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Do you want to better understand yourself, maximize your strengths, and improve your relationships? Understanding how we are wired can enrich our lives and our relationships, helping to overcome differences that can seem irreconcilable. Instead of terminating jobs, friendships, or marriage on grounds of incompatibility, it is possible to turn these relationships from dying to growing. For more than 25 years, Marita Littauer, with her mother, Florence Littauer, has helped thousands of men and women with their personal and professional relationships. In Wired That Way, Marita brings together in one book a comprehensive overview of the personality types that speaks to anyone who wants to understand and to be understood.

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Publié par	Baker Publishing Group
Date de parution	08 mai 2006
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781441225344
Langue	English

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WIRED THAT WAY

Accepting how I was wired changed my life. It freed me from my masks so that I could shine in the skin of my God-given personality. This book goes beyond a quick look at our built-in styles. It spotlights the bigger picture and teaches us the way to respond to others and revive our relationships. Sound and sensible, filled with engaging personal stories, Wired That Way is definitely a keeper. Prepare for dog-eared pages.
J AN C OLEMAN
S PEAKER AND A UTHOR , W OMAN B EHIND THE M ASK : T RADING Y OUR F ACADE FOR A UTHENTIC L IFE
What a relationship builder! Wired That Way equips readers to understand that we are all wired differently, giving us a new understanding for our mates, children and friends. Marita Littauer takes the guesswork out of the thought process behind actions and encourages us to love those around us just the way God made them.
L INDA G ILDEN
A UTHOR OF THE L OVE N OTES S ERIES : L OVE N OTES IN L UNCHBOXES AND L OVE N OTES ON H IS P ILLOW
Marita Littauer has done it again! She has tuned in to what we really need to know and understand about ourselves and others and has then translated that information into a practical, reader-friendly format that will educate, enlighten and encourage us to fulfill God’s purposes for our lives. Wired That Way will free us to be all that God created us to be and to graciously allow others to do the same. This book is a reminder that God has already gifted us to fulfill what He has called us to do and that when we operate accordingly, the Body of Christ will function in unity and power.
K ATHI M ACIAS
A UTHOR , THE M ATTHEWS AND M ATTHEWS D ETECTIVE N OVELS : O BSESSION , T HE P RICE AND T HE R ANSOM
A great resource! Wired That Way will help you learn to connect with people more effectively on personal, social and professional levels. You might even learn something about yourself in the process!
C YNDY S ALZMANN
N ATIONAL S PEAKER A UTHOR , D YING TO D ECORATE! AND B EYOND G ROUNDHOGS AND G OBBLERS

© 2006 Marita Littauer
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Revell edition published 2014
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Dedication
This book could not have been written without my mother pouring everything she knows about the Personalities into me. Together, we have studied the Personalities for nearly 40 years. My mother has given me the freedom to take this topic into entirely new realms. We now have Certified Personality Trainers in many countries—including, of course, the United States— who are taking the message to the masses.
This book brings together both the basic teaching on the Personalities that we have been sharing for years and the newer developments that have come about through the impact of our audiences’ questions and the insights of our Certified Personality Trainers—many of whom you will hear from throughout these pages.
Thanks Mom. I hope I do you proud.
Contents
Chapter 1 Foundation and Background
Chapter 2 Visible Clues
Chapter 3 Strengths and Weaknesses
Chapter 4 Personality Blends
Chapter 5 Emotional Needs
Chapter 6 Marriage
Chapter 7 Parenting
Chapter 8 Communication
Chapter 9 Workplace
Chapter 10 Spiritual Life
Acknowledgments
Thank you to my online reading group and my Certified Personality Trainers, who eagerly read each chapter in its roughest form, critiqued and commented, and added their stories, thus enriching the text and illustrating the points I was making. I appreciate each of you!
FOUNDATION AND BACKGROUN

Have you ever noticed that there are people out there who are different from you? Perhaps you live with them. Maybe you work with them. But chances are that you have noticed differences and you have wished that you could change those people. You may have even gone so far as to try to “fix” them by suggesting that their way of thinking, attitude and approach to life should be more like your own. But these attempts usually end in futility and frustration. Those people’s differences just seem to be hardwired into their Personality.
As you think about those people whom you may have tried to change (and as you reflect on your own personal growth), I want you to consider Romans 12:18: “If it is possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with everyone.” I love how this verse is presented in three parts. The first part says, “if it is possible.” It is as if God is giving us a disclaimer—as if He is saying that this is a goal we should try to reach. The second part says, “so far as it depends on you,” making this our individual responsibility to—the last part—“be at peace with everyone.”
If this verse simply said, “be at peace with everyone,” it would be impossible for us to live out this teaching. We all have had situations with people in which we have tried everything we know how to do to get along with them, but nothing seems to work. No matter how hard we try, we cannot change those individuals. However, as this verse in Romans suggests, we can change ourselves—we can grow and improve. We can also change our approach to others so that we can, so far as it depends on us, be at peace with everyone.
Once we give up trying to change the people in our life—and accept that they are just wired that way—we can begin to understand others and improve our relationships with them. Likewise, when we are able to grasp the way we are wired, we can use that knowledge to grow beyond our natural tendencies and become better and more balanced individuals.
Personality: Learned or Inherited?
While each person is wired differently, there are many similarities that allow people to be grouped into general categories. The study of these differences and their interrelationship is known as “the Personalities.”
A recent article in Life magazine stated that “Studies of twins and advances in molecular biology have uncovered a more significant genetic component to personality than was previously known.” 1 Researchers have spent countless hours and dollars on studies in order to determine where our personalities come from. These researchers are now beginning to grasp what any parent or teacher will tell you: We all come with our own Personality, determined before birth within our individual genetic makeup. Environment plays a role in how that Personality is shaped, but the basics are predetermined.
I once met with a group of preschool directors and asked them if they had ever had several siblings go through their schools. Of course, the answer was yes. I then asked them to consider the fact that each of these children had the same parents, grew up in the same house, and went to the same church or preschool. Often, they wore the same clothes and slept in the same room as their siblings. But were they just like each other? The answer was a resounding no!
Despite having virtually the same environment, these siblings each had their own distinct Personality. Some were incessant talkers who liked to be the focal point and whom others wanted to emulate. Others were born leaders and liked to tell the other little children what to do and when to do it—these children would take over the class if the teacher let them. Others were more reserved and quiet, afraid to get messy, and avoided projects like finger painting in favor of tidy, methodical activities like building blocks or reading. Other quiet children were content with any activity and easily went along with the program, rarely initiating any ideas of their own.
These same patterns follow us throughout our lives. They are inborn Personality traits—the way we are wired.
It’s All Greek to Me . . .
The study of inborn Personality traits is not a new science. During the golden age of Greece (around 400 B.C.), renowned Greek thinkers studied and philosophized about life and the universe. One of the areas that especially aroused their curiosity was the study of the differing natures of people. Just like the group of preschool directors that I met with—and probably just like you—they noticed that people are different.

GRAN