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When you experience a loss that changes everything, grief is only the beginning. Mourning for the life you once knew is a long and important process--but where do you go from there? Rebecca Hayford Bauer's loss was the death of her husband in 2003, but we all face loss of one kind or another. In Life After Grief, she shares her personal story of loss, grief and healing, and invites you to walk with her into the hope and uncertainty of new life. Each chapter asks one important question every grieving person faces on the road to healing, such as: • How do I view God? • Will I still trust? • Who am I now? • Who are my friends? • Will I dream again? Your life will never be the same . . . but there is still life to be lived. You can learn to live your new normal, grasping God's hand for dear life and trusting Him to guide you into the future.

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Publié par	Baker Publishing Group
Date de parution	13 février 2014
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781441267979
Langue	English
Poids de l'ouvrage	1 Mo

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PRAISE FOR
LIFE AFTER GRIEF

I am so grateful to Rebecca for sharing this heartfelt, life-giving resource. These pages are full of surprising lessons, wisdom and deeper understanding of God’s care and promises learned during the loss of her wonderful husband Scott. In whatever way loss comes and “life never looks the same again,” the reader will gain strength for the journey, hope and fresh vitality to once again flourish in life.
Catherine Hart Weber, Ph.D.
Counselor, Life Coach, Teacher
Author, Flourish: Discover Vibrant Living
As a pastor who has ministered to innumerable, but individually precious people pierced with grief, it is with practical as well as personal joy to witness the publication of Rebecca Bauer’s Life Beyond Grief —foremost, because it unfolds a practical pathway of hope and comfort which will bring healing to any who grieve the passing of a loved one. And personally , it is meaning filled because I observed the author living through the sudden loss of her husband.
More than an intense story, here is the graciously sensitive, helpfully comforting and spiritually discerning outcome. It frames a work which my pastoral sense tells me will become a source of stabilizing hope born of God-given wisdom.
Dr. Jack W. Hayford
Chancellor, The King’s University
Life After Grief is refreshing, authentic, and will speak to the hearts of readers. Rebecca’s husband’s death—10 years ago now—was a profound event in her life. With this powerful “credential,” she writes with clear understanding, dividing her thoughts into instructive categories: choices, wrestling, lessons and application. The experiences she shares from her own journey are focused, insightful and practical, and this book is filled with concrete tips for not only surviving the road of mourning, but thriving along the way. In Life After Grief , readers will find comfort, direction and support as they travel their own journey through grief.
Ray Mitsch
Author, Grieving the Loss of Someone You Love
The Hayford family has been dear to me for many years, and Rebecca’s story is close to my heart. As she shares how the sudden loss of her husband changed her life, she conveys a very emotional subject with grace, honesty and practicality. If you’ve experienced grief on any level or are trying to support someone who’s going through a difficult time, Life After Grief is for you.
Robert Morris
Founding Senior Pastor, Gateway Church
Bestselling Author, The Blessed Life, From Dream to Destiny and The God I Never Knew
LIFE AFTER GRIEF

