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Too often our friendships with other women can be marked by drama, competition, betrayal, and unforgiveness. As women, we can cause one another deep pain, creating wounds in need of healing. But we were made for connection and healthy friendships with other women to cheer each other on and fulfill our God-breathed purpose--together.Through vulnerable personal stories laden with joy, heartache, mistakes, and lessons learned, Andi invites you on a journey of navigating the complications that can come in friendships with other women. With practical and biblical applications throughout, this book will empower you to do the work by first facing yourself and untangling the mess, then seeking reconciliation for genuine connection, and building authentic friendships, even when it's been painful or complicated in the past.

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Publié par	Baker Publishing Group
Date de parution	05 octobre 2021
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781493432820
Langue	English

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Endorsements
“Friendships between women can range from a sisterhood that strengthens the soul to a battleground that leaves us scarred and anything in between. Though we value deep friendships, we’ve been hurt enough to be jaded. Instead, we stay friendly but distant, trying to avoid the drama. Andi Andrew gets it, but she also understands that our distance holds us back from meaningful relationships. And that’s where this book comes in. In Friendship— It’ s Complicated , Andi directly addresses the problems and pain we face in our friendships. Then drawing on biblical insights and personal stories, she offers practical, hard-won wisdom and tools to face our wounds, heal, and learn to build friendships with power and purpose. If you’re looking to build healthy friendships, get this book and apply it to your life. Because, as Andi says, ‘Friendships are worth the fight,’ and they will transform your life.”
Jo Saxton, leadership coach, speaker, author of Ready to Rise
“Andi Andrew is a powerful leader in the church today, and this book is an example of why. She is truly a master of leading with vulnerability. Reading this book is like sitting down for coffee and having your tenderest friendship wounds feel seen. This message will counsel, console, and commission all who read it; of that I have no doubt.”
Sharon Hodde Miller, author of Nice
“Let’s be real: friendships can be funky! Our friend-guide Andi walks us through the healing process to get from hurting to healthy boundaries in all our relationships. Not only does Andi write about friendships, she is a great friend who lives out these words with conviction.”
Bianca Juarez Olthoff, pastor, teacher, and bestselling author of How to Have Your Life Not Suck
“All the wounds we all carry and skewed perceptions we have of what our relationships could and should be like can get ‘complicated.’ In Andi’s book Friendship— It’ s Complicated , she masterfully taps into our basic human need for connection and authenticity and challenges us to be the friends we are looking to have. Andi teaches us what it practically looks like to face our past wounds and take extreme ownership of the part we play in our own fulfillment and happiness in our relationships. She inspires us to get honest about cycles and belief systems that keep us bound in dysfunction, isolation, and loneliness, which is the opposite of God’s original intent for our lives. Andi gives us hope that we can heal, rebuild, restore, and create a new way of connecting with ourselves and others in a healthy way. By taking this journey with her, you will be sure to experience something new, fresh, and life-giving in your friendships no matter your age or season of life.”
Irene Rollins, pastor, speaker, author, and recovery activist
“All I can say is ‘WOW!’ I could not put this book down, simply because I’ve never read a book like it before. The honesty combined with transparency, vulnerability, and raw emotion bleeds through every page and will absolutely pierce through the deepest recesses of your soul. Andi’s journey is our journey in one way, shape, or form, yet God has seen fit to anoint her so that through her personal experience, she has been able to brilliantly tackle this very complex issue and thus propel us to courageously venture out of our caves of self-pity, face our fears, and take on the challenge once again to have genuine friendships, which are so desperately needed in all our lives. This book is for every woman!”
Maria Durso, copastor, Overseer Saints Church
“It’s not easy finding friends who are for you and who want to build with you. I’m so grateful that Andi is addressing this topic on friendships. Many friendships are fake, and you can often tell from the moment you meet someone if they are interested in forming a relationship with you or if they are using you to their advantage. How do we learn to take risks in building friendships that could be the real deal and that will last a lifetime? Through Andi’s experiences, she reveals truths about why we need to first become a better friend if we desire more authentic friendships.”
