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Over 90 percent of couples experience some level of tension around money. In fact, money issues are the number one stressor in relationships. So many books try to fix the surface problems, such as how to budget and what to prioritize when it comes to finances, but the issues go much deeper than just a simple spreadsheet.How do men and women view money differently? What do most couples fight about? How can they get on the same page? What questions should men/women ask their significant others before marriage? There are emotional and spiritual components to finances that most couples ignore. How can you agree on a budget if you disagree with each other on the basic purpose of money?Thriving in Love and Money is based on original research Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have conducted to get to the heart of these issues. And just as they did with their bestselling books For Women Only and For Men Only, they will use this research to provide the answers and insights you need to break the tension and provide the unity you're looking for. Let this book deepen your understanding of each other, leading to clear communication, peace as a couple, and better financial decision-making.Also available: video curriculum and workbook.

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Publié par	Baker Publishing Group
Date de parution	03 mars 2020
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781493423026
Langue	English
Poids de l'ouvrage	2 Mo

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Endorsements
“I have been giving financial advice primarily to couples for the last forty-plus years. I only wish I had had this book forty years ago, as it validated from a research standpoint just about everything that I’ve experienced in working with couples on their finances. It is a privilege to offer this endorsement.”
—Ron Blue, CEO, Ron Blue Institute
“Money can be one the greatest sources of tension and confilict in marriage. By uncovering what’s really going on beneath the surface, Shaunti and Jeff reveal the actions any couple can take to truly transform their marriage. This book is an amazing resource I’ll be using both personally and in ministry.”
—Steve Carter, stewardship pastor, Southeast Christian Church
“Money problems are often not about money, but about how we think and feel about money, ourselves, and our spouse. And we don’t often know why we think and feel the way we do. Shaunti and Jeff’s research is a roadmap to discovering what lies behind our attitudes and behavior around money—and learning to work as a team. I highly recommend Thriving in Love and Money for all who want to replace conflict with harmony.”
—Gary Chapman, PhD, author of The 5 Love Languages
“You know that money conversation you’ve been avoiding. There’s a reason behind it, and it might surprise you. With X-ray vision and the data to back it up, Thriving in Love and Money offers practical insights that will help you get past the relational dynamics that block fiscal fitness. It’s a great investment in your ‘us’ and financial health.”
—Ron L. Deal, bestselling family author, speaker, and therapist, coauthor of The Smart Stepfamily Guide to Financial Planning and Building Love Together in Blended Families
“Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn have done it again. Their newest research goes right to the core of a huge topic that every couple deals with—money—and why we respond the way we do. It is fascinating to suddenly understand our spouse’s motivations, wishes, and fears—and our own! No matter how much or how little money we have, this is exactly what we need in order to thrive. Both men and women will love this book!”
—Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, founder of Love & Respect Ministries and New York Times bestselling author of Love & Respect
“As marriage coaches, we know that what’s going on underneath the surface always fuels what’s above the surface. Handling money in marriage is no different. Couples will have so much more harmony once they understand their thoughts , feelings , and even fears about money. Before you develop another budget, take a financial class, or track your spending, READ THIS BOOK. You will be so surprised at what you learn about yourself and your spouse—and how simple it is to have a great relationship around money!”
—Jill and Mark Savage, founders of Hearts at Home and authors of No More Perfect Marriages
“Shaunti and Jeff’s skillful integration of research, relational understanding, and practical wisdom make this book a must-read for every couple. The insight and helpful prompts will be a game changer in your relationship!”
—Dr. Juli Slattery, cofounder, president, Authentic Intimacy
“Shaunti and Jeff have tackled such an important topic for relationships. This is a money book that has nothing to do with money, and everything to do with the heart.”
—Lysa TerKeurst, #1 New York Times bestselling author and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries
“In our work with married couples from all over the world, we’ve found that money issues rank near the top of the list of marriage stressors and causes of divorce. Our friends Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn have combined their unparalleled expertise with some eye-opening research data to write a book that will undoubtedly help countless couples avoid the common money pitfalls in many marriages. Thriving in Love and Money will equip you and your spouse with the tools to simultaneously improve your finances, your communication, and your marriage as a whole. Every couple (including us) would benefit from implementing the truths outlined in this book!”