2014 Rebecca Hayford Bauer
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To “The Sisterhood”
There are many sisters in the Body of Christ who faithfully walked my journey with me, and I am forever thankful to all of you. There were also many brothers who prayed me through. But it was the sisters who walked me through and talked me through—for almost five years—while I learned who I was in this new life I had stepped into. I can never thank you enough, and you will recognize your part in my story as you read through this book. All of our stories are here!
There are two, however, whom I wish to specifically name:
To my sister, Christa: Thank you for always being there. You were my rock. You brought prayer, support, light and laughter (and occasionally chocolate!) while I walked a very dark journey .
To my sister-in-law, Cathy: You walked the journey of loss long before I did. Thank you for being an example of how to graciously walk the road. Your encouragement forward by word and example has been invaluable .
CONTENTS
Foreword by James and Betty Robison
PART 1—BEGINNING THE JOURNEY: HOW TO USE THIS BOOK
1. The First Choice
Choices: The First Choice
Wrestling: Enlarging Definitions
Lesson: Three Stages of Grief
Application: A Word to the Comforters
PART 2—SURVIVAL: LIVING IN EMOTIONAL INTENSIVE CARE
2. How Do I View God?
Choices: How Do I View God?
Wrestling: What Does the Bible Say About Loss?
Lesson: We Have a Choice
Application: Taking Stock of Stress
Interaction: Photo Album
3. Where Will I Build?
Choices: Where Will I Build?
Wrestling: Living in the Cocoon
Lesson: Dealing with Depression
Application: Building the Foundation
Interaction: The Grid and the Goal
4. Will I Still Trust?
Choices: Will I Still Trust?
Wrestling: Secret Things
Lesson: His Presence and His Voice
Application: Finances
Interaction: What’s Meaningful for You?
PART 3—THE HARD WORK OF GRIEF: WALKING THROUGH THE TUNNEL
5. What Will I Say?
Choices: What Will I Say?
Wrestling: What Does Suffering Accomplish?
Lesson: Grief Is My Job
Application: What’s in Your Heart?
Interaction: The Challenge of Celebrations
6. Who Am I Now?
Choices: Who Am I Now?
Wrestling: Lazarus
Lesson: I Am Complete in Him
Application: Wedding Rings
Interaction: Redefinition
7. Who Are My Friends?
Choices: Who Are My Friends?
Wrestling: Job’s Friends
Lesson: A Soft Heart in a Hard World
Application: Setting Parameters
Interaction: Building a Support System
PART 4—BUILDING A NEW LIFE: STEPPING INTO THE LIGHT
8. What Will I Keep?
Choices: What Will I Keep?
Wrestling: Reaching Forward
Lesson: Letting Go—How Do You Become “Not Married”?
Application: Dealing with the Stuff, Part 1
Interaction: Dealing with the Stuff, Part 2
9. Will I Dream Again?
Choices: Will I Dream Again?
Wrestling: As Good As It Once Was
Lesson: Learning to Dream Again
Application: Taking Risks
Interaction: What Do I Want My New Life to Look Like?
PART 5—THE COLORS OF GRACE
10. New Things
Choices: New Things
Interaction: See How Far You’ve Come!
Conclusion: The Gifts of Grief
FOREWORD
On December 28, 2012, our youngest child Robin stepped into the presence of Jesus after fiercely battling cancer for several years. Throughout her journey we continually sought answers, prayed fervently and believed God for her healing. We were heartbroken, though we know she experienced the ultimate healing. There truly is no way to describe this kind of heartache. But for the grace and mercy of our heavenly Father and the loving support of family and friends, we would not have been able to stand the pain of it.
Rebecca Bauer’s dad, Pastor Jack Hayford, was one of the first friends to reach out to us with prayer and comfort. He knew the journey we were experiencing and shared with us a beautiful vision he had of Robin’s entrance into heaven.
In October 2003, Jack’s son-in-law (Rebecca’s husband, Scott) died of a brain aneurysm. Scott and Rebecca were pastoring The Church on the Way at the time, so Rebecca’s work and living situation changed immediately. At the same time, all of her children were getting married, so within a three-year period, her house was completely emptied.
Rebecca beautifully outlines her journey through the “valley of the shadow of death” (see Ps. 23:4). This book will be a wonderful, practical help to anyone who has experienced the loss of a loved one, a marriage, a business or a dream. When does the grieving end? How can you get through it? Where do you even start?
You might be asking, “Where is God in my situation?” We can quickly answer: He is with you. He is holding your heart and will continue to as long as you have breath. In Jesus’ first message in the synagogue, we find great comfort in the words He quoted from Isaiah: “He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted” (see Isa. 61:1; Luke 4:18). Indeed, He does . . . and we join Rebecca, seeking to do the same.
In the year since our daughter’s passing, we have learned that when your heart is broken beyond anything you could ever imagine, only a miracle of God can bring the necessary healing. Just as with the physical healing of broken bones or bleeding wounds, it is a process that requires time, the balm of Gilead and the healing oil that only the Holy Spirit can provide.
These words from Lamentations are still relevant today: “Surely my soul remembers and is bowed down within me. This I recall to my mind, Therefore I have hope. The L ORD ’ S lovingkindnesses indeed never cease, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; Great is Your faithfulness” (Lam. 3:20-23, NASB ).
Whatever difficulty you are facing, remember: God promises He will never leave you or forsake