Lisa Kai, senior pastor, Inspire Church
“Once again, Andi delivers a helpful, honest resource for women. Friendship is a lifeline, but wounds from the past, like rejection, betrayal, comparison, and insecurity, hinder authentic connections with others. Through storytelling, Scripture, and humor, Andi will help you reflect, recover, and heal so that you can experience meaningful, reciprocal relationships with others.”
Ashley Abercrombie, author of Rise of the Truth Teller and Love Is the Resistance , cohost of the Why Tho Podcast
“I am not exaggerating when I say I ugly cried like a ’90s Claire Danes as I read these pages. I am also not exaggerating when I say Andi Andrew lives and breathes every bit of this book and its subject matter. So, get ready; you’re about to sit through a clinic on friendship, overcoming, and how to see and love people. If you allow Andi’s words and wisdom to wash over you, you’ll leave these pages changed. I know this firsthand because I did.”
Chari Orozco, author, speaker, showrunner at AWKNG+TV
Title Page
Copyright Page
© 2021 by Andi Andrew
Published by Baker Books
a division of Baker Publishing Group
PO Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
www.bakerbooks.com
Ebook edition created 2021
Ebook corrections 10.05.2022
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—for example, electronic, photocopy, recording—without the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is on file at the Library of Congress, Washington, DC.
ISBN 978-1-4934-3282-0
Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations are from THE HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®, NIV® Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.
Scripture quotations labeled CSB have been taken from the Christian Standard Bible®, copyright © 2017 by Holman Bible Publishers. Used by permission. Christian Standard Bible® and CSB® are federally registered trademarks of Holman Bible Publishers.
Scripture quotations labeled ESV are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version® (ESV®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. ESV Text Edition: 2016
Scripture quotations labeled GNT are from the Good News Translation in Today’s English Version-Second Edition. Copyright © 1992 by American Bible Society. Used by permission.
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Dedication
To my beautiful mother, Mavis: We fought hard for this. Thank you for being committed to genuine connection and reconciliation, no matter how painful, no matter the cost. You have taught me never to give up.
To al l the women ou t there longing for genuine friendship: Don’t lose heart. It’s worth the fight.
Contents
Cover
Endorsements 1
Title Page 5
Copyright Page 6
Dedication 7
Letter to the Reader 11
PART 1: FACING YOURSELF 15
1. The Woman Wound 17
2. On the Outside Looking In 33
3. Navigating Betrayal 49
4. The Truth about Self-Preservation 69
5. It’s Time to Break Up with Drama 87
PART 2: UNCOMPLICATING ALL THE THINGS 107
6. No, You Go First 109
7. Creating Authentic Connection—It Doesn’t Just Happen 127
8. Circles—No, Everyone Cannot and Should Not Be Your Best Friend 143
9. Unity in Our Diversity—Together Is Actually Better 161
10. Becoming Spiritual Midwives 181
Final Letter 201
Acknowledgments 205
Notes 213
Recommended Reads 215
About the Author 217
Back Ads 219
Back Cover 226
Letter to the Reader
Sister, friend, fellow woman longing to uncomplicate friendship,
I have come to the conclusion that relationships inform us and form us. And friendships of the female kind are in a league of their own.
Personally, believing I could even get to a place where I’d feel confident enough to write a book about friendship has been a long and winding road. I mean, are we ever really “there”? Maybe. Maybe not. Am I an expert? Far from it. I am completely imperfect in friendships and have learned much more than I’d like to admit through innumerable mistakes, gut-wrenching pain, heartache, betrayal, comparison, insecurity, fear, gossip, isolation, rejection, and drama. And, thank God , I have also learned from friends who have stuck around through the years (and, yes, my own personal drama). They’ve given me more grace and unceasing love than I’ve ever deserved, and their persistence and patience have healed me.
I’ve walked through a lot in friendships, good and bad, and since you’re holding this book in your hands, I’m sure you have too. Truth be told, I have had to walk away from some friendships for the right reasons, because ending them was necessary for my physical, mental, and emotional health. Other times, I’ve walked away for the wrong reasons: out of insecurity and fear—avoiding