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Extraordinary wisdom to help you understand yourself, lead your life, and deal with other people.

As human beings, we have instincts for both good and evil, conscious and unconscious. To rectify ourselvesto live spiritually and properlyinvolves getting a handle on these impulses.
from the Introduction

In this special book of practical wisdom, Dr. Abraham J. Twerski draws from his extensive professional experience as a psychiatrist and spiritual counselor, a life-long student of Jewish wisdom texts, and his personal experience as a son of a wise Chassidic rabbi to give us practical lessons for life that we can put to day-to-day use in dealing with ourselves and others.

In a presentation as warm and witty as it is profound, Dr. Twerski combines lively anecdotes, personal musings, and insights and wisdom from sources ranging from Freud to the great Talmudic and Torah scholars throughout the ages. And with deep compassion and refreshing candor, he shows how these wisdom teachings can guide us in all moments of our lives, whatever our faith tradition.


Acknowledgments ix Introduction 1 1. WHAT DRIVES US? 13 2. IDENTITY AND SELF-ESTEEM 27 3. LOVING OTHERS 41 4. DEFENDING AGAINST OUR DEFENSES 57 5. ADAPTING TO ADVERSITY 83 6. PERFECTING THE WORLD, PERFECTING OURSELVES 105 Suggestions for Further Reading 125

