, family members, and even colleagues in the workplace. The Power of Validation by Karyn D. Hall and Melissa H. Cook details how and why each of us should master this powerful skill. This is a must-read book for parents and teachers of young children, and most definitely a refreshing and creative reading experience for all who value rewarding relationships!”
—Jim and Diane Hall, family educators for the National Alliance on Mental Illness and the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder
“ The Power of Validation is a veritable roadmap for parents. The destination charted on this roadmap is the creation of a child who has healthy self-esteem and can face the slings and arrows of daily life with confidence and resilience. Parents and those who are anticipating the challenges of parenthood will richly benefit from spending some time with this superb new book.”
—Glen O. Gabbard, MD, The Gabbard Center in Houston, TX
“Never before has a book about parenting tackled the seemingly simple topic of validation. In this groundbreaking guide, the authors reveal the amazing power of validation in the development of a strong and healthy child. As we learn how validation galvanizes identity and bolsters self-esteem, we also learn about the wreckage of invalidating environments—a delicate subject compassionately addressed by the authors at every turn. In short, a must-read for every parent, a treasure for anyone wanting to boost their emotional intelligence, and a string of pearls for mental health clinicians of every stripe.”
—Kimberly A. Arlinghaus, MD, associate professor of psychiatry at Baylor College of Medicine in Houston, TX
“ The Power of Validation is a welcome addition to the field. It takes the construct of validation to a practical level, providing exercises that help readers go beyond the written word. The audience for the book should include parents as well as mental health professionals, given its important focus and user-friendly approach.”
—Perry D. Hoffman, PhD, president of the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder
“In The Power of Validation , Karyn D. Hall and Melissa H. Cook provide a roadmap for building the right emotional foundation for your child’s life success. Recognizing and accepting your child’s feelings is an easy addition to your parenting skill set as well as an elegantly simple and powerful antidote to the pressure of figuring out how to raise competent, successful children.”
—Kay M. Albrecht, PhD, early childhood teacher educator at Innovations in Early Childhood Education, Inc., in Houston, TX
“As a pediatrician and mother, I have read hundreds of parenting books, but this one boils it all down into one easy concept. I have found this book to be an invaluable parenting tool in my own home as well as in my practice. If you’ve grappled with issues such as bullying and peer pressure, this book provides a tried and true solution that will bring harmony to your relationship with your children and give you a sense of competence in your role as a parent. The authors’ down-to-earth writing style makes the hugely powerful concept of validation relevant and effective for all parents. It is truly a fresh perspective on parenting.”
—Pamela R. Carmain, MD, FAAP, clinical associate professor in the Department of Pediatrics at Baylor College of Medicine in Houston, TX
“Validation makes us feel like we matter. It makes us feel like our feelings are not wrong. With validation, we have a stronger and closer bond with our parents.”
—Stuart, age 15, David, age 13, and Caroline, age 11
“ The Power of Validation is a welcome resource for any parent, teacher, or clinician who wants to optimize their effectiveness in contributing to any young person’s emotional development. Hall and Cook have written an easy-to-read, compassionate book that describes the importance, process, and challenges of validation with clear instructions, examples, and practice exercises that can teach and hold the interest of a family member or professional at any level of education or experience. We will definitely refer both family members and colleagues to this book as a tool for teaching the power of validation to promote emotional stability, self-esteem, and effective collaboration in any young person.”
—Lois W. Choi-Kain, MD, clinical instructor in psychiatry and director of the Gunderson Residence of McLean Hospital
“ The Power of Validation is a must-read, no matter how old your child may be. What an eye-opening experience it is to practice validation on a regular basis. The struggles and conflicts disappear and compassion and love emerge. It’s a win-win for parent and child and helps parents build a stronger, healthier relationship with their children. I wish I had these tools when my kids were toddlers, but it’s never too late to start. Even my seventeen-year-old daughter is much more willing to communicate and share her feelings the more I practice validating her. Thank you for writing this book and empowering me to make a change in the way I listen and respond to my kids.”
—Michelle Fredricks, mother of two in Houston, TX
“Quite simply, this is one of the most powerful and effective parenting books I own. It is an invaluable tool for raising emotionally balanced kids.”
—Kristine J. Madorsky, MEd, LPC, teacher and elementary school counselor in Houston, TX
“Validating our children does not always come naturally, but is a true gift that we can learn to give to the people we love. I have witnessed immediate healing results when I use this concept with my children, my husband, and in my other relationships.”
—Jennifer A. Kearns, MEd, parent and teacher
“Wow—it truly works! If you are like me, an exhausted, busy parent, you are constantly looking for ways to help your family that don’t take too much time. This book gently reminds the reader why it is so important that our children feel validated to ensure they are emotionally stable and self-reliant. The best recommendation comes from my children, who now share that they feel more confident in their ability to make decisions.”
—Jana Ames, managing director of an international consulting company and mother of twins
arming your child against bullying, peer pressure, addiction, self-harm, and out-of-control emotions
Karyn D. Hall and Melissa H. Cook
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Publisher’s Note
This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.

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Copyright © 2012 by Karyn D. Hall and Melissa H. Cook
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Cover design by Amy Shoup; Acquired by Catharine Meyers; Edited by Nelda Street

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Epub ISBN: 9781608826254

The Library of Congress has Cataloged the Print Edition as:
Hall, Karyn D.
The power of validation : arming your child against bullying, peer pressure, addiction, self-harm, and out-of-control emotions / Karyn D. Hall and Melissa H. Cook.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 978-1-60882-033-7 (pbk.) -- ISBN 978-1-60882-034-4 (pdf e-book)
1. Emotions in children. 2. Identity (Psychology) in children. 3. Validation therapy. 4. Parental acceptance. 5. Parenting--Psychological aspects. I. Cook, Melissa H. II. Title.
BF723.E6H35 2011
155.4’124--dc23
2011027874
To my children, who remind me daily of the importance of validation.
To my husband, Douglas. I would not be a therapist, much less an author, without your support.
—Melissa Cook

For my mom and Chris. They know why.
For Melissa, who had an idea one day. Look what happened.
—Karyn Hall
Contents
Foreword
Acknowledgments
Introduction
1. Understanding Validation
2. The Importance of Validation
3. Applying Validating Parenting
4. Why Parents Invalidate
5. Ways Parents Invalidate
6. Validating Parenting in Depth
7. How to Apply the Levels of Validation to Validating Parenting
8. Dealing with Roadblocks to Your Success
References
Foreword
I first started learning about validation as a part of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT). DBT is a treatment that was created for suicidal people who were emotionally and behaviorally out of control. Marsha Linehan, PhD., who created DBT, realized that one of the problems in treating these people was that when she would try to tell them things that would solve their life problems, their emotions got more intense. As the emotions went up, the clients would stop participating in the therapy sessions. The emotional clients would no longer be able to process new information or recall old information, and ultimately, the clients would either verbally attack the therapist or leave the therapy session. There needed to be a mechanism for bringing emotional arousal down in session. Dr. Linehan started adding specific, concrete validation to her work with emotional clients. When clients started having increased emotion and shutting down