—Dave and Ashley Willis, authors of The Naked Marriage , hosts of The Naked Marriage Podcast , and speakers for MarriageToday
Half Title Page
Other Nonfiction Books and Resources by Shaunti Feldhahn and/or Jeff Feldhahn
Thriving in Love and Money Discussion Guide
Thriving in Love and Money Discussion Kit
For Women Only: What You Need to Know
about the Inner Lives of Men
For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide
to the Inner Lives of Women
For Young Men Only: A Guy’s Guide to the Alien Gender
(coauthored with Eric Rice)
For Young Women Only: What You Need to Know about How Guys Think (coauthored with Lisa Rice)
For Parents Only: Getting Inside the Head of Your Kid (coauthored with Lisa Rice)
3-in-1 For Women Only, For Men Only, For Couples Only DVD Study
Through a Man’s Eyes: Helping Women Understand the Visual Nature of Men (coauthored with Craig Gross)
For Women Only in the Workplace
The Male Factor
The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages
The Good News about Marriage (with Tally Whitehead)
The Kindness Challenge
The Life Ready Woman (coauthored with Robert Lewis)
Made to Crave for Young Women (coauthored with Lysa TerKeurst)
Devotionals and Bible Studies by Shaunti Feldhahn
Find Rest: A Women’s Devotional for Lasting Peace in a Busy Life
Find Peace: A 40-Day Devotional Journey for Moms
Find Balance: Thriving in a Do-It-All World
Fiction Books by Shaunti Feldhahn
The Veritas Conflict
The Lights on Tenth Street
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© 2020 by Veritas Enterprises, Inc.
Published by Bethany House Publishers
11400 Hampshire Avenue South
Bloomington, Minnesota 55438
www.bethanyhouse.com
Bethany House Publishers is a division of
Baker Publishing Group, Grand Rapids, Michigan
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Ebook edition created 2020
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ISBN 978-1-4934-2302-6
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Authors are represented by Calvin W. Edwards.
Research Team
Contents
Cover 1
Endorsements 2
Half Title Page 5
Other Nonfiction Books and Resources by Shaunti Feldhahn and/or Jeff Feldhahn 6
Title Page 7
Copyright Page 8
Research Team 9
1. It’s Not About the Money 13
How we woke up to what really matters—and you can too
2. A Daily Problem, a Simple Solution 29
Why talk may be cheap—but is also the most valuable thing you can do
3. Can’t Buy Me Love 49
Why my reasonable wants and your ridiculous wants often leave us wanting
4. Things That Go Bump in the Night 79
How we use money to fight our fears and worries—and end up spooking our partner instead
5. Show Me the Money—and Then Let Me Handle It 123
Why our tendency toward independence may not be so liberating after all
6. What We Have Here Is a Failure to Communicate 157
How different ways of thinking and listening cause conflict instead of connection
7. I’m Right, You’re Wrong, What’s the Problem? 189
How our knee-jerk reactions keep us from seeing the truth
8. The Best Return 221
How your investment in understanding will pay off
Acknowledgments 231
A Love and Money Conversation Model 237
Appendixes by Dr. Charles Cowan, published online at www.shaunti. com/research:
Appendix 1: Methodology: How We Did the Research 241
Appendix 2: A First Look at What Most Prevents Money Tensions 243
Notes 245
Back Ads 252
Back Cover 254
1 It’s Not About the Money
How we woke up to what really matters—and you can too
I listened in disbelief to the voice on the other end of the phone.
“As you know, money can cause a lot of issues in marriage, but we don’t believe it has to. How would you feel about making this your next research study—and us funding it?”
Three thoughts jumped immediately to mind:
Is this a trick question?!
Wow, God, you’re amazing!
But then . . .
Oh NO.
You see, money was the last big area where Jeff and I were not on the same page. Over the years, as we had investigated and uncovered crucial truths that help relationships thrive, we had absorbed all that knowledge into our own marriage. It had been game-changing.
Except we had never studied money.
And I wasn’t sure I wanted to.
But this out-of-the-blue phone call was a pretty strong signal that we were supposed to.
Thinking About This Part of Life in a Whole New Way
Before we go further, let’s explain what this little book is about, who we are, and the research process that got us here.
Our names are Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn, and we’re going to share what we’ve discovered about how to thrive when dealing with money in marriage (or any romantic relationship, really). These pages won’t focus on the usual technical financial stuff—there are already great resources out there on investment advice, how to create a budget, and the best ways to tackle debt.
Those things are important. But you can make great investments, create a budget, have no debt . . . and still have tension about money! You can s