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18 août 2011

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P RAISE FOR A BRAHAM J. T WERSKI S W ORK
An important book for those who seek true happiness, and doesn t everybody?
- John Bradshaw, personal growth expert; author,
Healing the Shame That Binds You
An inspirational guide that everyone can use. Profoundly wise, combines practical steps to take and uplifting stories. A must read.
-Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, happiness coach; author,
The Enchanted Self: A Positive Therapy and Recipes for Enchantment, the Secret Ingredient Is You!
Provides us with an understanding of our spiritual side . It s like a conversation with a warm and trusted friend.
- Betty Ford, former first lady; founder,
Betty Ford Treatment Center
This thought-provoking book brings together insights from Torah and psychotherapy to challenge us to reflect on how to live a meaningful life. Through reflection on important questions like What is it that God wants of me? it does indeed present a formula for proper living.
- Rabbi Laura Geller, senior rabbi,
Temple Emanuel, Beverly Hills
Much more than studying genetic factors, set points, or diet prescriptions, Dr. Twerski s simple examples and entertaining explanations make reading this book a happy and life changing event.
- Judi Hollis, PhD, author, Hot Heavy: Finding Your Soul
through Food and Sex and From Bagels to Buddha
I defy anyone to read this book and not become kinder, more spiritual and insightful. For people of all faiths, and of none, by one of the great Jewish teachers of our age. If you want to be a blessing in the lives of those around you, and in your own life, read this book.
- Rabbi Joseph Telushkin, author,
A Code of Jewish Ethics and Jewish Literacy
A detailed presentation of the aspects of the unique human spirit will smooth the path for undertaking ten steps to happiness. Gentle humor and subtle stories will weave their way into your life. This appreciation of spirituality will make anyone want to pursue that goal and learn how better to do so.
- Ernest Kurtz, PhD, coauthor, The Spirituality of Imperfection:
Storytelling and the Search for Meaning
Exceptionally well-written, thought-provoking discusses the need in all of us to lead meaningful lives.
- Robert J. Ackerman, PhD, author,
A Husband s Little Black Book: Commonsense, Wit and Wisdom for a Better Marriage; and A Wife s Little Red Book:
Commonsense, Wit and Wisdom for a Better Marriage
Wonderful explains what we are missing and how to achieve it. Filled with stories and written in a direct, personal way could well help people to find nothing short of meaning and happiness.
- Elliot N. Dorff, PhD, author,
The Way Into Tikkun Olam (Repairing the World)
Brilliant . Shows how happiness and spirituality are intertwined and achievable. Simply reading this joyful writing will put you on the road to happiness.
- Rabbi Berel Wein, founder and director of
The Destiny Foundation; author, Triumph of Survival
Written with clarity, compassion, comics and practical wisdom harvests a lifetime of spiritual study, psychological counseling and life experience guiding us to be our best and our happiest.
- Rabbi Elie Kaplan Spitz, author, Healing from Despair:
Choosing Wholeness in a Broken World
Puts into words the yearning we all feel to live fully with joy and happiness. Helps us on our journey by gently teaching the heart and guiding the mind as we journey toward a life of greater contentment.
- Karyn D. Kedar, author, The Bridge to Forgiveness:
Stories and Prayers for Finding God and Restoring Wholeness
A Formula for Proper Living:
Practical Lessons from Life and Torah
2009 Hardcover Edition, First Printing
2009 by Abraham J. Twerski
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Twerski, Abraham J.
A formula for proper living : practical lessons from life and Torah / Abraham J. Twerski.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN-13: 978-1-58023-402-3
ISBN-10: 1-58023-402-X
1. Jewish way of life. 2. Spiritual life-Judaism. 3. Self esteem-Religious aspects-Judaism. 4. Self-perception-Religious aspects-Judaism. 5. Self-realization-Religious aspects-Judaism. I. Title.
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C ONTENTS
Acknowledgments
Introduction
1. W HAT D RIVES U S ?
2. I DENTITY AND S ELF -E STEEM
3. L OVING O THERS
4. D EFENDING A GAINST O UR D EFENSES
5. A DAPTING TO A DVERSITY
6. P ERFECTING THE W ORLD , P ERFECTING OURSELVES
Suggestions for Further Reading
About Jewish Lights
Copyright
A CKNOWLEDGMENTS
I am deeply grateful to Emily Wichland, vice president of Editorial and Production at Jewish Lights Publishing, for her superb editing and organizing of this book, adding to it substantively as well as formally.
Many thanks, too, to Stuart M. Matlins, founder and publisher of Jewish Lights; Michaela Powell, project editor; and all of the staff at Jewish Lights for making this book possible.
I NTRODUCTION
T here is an ancient story that a desert king, who had heard of the greatness of Moses, sent his artists to the Israelite encampment to make a portrait of him. When they returned, the king submitted the portrait to his physiognomists, who were able to deduce a person s character from his facial features. The physiognomists reported that the portrait was of a selfish, narcissistic, ego-driven, jealous, and lustful person. Inasmuch as this was the polar opposite of what he had heard about Moses, the king went to see for himself.
Upon meeting Moses, the king saw that the portrait had been accurate to a fault. When he told Moses of the physiognomist s interpretation, Moses explained that physiognomists can determine only the traits with which a person was born. They were correct, Moses said, because I was indeed born with all those negative traits. However, I transformed them into positive traits, directed toward a spiritual goal. 1
Moses s process of transformation is what Talmudist Rabbi Elijah ben Shlomo Zalman, known as the Vilna Gaon, called breaking one s traits. A human being comes into the world as a biological creature, with all the traits that are inherent in other living things. It is the obligation of the human being to transform these traits so that they lead to the goal of a close relationship with God.
In modern times, we may call this transformational process a formula for proper living, an understanding of the human body, mind, and spirit that can guide us to achieving a sense of balance and spiritual well-being. For some, this formula may seem elusive. We rush out to meet the flood of new self-help material and gurus that is developed each year based on their promise of health, wealth, and happiness. With each new crop of theories and approaches, our hope is renewed that we will find the fix we need to finally achieve healthy relationships and lasting spiritual well-being. Yet each program seems to fall flat after the media buzz subsides and the trend is declared dead.
But if we look closely at Torah-the Hebrew Bible and supporting Jewish wisdom literature-we will find all the material we need to live righteously-and humanly-in relationship with God. Within the pages of this book, I will show that when taken together, the Torah supplies a complete formula for proper living that accounts for your human ability to choose as well as the inner workings of the human mind that can affect how you make your choices. I will also show you that the effectiveness and timelessness of the Torah s formula for proper living are proven to us again and again, as modern psychiatry and medicine present theories as new only to find their roots based in Torah.
Wisdom from Torah Can Equal Personal Growth
To begin, in chapter 1 I will explore what drives us as human beings and Torah s insights on these formidable forces. A human being is a composite creature, composed of a body, which is essentially an animal body, and a number of traits that animals lack, which, taken together, compose the human spirit. Unlike animals that are dominated only by biological drives, we can use our intellect to determine how we wish to live. In effect, we have the ability to choose. However, our choices are influenced by inherent instincts for both good and evil-the yetzer tov and the yetzer ra -as well as conscious and unconscious motivations. These can obscure the way for choosing the right path.
The choices we make are significantly affected by how we view ourselves-our identity-and how we feel about what we see-our self-esteem. In fact, identity and self-esteem form the core of humanness. In chapter 2, I will examine the importance of establishing an accurate self-awareness-complete with strengths, weaknesses, and potential to improve-and the stealthy ways that self-destructive feelings and actions can undermine our ability to make healthy choices and sabotage our spiritual well-being.
Our identity and self-esteem also play key roles in our relationships with others. As critical as it is to proper living to generate self-love and respect, it is equally important to love and respect those with whom you interact.

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